Is asking a girl to a concert a way of asking her out?

[Anonymous]

A good friend of mine told me I should go to a concert with him. I asked if our other friends could come too since we hadn't seen them in a long time. He said no because it would be weird for him to bring a lot of people(he's a regular at the venue). I thought this was a little strange. So now its just us going to the concert.

Is asking a girl to a concert a way of asking her out?

Or could he just want to hang out as friends?(we've been friends for about a year).

Updates

+1 y

The friends he didn't want to come are actually good friends of both of ours.


I'm not sure if he's ever flirted with me, but he's hugged me once, and sometimes teases me(very rarely).

[TheDigitalSaint]

It depends. It could be him wanting a date with you alone in a venue he's comfortable with, or it could be that he prefers 1on1 time with you without a bunch of friends. Has he met your friends previously and enjoys their company? If so, it sounds like more of a date.

If not, he might just not want a bunch of people showing up that he doesn't know, in case one of them does something foolish to embarrass him in front of a bunch of the regulars that know him as a regular of teh establishment. Has he flirted with you at all? What are his other behaviors towards you? There's not a lot of information to go on here. Give us some more details!

[TheDigitalSaint]

Upate: Hugs aren't signs of flirting. If he's interested, he hasn't shown many signs. Still, this could be a date, just on turf he finds comfortable. My question to you is this: Do you like him as more than a friend? If so, why don't you share it with him if you have a really enjoyable time at the end of the concert? He'll be at a venue he's comfortable with, there are no friends around and if you want more, here's about a good as chance to ask as any. If you do, go for it at the end!

[imonfire]

Yes, it can be.

Also, do you want him to ask you out? Because I would argue that he is opening the door and trying to figure out how you feel about him. If you want him to ask you out you should probably drop some hints or, if you feel the right vibe, take the lead a little bit.

Don't leave it up to us to make all of the moves. I know that we should and you deserve that we will, but we don't always know when or how to make the things we want happen (especially when we are young).

He may be unsure of how he feels about you. If that's the case, and you want him to like you, you should treat it like a date.