So my boyfriend of 15 months and I were going to a party, and he wanted to buy me a new dress. I told him that I didn't need anything new, and I didn't feel comfortable with him buying me clothes for no reason. He then flipped out and told me "it's not about you, it's about me." When I asked him to elaborate he said that I'm never willing to accept anything from him, and it makes him wonder if I am as serious about marrying him as I think I am...what? Where did he get all that from the fact that I don't want him wasting $$$ on clothes that I don't need?
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You are a smart and practical girl, and I'm sure he appreciates that in many other ways, but in this case, he wasn't buying you a dress because he thought you needed one, he was buying it becasue he wanted to show you how much he cared about you and how much he wanted to make you happy.
You rejected his gift with the best of intentions, but you still rejected it, and he's hurt by that. As long as he can afford to buy you something occasionally, and isn't going into debt or spending a stupid amount of money, it's okay. Accept those occasional gifts graciously and thankfully, and be practical in other ways. That's win-win.2