Now here I see all these girls with all these "bad guys"... And I don't understand why they're attracted to them and all the BS drama that comes with it.
"Oh its so exciting!" Well... wouldn't being in a happy relationship with a "good guy" be more exciting? To know that things are going great all the time and that the girl is loved and doesn't have to wonder?
I know that's how I approach relationships, despite ever being in one... :( The girl I'm with WILL be loved and appreciated all the time. She won't have to wonder how I really feel about her. And I will NOT ever pull some lame move like cheat on her or whatever. No drama. I just want to be happy and I want my Girlfriend to be happy.
Also this sucks about being the nice guy... I've totally fallen for this amazing girl, but she's gotten with another guy and here I am left in the dust. I expressed interest in her, it was taken well it seemed.
But she's with another guy and sometimes I just wonder, why? It's not that he doesn't treat her well, but its just the decisions he makes aren't smart exactly and I just wonder what is so attractive about him to her that wasn't attractive about me. It makes me wonder what's wrong with me... And I know that this guy is NOT for her, yet she's with him and I know that I'd be a great guy for her.
I've never really wanted to date until I met this girl and I'm 19. I've just found someone that I really like for all the right reasons and that gives me that special feeling inside. Something I've never had before. But it's like being an all-round "good guy" never gets me anywhere in life.
Girls: What is it that is so unattractive about guys like me? I'm not too forward with being interested in someone, but I do drop pretty clear hints from time to time. It's not that I'm bad looking or anything. It's like right away though, girls sense that I'm not a "bad boy" and don't give me any attention whatsoever. I don't give off that "bad-vibe" I guess.
Why does being "good" have such "bad" consequences? It's not in me to be a "bad" person, nor would I be just for the sake of getting a date, but how do I attract girls given the info I've shared? It sucks knowing that you're a great guy and you'd be a great Boyfriend to any girl that would go out with me, but I just can't get a date.
What do I need to do? I'm sick of being left in the dust, but I take pride in being the kind of guy I am, and I'm not gonna change for the sake of getting a date.
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