Guys, does female nudity and sex on TV and in movies affect the way you think about your girlfriend/wife/SO? Is female nudity even a big deal for you?

[Anonymous]

So I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over four years now. We have an amazing relationship, truly, and I can't tell you how great he is. The one issue that has stood throughout our whole relationship is that I feel very insecure with him seeing sex and nudity on TV and movies.

Female nudity is literally everywhere, and I'm not a prude. I also am aware and realistic with the fact that he for sure finds other women attractive the same way I find other men attractive. That said, male nudity truly does not turn me on at all, unless it's right there in front of me with someone I love. I know men tend to be more visually stimulated however. I can't realistically assume that he doesn't get any viewing pleasure from seeing a women naked or half-naked in a TV show or movie. He may even find them more attractive than me (which is hard to swallow, but it's just a fact.)

My boyfriend and I want to watch Game of Thrones, but I am sick thinking about the consistent female nudity and sex there is. I can swallow and boob-flash or 20-second sex scene. I just can't help but think though that these extensive sex scenes are just getting him off and that he could be dissatisfied with me or something. We have had a mature, open conversation about it where I expressed that I want to watch the show but am very uncomfortable and jealous of all the nudity and the possibility he's just going to be aroused the whole time by other women. I know it is so natural, but it does hurt to think about. He says that no matter what he sees, whether he finds it hot or not, it just isn't a big deal to him and that at the end of the day the person he finds most sexy and attractive is me [especially] because we have an amazing relationship. I believe and trust him, but I still feel so insecure and uncomfortable about it. Do I need to be worried or feel threatened? Is this how most of you guys feel too?

Apologies for the terribly long post!

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I also want to add that I'm aware I'm not the most secure with myself though I know I am good looking, but my boyfriend is so respectful of me, and he definitely thinks and communicates with me that he finds me the most sexy and beautiful to him. So there's no outlying behaviors of his that should make me feel this way.

[Gedaria]

For me no but I was watching a film one night and the youngest daughter came down stairs , she couldn't sleep. So she made us a cup of tea and cuddled up on sofa , half watching , half chatting. When from no where this sex scene came on this lass fully naked being tackled by this old guy. It stopped our chat dead. OH that looks interesting she said. do you like watching that. I said not really I didn't know it had sex in this film. So I turned it off , to my surprise she what you do that for I was enjoying that. NOT AT 17 , DAD do be old fashioned I've seen worse than that. I said where on MELs computer , my oldest daughter. Do you like watching porn , a little , the real thing is better. WHAT, Here me trying to keep this side of life from you and are doing it any way. Sorry dad, kisses me and goes back to bed. …...

[Asker]

Haha, well there you go.

[Gedaria]

I love my girls but as they get older , they are always surprising me. Its quite interesting living with them …..

[Anonymous]

completely insignificant.
At no point do males compare their partners to women online, on tv, or anywhere else.

[markscott]

There is no reason why you should like your boyfriend or husband looking at nude women. Men much more visually stimulated that are most women, and they do certainly have an attraction to a woman who shows off her naked body for a period of time.

[Anonymous]

Lol don’t worry about it, yes he finds those women attractive in tv and no he isn’t comparing their body to yours, I could look at naked pictures all day and it wouldn’t change the way I looked at my girlfriend (when i still had one)

[Asker]

Gotcha gotcha. I honestly believe this is how he feels, but it's good to get some validation from another guy too. I'm not one of those crazy girls who expects or even wants my boyfriend to think I'm the only attractive girl (that's just not healthy for anyone), but I guess I feel threatened by the fact the show seems a little more like softcore porn, not just a photo or glimpse of something, and may obviously like what he sees. I don't know. I'm over analyzing for sure, hahaha.

[MackToday]

At one time "sex scenes" weren't on TV. That filth came much later. I only watch old 50's shows for the most part. They have kissing scenes but you'd never see the porn you see in movies and TV now. And sometimes it's abnormal between two men or two women. Sick depraved filth right out there for public viewing even by children.

[SiberFox]

If I had one it wouldn't affect it no, if it did porn would fuck me up big time.

[Asker]

Well that's good to know it wouldn't affect the way you look at her (and I'm assuming your satisfaction?). And I'm confused on the last part, haha. Are you saying if you watched porn it would fuck you up? lol

[SiberFox]

Visual Satisfatction? I mean I'm visual yeah but if I'm with a girl chances are I'm satisfied by the way she looks. As for the porn that's just a comparison stating that if I were to be affected by nudity on screen and elevate my standards than the wide array of pornography that is available would make it difficult for any girl to compete with.

[hhH2traveler]

Thats how i feel to, just like you and him, I like seeing attractive women on screen, but I dont get sexually aroused by it. Its like seeing a painting or seeing a nude body but not expecting it in the show, its not personal or anything. It might look good but its not personal enough, you have to work to have it feel personal, like in porn. But porn is a much more extreme example of that then normal movies, normal movies are of course much less sexual than porn.

[Massageman]

You will have to stick to movies made between 1930 and 1968 when the "movie coed" (aka the Hays Code) was around to keep the movies more tame. In the mid-late 60s, it was obvious that the code was no longer helping and was abandoned for the rating systems. But I digress - no, it doesn't change how I think about them, only about how the makers of the movies don;t care as mush about quality product any more.

[Anonymous]

You need to get over your insecurity. That's all in the world this is about. This is your problem to solve.

[Asker]

I do agree much (or all) of these feelings come from insecurity (as mentioned). I was curious to hear other men's opinions though of what they really think since I'm not obviously attached to anyone here so no one is in fear of hurting my feelings haha.

[Guanfei]

I don't care much. It's nice to watch but that's it.

[Asker]

For sure. So it's more just like, "oh, there's some more tits and ass frolicking around" and that's it? Lol

[Guanfei]

Pretty much. The people I see on TV are nothing to me. So, the view is nice, but that's it.

[Asker]

Cool cool. Thanks for responding! :)

[TheSpartan]

I always fast forward through nude and/or sex scenes. I don’t need to see that filth.

[Asker]

Haha, I'm assuming you are a rare breed. My boyfriend stands by, if it's relevant to the film then big whoop. If not, then it is unnecessary.

[TheSpartan]

Lol thanks.

If it’s absolutely relevant to the plot, then I’ll watch through it. Otherwise, if it’s just glamour, then I fast forward.

[Asker]

Makes sense! :)

[TheSpartan]

Have you told him about this problem?

[Asker]

Oh yes! We've definitely talked about it and I can see he defitniely wants to watch the show more because of the plot and his family and friends all watch and rave about it, definitely not for the sex. He was really understanding about how I felt and reassured me that it's all not even a thing for him and it's just the show. He was really sensitive about it! So I definitely think we're good in that department. I am more just interested in finding out like if there is any reason to feel threatened? Like obviously guys will most likely like what they see on some level, but other than just being like "wow, that's a pretty, naked girl," does it not really phase them? I've read so much about guys just saying they can't get through the show without jerking off. Don't know where these guys have come from, but it doesn't seem like it's entirely the case I'm assuming?

[thechesseman]

This only effects you. He really doesn't care.