Women aren't really attracted to good looks, personality, or money, but rather the confidence associated with them

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Women aren't really attracted to good looks, personality, or money, but rather the confidence associated with them



Women are an enigma and I really dont understand some of their logic, but one thing I have speculated for a while is that women value confidence more then anything else (which sucks if you dont have it).


A lot of guys post questions like "women only go for handsome guys" or "women only like guys with money", but how true is this really? Sure a lot of rich and handsome guys have beautiful girlfriends, but I have seen ugly rich guys with good looking girlfriends, I have seen handsome poor guys with beautiful girlfriends, and I have seen average looking guys with average amounts of money get above average women, how? Because they are confident, and women like that for whatever reason. If a guy is rich then chances are he is very confident in himself, and if he is handsome chances are he is also confident in himself, which makes women more attracted to them.


What's more though women dont really "go" for guys in general, its the guys "going" for them, and rich handsome guys are more likely to approach them because they are confident in their looks and money, which is why you see women with rich handsome guys, because those guys were confident enough to approach the women. A poor ugly guy is bogged down with the idea that he isn't worth anything to women, because he uses money and looks as an excuse for not having a girlfriend. He looks at these handsome rich guys who have girlfriends and thinks that those types of guys are the only type of guys women date. What they dont even consider is that they dont ask women out much to begin with, because they are not confident in themselves, because they think they need better looks or money.


I know exactly how true this is, in high school I didn't have a lot of friends, my high school was very homogeneous from a socioeconomic standpoint. Most people were lower class or lower middle class, except for me and a handful of other people, who were upper class. In my school I was bullied a lot for having rich parents. In elementary school my parents bought me a brand new backpack that I was so excited to use, but when I took it to recess the kids destroyed it because they didn't like how my parents actually had the money to buy me a nice backpack, since their parents couldnt.


This mentality continued into high school, I didn't get any girls to like me. After going on the internet I assumed women wanted money, based off of what was being said on here by poorer guys, so I flaunted my money in stupid ways which ended up backfiring. Not only did I get beat up at least twice by jealous men, the women thought I was a spoiled rich boy, they thought I was entitled and didn't want to date me, which baffled me because I thought that's what women wanted, based off of the internet.


Now looking back there is one key trait that I didn't have in this story; confidence. I had almost no confidence in myself, I tried using money as a means to engineer confidence, but since it was my parents money, I just didn't have the same level of confidence, knowing I didn't earn it myself. A lot of other rich kids dont care if it's their parents money, but I care and I just can't be confident in the fact that my parents are rich, when I didn't earn a penny of it. Women could smell this lack of confidence and as a result steered clear of me. The internet would have had me believe all women are gold diggers and only a minority of women are looking for men based on other traits, but honestly its the opposite, the majority of women dont care about money as much, while a small minority are gold diggers.


As I said before, this idea came about from discouraged men who think the fact that they are poor makes them unwanted by women, when in reality its their lack of confidence in their poorness that makes them less inclined to ask women out, which in turn results in them not having a girlfriend. During high school I fell into this same mentality, as I was flaunting around my money, I noticed that a lot of girls were going for the handsome sports players at my school, and thought that I wasn't good looking enough and that women really wanted looks, not money.


So I got really discouraged and I didn't ask women out for a couple years. I flaunted my money and bought fancy clothes, hoping women would notice me and like me. I looked at all the handsome jocks who had girlfriends and wondered how that was possible when they werent rich, since the internet said women wanted rich men. What I didn't even think about was that I was getting down on myself for not being attractive, and because of this I didn't think women wanted me, so I didn't ask them out, and because I didn't ask them out I didn't get a girlfriend, meanwhile all the attractive guys at my school have confidence in their looks enough to play up that advantage, and go ask girls out. Because women almost never ask men out, as a man you need to do the asking if you ever hope to get anywhere with women, but if you aren't confident in yourself then you aren't going to ask a woman out, because you dont think you are good enough for her, and because you never ask her, you never enter a relationship.


What you will notice though is that women for some weird reason are attracted to confidence more then anything else, when women say they want a guy with a good personality, and almost all of them say this, they are really looking for a confident guy, how can I prove it? You know how a lot of women get online and complain about how guys are jerks, and tools, and dont care about them? Well this is because some (not all) confident guys know women want them, because they are confident, so they can act like complete idiots knowing that women will still want them, and since only confident guys ask women out, those are the only type of guys women date, since the women aren't out there asking out the not confident guys.


Generally most women probably have a run in with at least one boyfriend who turns out to be a jerk, but why did she ever say yes to him? Because he was most likely confident enough to ask her out, and she was blinded by his confidence enough to say yes. Its no coincidence that shy, quiet guys are often alone, disproportionately represented online, and ignored by girls, because they also dont have confidence(or if they do they aren't good at showing it). Its also no coincidence that the biggest jerks out there in the dating world are guys who are over confident in themselves. They might not be overly rich or attractive, and all the guys wonder how they get so many girls if they treat them like crap, but its because those guys are confident, they know women will say yes to them, so they act however they want knowing women will say yes. This is pretty theoretical because women are so freaking confusing, but if you really think about this take they will become less confusing, guys say they need to be rich, handsome, and all this other stuff, while girls just need to be hot. While the second part is true, that a lot of guys just want a hot girl, the first part is all a load of crap.


I GUARENTEE you will get a girlfriend if you seem confident. You can even test this: I went to visit a friend at his college, and I filmed a video with him asking random girls out on dates for a social experiment project. Knowing it was just for a project I could confidently ask girls out knowing I didn't care whether they rejected me, since it was just for a project, and I was just asking out random girls. What was crazy though, was that a lot of the girls actually considered going out with me, and a lot more then expected said yes. I am not incredibly good looking, and they couldnt tell that I had money, but what they could tell was that I was confident (or at least I pretended to be confident for the video), and they liked that because they are women.


Go ahead give it a shot, do a social experiment and go ask out random women, if you are dressed confidently and you approach them confidently then I guarentee you will get results that surprise you. Its because women dont want money, or looks, some of them might think they do, but what they really want is confidence.

Women aren't really attracted to good looks, personality, or money, but rather the confidence associated with them
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