Girls, how & when do you get asked out on POF?

[Double_O_69]

Whats the steps guys usually take to get you to say, "yes lets go out on a date."

Do they send around 10 messages then ask for your number. Then from the number do they send around 10 texts and then ask you out? What is said between all this? Do they talk about themselves and ask you questions?

Updates

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Also where do you first go out? Is it at the bedroom heheheheh or park then bedroom.


Does it matter at what time of day?

[TheChristian]

Hi there. Great questions. When I was dating (as I am now married) I would always wait for the initial interest to be revealed to me. I have never approached, confronted nor confided in a man my interest if not first told to me. Now I have helped it along by reciprocating flirting and/or conversation as some men want some idea if you are even interested before they take the risk to ask you out so you can't be mean and straight faced and expect someone to think you're interested lol. Usually that is followed by daily phone conversation. I believe any man that is seriously interested will care that your head made it to the pillow at night. Sometimes in between there are text conversations to check on how each other is doing randomly, tell a funny joke or talk about a life situation like work, family + friends. After a week or two if I still feel that connection and he asks me out I go on a date. Now I'm sure you'll ask, what if he asks you out before that. If I'm really comfortable I will but if I don't feel like I know enough (romatically and for safety reasons) or like he does not have the same interest I do then I would tell him I wasn't comfortable yet and I'd let him know when I'm ready. Then when I'm ready (if I reach that point) I will wait until either he asks me again or a topic comes up that sparks a date idea. Like if we find out in conversation that we both like video games then I might suggest we go to the arcade over the weekend or something like that. On first few dates I always go to crowded places. I start dates in the evening but in daylight and if I don't like him the dates over before dark lol. I have done dinner and movies for first dates if that's just what time we are both free so if there is a reason then no issue with that. I definitely don't start dates after midnight. A date may go past midnight but not start. If a guy calls you at midnight and says let's meet for drinks, move on lol. Especially if its within the first few dates lol. Hopefully I answered your questions. Hope this helps. Wish you the best.

[Double_O_69]

Wow thank you very much for your big effort. I love how you said its better in daylight to ask them, why I probably failed a couple of times. Cool. I noticed girls giving me there phone numbers quick lol so I guess they might want a date quick too. Yeaha, I noticed that after 3 messages asking a girls number will have them say not yet and then I ask again really soon. Can't wait too long. I actually now guage the legnth of there messages, the shorter the faster, the longer, the sloooowerr

[TheChristian]

Gauging text messages is a good. It could be misleading but will still tell you what you need to know.For example there are women if you send them a text they could be very interested in you but because of pride, playing the dating game, form of manipulation or possibly trust/fear issues they purposely wait to respond.Most guys would take this to mean that she's not that interest which could be far from the truth however you still learned that either way she's not someone you'd want to be with.

[Double_O_69]

For sure, for sure, I also thought that a girl would do this if I ask her out at the right time, but she says no becuase of pride etc. Then I will ask again later on ;-) and hopefully they say yes.

[TheChristian]

Wish you the best !

[MochaKisses]

After 3 sent email then send your phone number. In addition, you should consider selecting a 1st date where you both can engage in an activity that allows for talking, laughing, and participation. This will make the date fun and make the person want to go back out with you again. I like my 1st dates to be at Alley Cats, Putt Putt, or Main Event, or Dave and Busters. Something fun and adventurous.

[Anonymous]

Like any free dating site you're going to find people who just wanna have sex.

Umm...if I'm going to get asked out by a guy he has to show interest in what I do. Usually by 6-10 messages I get a good idea on what he's about. From there I'll suggest we do something.

[Double_O_69]

Awesome, thank u. I'm on girl number 10, hope she keeps talking to me.

[Opinion Owner]

Good luck!

[samba_samba]

I dont like Pof but i am using www.penpaland.com lately its the good one

[help1234]

Plenty of fish is more of a hook-up website...all my friends will agree on that, both men and women. If you are looking for a nice girl to date maybe try e-harmony or singles net.

[Double_O_69]

I'm looking for hook up lol, I'm trying to be a "master player." But I don't know how to play the game. But I think this is how a hookup goes right?

[Anonymous]

I'd rather remain single forever than humiliate myself by putting myself on PoF -_-;;;;;;;;;;