Is it better to be blunt and ask a girl out or wait?

[dallozd]

Is it better to just ask a girl out by saying something like ''I think you're absolutely beautiful and you seem very interesting so, would you like to have coffee sometime?'' Or should I approach her slowly and wait till I know her better?

Thanks

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By the way, I've never spoken to her, she's in my class.

[pumpkinspice]

I have lots of experience and I'm trying to be honest and help you. You don't have to take my advice if you don't want to, but I like to help people and give advice, so that is what I am doing. :) Okay, honestly, I wouldn't mind if a guy asks me out and we never spoke before. That's just me though. :) Every girl is different. I have had guys ask me out on a date that I never spoke to before and never knew but like sat next to them in class or something and they asked me out and I said yes. Because I like to get to know guys if I find them interesting. I think you should be straightforward and blunt because that is the way I am but it is your choice really. Whatever you are comfortable with is what you should do. :) Or you could approach her slowly and get to know her better. Try flirting with her if you want. Maybe she already had a boyfriend or is dating someone else right now, I don't know. But you might be able to tell if you flirt with her to see if she flirts back or not. Take it easy, I wish you luck and don't worry, you'll do fine! Good luck. :)

[pumpkinspice]

I hope I was of help to you. I'm the same person who answered your other post on asking her out.

[dallozd]

Thanks lol I'll definitively try. Your advice was very valuable.

[pumpkinspice]

Oh, no problem. My pleasure. I'm glad you'll try my advice and I'm glad you found it helpful. :)

[steinberg201]

Just be yourself and ask her out there is no need to wait. You will have the opportunity to get to know her better, once you guys are having a cup of coffee or something similar. Just go ahead and do it, before someone else does it for you. Plus you have nothing to loose.

[madcat44]

I wouldn't mind at all :) except the beautiful part is a bit much for me but I wouldn't reject you either.

[pumpkinspice]

Really? Haha, I'm the total opposite of you girl! I LOVE the "beautiful" part! That's the best part. That's the part that makes me the happiest and most excited and more willing for me to say yes to him! Lol, I like it because I like to know if they guy finds me beautiful and for them to say it is so sweet, and caring and I like the compliment! Lol, but I respect that you feel differently about it, but if a guys asks me out and says he finds me beautiful, I LOVE that. :)

[madcat44]

It is a nice compliment but for me the word beautiful is a strong word...because for me beautiful is both the physical and emotional attraction but yea it is very flattering and I would probably be blushing lol

[dallozd]

Like you said, it really depends on the person, I'll try to see what kind of person she is and take a chance. Thank you both!

[pumpkinspice]

Oh girl, ya see that's where we differ. For me it's not really that strong of a word, that's why it doesn't make me feel uncomfortable at all. To me, it's just a very nice compliment that I would really appreciate hearing. :) Lol.

[pumpkinspice]

Yes you are right dallozd, as you can see, not all girls are the same, lol. Not all girls are the same and feel the same way about stuff. But I think that's smart that you should try to first find out what kind of a person she is. Not all girls are the same, as you just can see that right now with me and madcat44. :) Hehe. But life's all about chances and go with you're gut instinct. =)

[Anonymous]

A mix of both, if you meet someone on the street then you can say "hey, I just thought you were absolutely stunning and would like to get to know if there is a cool girl under all those great looks, I'm going somewhere at the moment but what would you say if we were to meet up for a coffee..."

If it's at work or at school and you know you will see each other again, it's still a good idea to ask her out right away but you can talk to her a bit first and wait for the moment when the conversation is really flowing and then ask her out

[martyfellow]

Better to wait until she knows you. If you force her to make a decision before she knows you a little, the answer will most likely be no, and she won't change her mind even if she gets to know you and decides you're OK later on. The 'no' will embarrass her into staying with 'no' from then on.

There maybe are times to be more aggressive, such as if you know one of you is leaving the area soon, but in most situations, it's better to wait.

[BlackSuperman]

if you wanna date her, ask her out, whatever... do it. Don't be scared... if she don't want you, she'll say so. Don't let ANYTHING stand in the way of what you want...

[Mikell]

confidence is sexy!

don't pish posh her with saying

she is "beautiful" a lot of guys say that

to girls annnd.. it gets old.

don't be shy, buck up and ask the girl out :)

[dallozd]

So, cut out the beautiful part?

[JennaLove]

Ask her out, confidence is hot.

[Anonymous]

blunt. make it obvious