For women, why is it uncommon for women to compliment men? What can a guy do to receive more compliments from women?

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Men are expected to give compliments and flatter the girl, its part of having "game." But it frustrates me that this expectation is not placed on women.

I dont think I have ever been told I was attractive by a girl that I was not already dating for a long time. In fact, its one of my biggest weaknesses and issues with my self-esteem is my body image. I am the opposite of tall, dark, and handsome (short, white and mildly handsome) although I do take care of myself and stay very fit.

I see other guys getting compliments from women but its usually never direct "You look good!" or "You look so sexy." But even the more indirect compliments would make me feel much better. I feel like all my interactions with women are platonic from her perspective, even if I am trying to date her or not. And if I ask them what they think of my physical attractiveness, they act like I am a loser for asking such a question. That really annoys me because most women get hit on every day, and I've never been hit on before.

I want to know what my strengths are and be proud, but if nobody tells you how are you supposed to know? And no answers like "you have to believe it first before others see it," cuz if that were true most women would never be hit on because most women are also very insecure about their appearance.

Like I understand that some guys are more attractive than others and will get more compliments. But it seems like for a man to be worthy of any compliments from a girl he has to be a drop dead 10.

An example of a compliment I got was an older woman who was twice my age at the gym told me I was "a beautiful person," because of how I carried myself. However, I think that because she is older she would be mature enough to recognize that, where as women my age of 24 would not consider a person who carries themselves like me, they want the cocky, arrogant, masculine strut. Is it that women at my age dont value holistically minded men?
For women, why is it uncommon for women to compliment men? What can a guy do to receive more compliments from women?
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