Do women find talent attractive?

[JM1019]

Not like singing or playing sports but other talents.. like if a guy is an artist or actor, or whatever else and is good at what they do. Is talent attractive?

[higurb]

It's funny how women act like they like Talent. After reading some of these questions I wonder if women have 2 sides to them. They socially acceptable side that will give you a proper socially acceptable answer. Then there the real them that feel and do exactly the opposite of that.

I am a very talented man. In fact I don't tell people everything I can do because it's too unbelievable. Just some of the things is unicycling, I'm a pilot, I play bass and I play so well I've played on stage with Victor Wooten, Bill Dickens, Mark King and so on. I'm an accomplished metal and wood worker. I make high end furniture. I do finish work at the Biltimore house in Asheville NC too. The list of everything I do goes on and on.

I have been in all kind of magazines, in our local news paper even met the last two presidents we had. After all this, a life time of doing amazing things, even had a guy want to write a book on me. No girl seems to like me. I've never had a girl walk up to me and say, I love the music you play or wow look at what you've built. Never has a girl been impressed with what to do. I think they hate talented people for some reason. I always get the cold shoulder when I'm trying to be polite or introduce myself.

I'm going to be on Comedy Central this summer doing stand up. Lets see how little the girls seem to notice me yet again.

[smith2267]

I hope you're funnier there than you are here. ;) just kidding.

Yeah, I know girls seem to want to give the socially acceptable answer all the time, I would agree with that.

[RED-LIGHT]

Damn, a unicylcing comedian that plays the bass? Sounds like a circus act! lol I'm joking.

Dude, it sounds like you really need to switch up your approach to women so you don't seem so overwhelming. But I definately agree with you about females having a socially acceptable side and a "real" side, but that's everyone really. Those people who are the same everywhere to everyone are a rare breed.

[bugmenot]

Trouble is that few girls know who Bill Dickens is and how impressive it is that you've been onstage with him. *Damn*.

And it's no surprise that women often mean the exact opposite of what they say...

[Stacygrecko]

Well, talent is just a bonus after personality... so maybe you have the talent but you lack in something else....U can't have talent only and expect women to instantly like u, you also need the full package..

P.S. I'm very impressed reading about all your talents...especially comedy..i love a guy who can make me laugh...so don't underestimate too much...

[sballer5]

It sounds like you don't really like women, you're just looking for somebody to be impressed by your lengthy resume. When we say talent is a plus, we don't mean "talent is the only thing that draws me to someone." for me it's usually personality and looks, then talents or passions clinch the deal. stop hating women and loving yourself for a few minutes and I'm sure somebody will see you for you. bitterness: not attractive.

[higurb]

I don't talk about my talents in person unless someone asks me about them. I'm just making a point here how the women seem to really want talented guys. Although they've seen me do some amazing things, things that have gotten me in the paper and world wide recognition. They still seem not to be interested.

And yes I'm bitter now but haven't always been. I don't know how to stop feeling the way I do when I've always gotten such a bad reaction from girls. It's like girls want you to not be happy

[Stacygrecko]

Once again you're wrong....What do you mean "its like girls want you to not be happy??" I don't know what kind of girls you're getting yourself involved with but you shouldnt make false judgments like that...U can have all the talent in the world but if you're a jerk than nobody will be attracted to you.. (not saying you are a jerk I'm just giving you an example)..... You're definitely doing something wrong when it comes to the ladies, it has nothing to do with your talents..

[higurb]

How am I a jerk when I hold the door open for a girl and she tells me I'm not good looking enough to open a door for her or when I help a woman pick something up she drops, she sprays me with mace?

To me that is a strong indicator that women don't want me to be happy.

[Stacygrecko]

What the hell?? I honestly never heard such a thing happening.... That's the most ridiculous thing I EVER heard..I don't believe that...

[higurb]

Apparently that's all you can say to that.

I rest my case.

[Stacygrecko]

I think you're lying because women are not evil like that..Women get happy if a man opens a door for her, it doesn't matter what he looks like..We just smile and say "thank you"..You don't have to be Brad Pitt to open a door, it's called being a gentleman...

Women do not attack men for helping them...

[higurb]

I wish you were right.

[symphonee]

Wow. You really run into the wrong girls. If she would spray you with mace for helping her pick something up, she wasn't worth it to begin with.

[FacelessInTheWind]

If you're not good looking, that's the more likely reason for your constant rejection. It has nothing to do with your talent. I think that as a talented person, you probably feel you're entitled to some of the happiness that others have found in love. Sadly, the world is a ruthless and superficial place where the least-earned attributes (like looks) are often the deciding factors. Don't kill yourself to prove a point: nobody ever learns anything. My advice: forget about women. Love is nothing.

[GoodManDave]

It depends on the talent and level of passion, I think.

Having talent and being a magician, it's not going to be as popular as having talent for, say, playing a guitar. Having a talent and passion for Accounting will not impress people as much as having a talent for, say, playing basketball.

Having passion is fine. I'm an entrepreneur, so I walk that line between having to "obsess" about expanding my business and leaving it behind at the end of the day. But, obsession over anything, especially if it's considered geeky, is not a good thing.

I think a part of it is "what kinds of things can you talk about without boring people to death?" I was a 3D animation student. I used to be able to talk about NURB and POLYGON rendering in 3D. But who cares? unless you make it interesting, no one outside the field is going to care; it needs to be something people who aren't in the field can appreciate.

[jen-82]

I absolutely love that. It's another plus. Especially guys who are into art, I find that super attractive. They have such a unique outlook on things and I really enjoy hearing about what they have to say or think about certain things. But like another girl said any guy with a passion for something is great. Passion is something that makes guys attractive to me. This one guy that I am crushing on has a huge passion for jazz. I can listen to him talk about jazz forever. You can tell he just loves it so much and when he plays it is like nothing in the world can touch him. It's so inspiring.

[mormongirlmichl]

Ya definately...Talent is part of personality and I will find a guy 's outward appearance attractive, but only until I get to know him, then he either becomes more attractive or a lot less. Singing and playing sports are talents though, just like being artistic and acting. Talents are one of the many things that make a guy more attractive. It always brings people to a guy...Like if a guy paints cool pictures, I might notice him if I hadn't before and ask him about his art.

[timberlake]

i like theatre guys, not men who think they belong in 'hollywood' and can't act to save their lives.

painters, cooks, pottery or ceramics... an artist of any trade is a major plus in my book. I'm very openminded and like to learn new things, so if he can teach me a thing or two, I'd be more than impressed by him

[HopeIessRomantik]

I'm assuming you mean talent as in they're naturally amazing at doing something, making them one of, if not the best of whatever it is they do.

Here goes my nerd speech...We want someone who can pass on their awesome genes (Along with our awesome genes, of course ;P) to our offspring, because biologically speaking, we're only attracted to the other sex to pass on our genes and propagate the human race... so yes talent is usually very attractive.

I hope that helped :)

[the-love-guru]

Oh definently. It shows you have a wide variety of abilities. I find it incredibly sexy when men do something that is generally considered a "woman's job"- I've met a few men that cook (better than me!), iron better than most mothers, and are into photography. Playing an instrument is also very attractive. I think men that are interested in the arts have something amazing to offer. They are intelligent, and not ashamed of being cultured. THAT is hot.

[kurkjianb]

of course we like talent

but when you push it in my face, its annoying

its cool if something just comes up like she walks in ur room and sees a guitar and she's like o you play? its like a nice surprise.

so yay talent is cool as long as its not pushy in ur face.

[beerY33]

Agreed.

[mystery]

Of course attractive it is important for everyone to be talented whatever is that talent

Some people are good at what they do but they are not liking it. I respect guys who had a passion of something and go after it while being good at it. They are just special for that

don't you think?

[cun7n1nja]

Absolutely! For example, I almost always fall for guys who are musicians, whether I know they can play an instrument when I decide I like them, or not. Everyone I hang out with is artistic or talented in some way. I'm naturally attracted to that kind of person.

[Evolution86]

Talents are definitely sexy. If there's something more to a guy, something beneath the surface of everyday conversation, that is definitely sexy. Artists, actors, poets can each express themselves differently, with more beauty than someone without that type of talent.

[sballer5]

talent is hugely attractive, but, more than that even, I love a man who is passionate about what he does and will put everything he's got into it. I mean, talent's great, but if I see hard work followed by talent, I respect and admire that.

[katiegal]

Well said,i agree!!

[alemarie]

in my opinion yeah of course it is... if its something that you love doing it and ur not ashame 4 then of course its very attractive!=) but remember it depends on the girl if they really find ur talent attractive...

[symphonee]

I like nice talented guys. Guys who have talent and are confident in it but aren't arrogant about it. Most PEOPLE don't know the difference and it seems hard to find a guy who isn't. Talent is great but without passion its useless and unattractive.

[Reeses-pieces777]

yeah. if he can do something and has skills , that's hot..especially if I can relate to it. like if we're in the same field or business area or whatever, I can be more on the same level with a guy if his talent is similar to my talents

[Shay09]

Yes we do. Because usually a guy who doesn't have any talent is lazy, but you don't have to be cocky about it either. Some peole have hidden talents, it's not always a must have, I'm sure a girl will like you with or with out one.

[ekspain]

women hate talented guys! Mainly because their...I dunno...talented?

Competition too. All women love us talented people...makes girlfriends super jealous!

Why are women so damn jealous all the time?

[Texasgirl45]

Yes, talent draws you closer to that person and makes them stand out. You are more interesting to be around. Just make sure you do not show arrogance's.That is a turn off.

Include her in what you do and explain to her how you come up with ideas and your creative process. How you see beauty in all things, especially her. Women love romance. Its all about the extra afford you make and thought that goes into it that she will love.

[omgomg]

Talent itself is not attractive. What is makes Talent attractive is that it shows a lot about the person, particular the ambition. Ambition is attractive, it shows you have a reason for your life and that you are not just living life just cause. What I'm saying is, it doesn't matter what the talent is, it how the talent shows your underlying personality. (eg. Hardwork, passion in life, etc)

[mzsfamous1]

I find it very attractive. Sometimes women want to find other talents in guys other than the typical talents;singing or playing sports. Being an artist or actor is just at attractive.

[-StillWater-]

Talent is one of my priorities when I'm looking for a guy!

Musicians and artists of any kind are the people I find most interesting, and can connect to them the easiest, so...

[just926]

Absolutely! Especially if the guys is passionate about it. Probably one of my biggest turn ons if I'm interested in his talent.

[NowJadyn]

even if you have no talent, if you know how to treat a girl, that's a talent in my opinion. chivalry is not dead. use it!

[emzy-89]

having a talent I probably the sexiest asset a man can have imo.

im incredibly attracted to musicians. I think it a fantastic skill to have.

this my b because I'm a musician myself. :)

[love-bird-18]

Its way sexy. Have you ever seen how some girls go wild over actors and singers even if they aren't that hot.