Girls asking a guy's salary on their first date? Laughable!

[sexyasianboi26]

Seriously wtf. The traditional good wife is dead, they stopped making those angels.

Anyway, I my friend introduced me to his new girlfriend. We got along, ect... then she asked me "So how much do you make? my boyfriend told me you used to make 2000 a week, now half of what you used to make?"

I didn't even answer her. I asked her when did your boyfriend tell you, and she said "oh in our first date"

and I was like wow..dude.

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For all the people that think my friend is the bad guy, ask yourself this. Can you really have good judgement on the first date when your goal is to impress your date, hoping she will like you?


My friend knew about how much I made because his salary was based on my salary. We were team drivers once but we stepped down because they were not paying us enough for the hardwork. We don't just drive, we lift and move heavy stuff. When I say heavy, I'm talking about grand pianos, hickory furnitures.

[Theguyoverthere]

The thing that really sickens me about these types of women is that they belittle the hardworking people by claiming such guys who don't make much money are not successful, even when they are working their ass off to pay their bills. Chances are these women don't even come close to what they are looking for. It's a known fact that women are looking beyond what they really deserve. Their expectations are unrealistic and the women themselves need to look in the mirror and realize their looks alone do not somehow make them more valuable.

Plus they're "values" are based on materialistic things like income levels, property ownership, career status, and so on. These things somehow got stapled into girls' "look for" lists. Look how many girls look for a guy with a house and try to sneak their belongings in slowly as a petty attempt to move in. Or they get excited at a guy mentioning he owns a house and the guy asks why and she doesn't know what to say. A guy can work 50 hours a week and only make 30K a year because of the economy and the girl can tell him how he should be more successful and lecture him when she only works a part time job bartending. Yet a guy who barely works at all and managed to get himself a 70k salary is "so successful" even though he barely works at all because of his position and the woman will be all over him.

[jacquesvol]

I guess you met an American. When I meet one, he /she wants to tell at once what his income and assets are (and expects you to do the same). In other countries people are more discrete about that. In some countries this discretion borders on paranoia.

[rudy37lee]

Not true. I'm American and what I make (or my fiance) is no one's business but our own. If you keep running into women who want to know what your salary is right away, then your picker is broken.

[Robbey]

I'm also American. I'll also suggest that you learn better skills for judging whom you choose to spend your time.

[AndreaE]

Wow has absolutely nothing to do with being American has everything to do with being a spoiled little twit

[musicbrain5]

Hmmm, I never expected this kind of answer from you. I didn't think perpetuating false stereotypes was your thing, but here we are.

[Butterfly1002]

American here and I was raised that it is beyond rude to ever talk about financial stuff with someone in a social situation! I think most of my friends where also raised with this belief!

[loveisbeautiful]

I have know idea why anyone would ask someone how much they make,

let alone how much there friend makes lol. But, it's one of those things about

women (or people) that I will never understand. But, I think it's weirder that when she

meets you (her boyfriends,friend) for the first time. The first question that pops in

her head is "how much money do you make now?". I guess taking your friends

money wouldn't be enough, she wants to take yours too! :P I'm just kidding. Seriously

though, tell your friend to watch out for that one, she could be trouble.

[Tycho]

Wait wtf, why is your "friend" telling his girl about your financial circumstances anyway. That's beyond weird. What, did the conversation really go that bad, to where you and your monthly paychecks had to be apart of the conversation. I'd be more mad at your homeboy than the chick who's trying to be all up your business. Then again, she wouldn't have known if it wasn't for him. That's just...strange

[sexyasianboi26]

Im cool with my friend, we were team drivers. I drove at night, and he drove at day time. We used to haul triple trailers from New york to Cali in 3 days lol, so that's why we made so much bank.

[musicbrain5]

It's none of her business... She's just a typical materialistic gold digging bitch who doesn't deserve a good man. I wish more women would judge men on the quality of their character rather than the size of their bank account. Women like that make us all look bad T_T

Also, why is he telling her how much you make and probably how much his other friends make? That's not right.

[musicbrain5]

Also if a girl is really hellbent on knowing how fat your wallet is, don't waste your time with her. There are still women out there who look for more realistic qualities in men they date (and in women too if they date women)

[Theguyoverthere]

I am curious too as to why the guy mentioned anything. I'm guessing she inquired and he said something.

[musicbrain5]

@Update: Considering that you and your friend both held the same job at the same salary, then I don't think he is to blame here. He told her that he made X amount of $ with that job and I'm betting she inquired as to how much his coworkers made in comparison (since this woman seems to be so keen on knowing everyone's wages) and you were mentioned simply because you worked with him. He probably realized it was impossible for her to compare you guys against each other, so he had nothing to lose.

[sexyasianboi26]

Lol wow, I love your thought process. Ur a smart girl :)

[musicbrain5]

Why thank you! :)

[Anonymous]

This is the bitter truth. The fact is, men date women based on looks alone, and women do it based on looks AND money. And I guess for most women, the man's wealth or income is of a slightly higher priority than his looks. For people who're saying women give importance to 'penis size'..this is only true for women who are only looking for short term swings or one night stands. For those women looking for long term relationships which might eventually lead to marriage, then money and looks are the only two things they consider. It doesn't even matter to them if that man is an alcoholic, drug addict, rapist or murderer. If he just has good looks and a fat wallet, he is set for a life filled with women.

[Anonymous]

Next time ask her so how big are your breasts? Or ask how much she makes if she works? I'll agree it is rude to ask someone how much they make. I live off a SSI (Social Security Income) so when someone ask me what I make I just tell them I'm on a SSI income. I would rather be asked how much I make than something like my penis size lol.

[kangaru]

why did your friend even tell her about such confidential and personal thing?I would have tell my friend off for doing it.

that's not appropriate question to ask,She may behave in such manner, but not all people.

[Anonymous]

Just tell her you have a big penis and it makes up for your wallet.

[Solitude2]

Guys asking me how much I earn per month the first time they saw me in the lift/coffee shop/on the streets. Laughable? :P

[qwer1234]

You used to make 2,000$ in a week? What are you doing?

[sexyasianboi26]

Relocation specialist and a class A driver.

[qwer1234]

And both made you regularly 2,000$ a week? You used to make it. Why don't you do it anymore?

[sexyasianboi26]

No, I work for a moving company. To be a relocation specialist you need to have a class a or class b license. I don't do it anymore because I was killing myself with no sleep, pain and cigarettes.

I still do it but I don't travel long distances anymore. I just do local.

[cheesesteak7]

did she ask him or did he tell her from his own initiative?

[Anonymous]

What? That's super weird. Your friend sounds like a douche, too, honestly for talking about that stuff with her. How do you know he didn't put her up to asking?

[Daph81]

I'd run away as fast as I can if I were you. She seems like all about money.

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately that is what the majority of women are after these days. I will get down votes and probably comments about how I'm sexist and unworthy of life but the truth speaks more than they ever can

[GoGoDancer]

I agree women will never admit they only care about looks, money and penis size. Even though their always saying those three things don't matter.

[AndreaE]

Not all women are dirt bags there good women just like there's good men what he should have done was ask how much the titi bar where she works pays lol

[kheserthorpe]

These days. Not like the old days when women were all over broke guys.

[Anonymous]

They do still make traditional women, FYI. This lady sounds like an ditzy idiot.

[stevo1]

That's none of her business. And if it was me, that be the first and last date.

[Phoenix52]

Did you ask how many guys she's slept with?

[Cottoncandydreams]

she cares about more what's in your wallet.

[GoGoDancer]

You mean like all women and girls do? Are you admitting all females are gold diggers?

[RedThread]

What the hell? lol

[Daph81]

GoGoDancer, why are you not banned yet?

[GoGoDancer]

@Daph81 why the hell would I get banned? Don't like what I say tough sh*t. Just don't answer or read my questions or answers.

[MortalShowdown]

GoGoDancer just needs excuses.

[GoGoDancer]

How the hell I'm I making excuses? I was agreeing with what cottoncandydreams said. Even when a guy agrees with a female member its still wrong? WTF.

[jacquesvol]

GoGoDancer,

Avoid generalisations, please.

[Daph81]

@GoGoDancer: because you don't bring advice to this website. You bring hatred and your negativity to this website. That's why.

[Cottoncandydreams]

woah chill out guys

[Anonymous]

It's cause you're asian

[sexyasianboi26]

Hmm? How is me bein Asian relevant?

[musicbrain5]

I don't think it is relevant.

[Daph81]

lol seriously, this guy on Facebook started messaging me, and when I asked "so what do you do for for a living?" he said "ah, the typical Asian question..." I was like WTF? I wasn't even thinking about what he makes in a year or something, I was more interested in his daily activities...

[Cottoncandydreams]

AHAHAHAH

[Anonymous]

That's what the majority of girls care about. They're too lazy to make their own money

[cavmanier]

Not a good sign.

[Anonymous]

That's all they care about today is money

[Cottoncandydreams]

lolol

[GoGoDancer]

Why the down votes? Its true, if a girl/women went on two blind dates one was rich and good looking while the second was average and made minimum wage, She'll take the good looking rich guy. Even if the second guy was nicer.

[LovelySerene]

True about some girls, I hate money, and I secretly wish I could burn it

[GoGoDancer]

@LovelySerene whattttttttttttttttttttttttttttt?

[Daph81]

you guys talk as if you know everything. Guess what? Not all women are gold diggers, as I'm sure not all men are pigs.

[COCOCHANEL]

that's unusual

[AndreaE]

Lmao just like a rat to sniff out that cheese