How do you make your crush like you?

[Anonymous]

well I have this crush and we barely talk in school. How can I make him like me?

[markml]

It largely depends upon what the guy you have a crush on is like.

Without more details, I can only speak in terms of general theoretical principles. The two main factors involved in a guy liking you, which you have some control over, are curiosity and ego.

Imagine you're trying to start a fire. Curiosity is the match and ego is the fuel. You have to first spark his curiosity, because that's what's going to get him thinking about you. Curiosity is based upon him noticing you but still not knowing you too well. Since you two barely speak to each other, it's clear that he doesn't know you too well so the only question is if he notices you or not? To get him to notice you, you have to do something or he has to hear something about you that stands out to him...something he doesn't see or hear everyday. For instance, if he learns somehow that you might have a crush on him, this will probably make him curious since it's not every day that a guy learns that. A good reason not to keep your crush too much of a secret (although you don't want him to know for sure yet).

Now, the way to a guy's heart is through his ego. That's the basic principle of seduction, but to effectively seduce someone you have to really understand what makes them tick, so you know what you can use to stroke the flames of their ego. Flattery works with a lot of male egos. There's direct flattery where you give him actual compliments, but even more potent than that is indirect flattery. That's where you say or do something that implies he should feel good about himself. Say for example that he's really good at basketball, and he hears you mention that basketball is your favorite sport...well that's indirect flattery.

Beyond flattery, the other important aspect of his ego is that you want him to think that you're special, that you're worth going for because he's not going to find another girl like you. You can't effectively do that if you're trying to copy all the other girls, so if you're trying to be like someone else you know then stop. Try to focus on figuring out what you have to offer and what he's looking for, and finding the intersection. Then make sure he sees that.

Hope this helps in some way. Remember that there's no guarantee about getting someone to like you, and that even if he does like you, he still may not speak to you because he might be shy.

[hey_babe123]

well you should just go up to him and talk to him...and once you guys get to know each other more...ask him to just hang out...but make sure it's just with the two of you...nobody else is there...and when you guys hang out and state into his eyes and smile...if he is anyway interested in you I can guarantee he'll make a move...good luck!

^^^this is at least the perfect way I could imagine a girl that likes me to do something:)

[musicgirl1189]

Unfortunately, you can't "make" anyone like you. If you want him to possibly become interested in you in that way, you need to get to know him. Try talking to him. Do you have any classes together? If so, you can always strike up conversation about that, and go from there. If not, try to find something in common you can talk about. It doesn't have to be a big thing, just something to get the conversation ball rolling.

Once you get to talk to him more, and know him as more than just what you think of him now, then you'll be able to see if pursuing a dating relationship would be a good thing, or if he's not quite what you've imagined him to be.

But honestly, if you even want a chance you need to be proactive. It may turn out that you don't even like this guy the way you thought you did. But if you never try talking to him and building a friendship, there's very little chance anything will work out. Trust me on that. I've had experience with it.

Good luck!

[pounce491]

Find out how to make Harry Potter true then go make a love potion. Voldemort's mommy can teach you how.

[bornloser]

Ha

[bornloser]

force yourself on him-only an idiot would not embrace your charms.

[bornloser]

you start the talking-sh*t I wish any chick would have a crush on me

[Starling]

You can't make anyone feel anything.

[TinyKatie]

find out what he like and hang out with him