Hey. I know I'm not a lady, but I've studied bodybuilding since I was a freshman in college in 1998. I didn't see my first bodybuilder ever, in person or otherwise, until I got my first magazine of FLEX in 1998. I studied and studied. Nutrition and lifts and way too much emphasis on supplements. I was always fascinated by the way these guys can get so huge and yet I never gained very much muscle at all. It's only this year that I finally got enough motivation to start lifting hardcore and I won't be in a "position" to really dedicate myself to it until I go away to school again this August.
I'm sure you know there's a difference between powerlifting and bodybuilding. Some bodybuilders are powerlifters and sure, powerlifters have to beef up, but it's not true bodybuilding.
Every woman, and man for that matter, that I've ever met in my life besides one guy, just one guy in the past 14 years thought that these guys were way too big and looked gross. I, myself, am heterosexual. I find nothing appealing sexually about big guys. It's an art form. Like ballet or any other sport, although most people don't consider bodybuilding a sport and I can't think of anyone that considers ballet a sport either. Bodybuilding is more of a form of art whereas powerlifting is more of a sport. Powerlifting they have in the Olympics, not bodybuilding.
You got to think about yourself in this respect. Are you getting big for yourself? Or are you getting big for the ladies? There are women out there that like big guys, but usually they're fitness amateurs or competitors themselves that understand it all. I'm not questioning your motive for getting big. But if you're doing it already or want to do it, do it for you and you alone. There's a saying: "Weights before dates." It doesn't mean bodybuilding comes before women. But someone will fall or already has fallen for you because you are you. It has nothing to do with how beefed up you are.
Who's your favorite bodybuilder? Mine was Gunter Schlierkamp even though he's no longer competing. He's never admitted to whether he used steroids or not, but honestly I appreciate the guys that can get big without roids and hormones. Every bodybuilder uses supplements. Even protein powder is considered a supplement, as I'm sure you know.
Just stay cool, stay strong, and do it for you. Worry about what other people think, women especially, when or if you've already gotten to the point where you're at your goal size or you've plateaued and can't get any bigger without turning to sports enhancing illegal drugs.