Have you ever told your girlfriend to shut up?

[Anonymous]

Have you ever just shut her down and not allowed her to speak? Called her crazy, insane, or even bipolar to her face?

[Anonymous]

A few times.

Cutting over her: "Shut up. I don't care anymore, if you think you want to dump me, f***ing go ahead and do it. But stop trying to play f***ing mind games, because they aren't going to work. I go along with what you want, because as far as I'm concerned, my job is to make you happy. But if you think it's necessary to test my feelings, then obviously there's a problem. So either shut the f*** up, and act like a normal person, or get the hell out of my house. Your choice."

Another time, when a girlfriend was threatening to cut her wrists with a kitchen knife she had in her hand:

"Go ahead. You think I'm gonna stop you? If that's what you want, then I will cut your throat myself. But I don't think you've thought this through, I think this is some kind of ridiculous cry for attention, and to be honest I haven't got the f***ing time or energy to deal with this right now. So my advice to you is if you're gonna do it, cut along the arm, not across, and try not to bleed on my carpet. *she started shouting at me* Well, if it's what you want, who am I to say no. So it's really up to you. Why should I take responsibility for what a crazy bitch does. Cause right now, that;s what you're being. A crazy bitch, who's trying to exploit my vulnerabilities to get some kind of attention. Well, choke on it. You have my attention, now cut yourself or don't. But don't stand there talking about it, you're wasting my time."

[mimiperson]

Dude, I totally respect you.

[sweet_18]

I've been told the first one before.

[DeepBlue]

If I'm having an argument with a woman I will raise my voice from time to time, though not in a threatening way. There is a big difference between holding your ground and outright verbal abuse. And refusing to let someone else speak is cowardly and childish.

[emmabee11]

Well if I guy did that I wouldn't even talk to him because for a start I have friends who have depression and people talk about it as if the people who have it are crazy when honestly if you look around you people trying to drag them down as much as possible made them that way, it's not some imbalance like doctors say, if things around us would improve with people less likely would people be severly depressed.

[Anonymous]

I am crazy. Everyone knows it. It's not a secret lol. So yes, I've been called crazy and insane. But told to not talk or shut up? My boyfriend would NEVER disrespect me like that. If he wants me to be quiet- which is totally understandable, he would just ask. If I was totally out of my mind and wouldn't listen to him when he asked politely, he'd just walk away.

[cun7n1nja]

My boyfriend calls me crazy sometimes, but in a joking way, never as an insult or to hurt my feelings. He's never told me to shut up, but has held his finger up with an irritated look on his face, like, 'GOD, give me a minute!' haha. It kind of threw me off, but I understood why he did it, lol, and it feels much more respectful than an 'stfu'.

[mimiperson]

That is awesome.

[cun7n1nja]

Haha I totally understand, because he was talking to his mom on the phone. I was trying to be helpful though, telling him to give her certain information that would be useful that he'd forgotten to mention about the situation he was explaining to her. So it was with good intent, but I do realize that I was probably annoying him. =P

[ObscuredBeyond]

I have told girls the following in a fit of frustration:

"Make up your mind!"

"What do you mean, I'm too 'controlling'? Who decided where we'd go every time? YOU! Who sets the limits? YOU! Who sets the agenda? Do I even need to explain? I put up with this dump; I put up with you being lazy, I bend over backwards EVERY DAY, and you act like it's NOTHING! You don't get to tell me I'm the 'controlling' party!"

"You don't get to dictate to me whom I can and can't talk to!"

"How dumb do you think I am?"

"You're giving me NOTHING to work with here!"

Most of the time, it's efforts to assert myself so she doesn't think I'm a pushover. However, I tend to get treated like a supervillain bu the gal the very minute I refuse to be her doormat.

[mimiperson]

Totally feel for you. I've seen women like that. They think just because they're girls they can get away with whatever they want.

[ObscuredBeyond]

In 90% of cases, it's because their mothers enable the problem. And in most of those cases, the dad is nowhere to be found.

[jdcpa]

No, it's called leaving or breaking up with the person. If you don't like it, the door is right there. There's no need to be disrespectful and tell the other person to shut up or make a joke out of a serious mental health condition.

[bassman]

Agreed! Ha ha ha!

[Anonymous]

nope. I know someone who can be a bit bipolar or some similar mood swings but I would never tell her or any girl strait up to shut up.

if anything I would say hum.. can you please stop talking. I don't want to (fill in the blank) any more. try to be nice about it but I do understand that some girls can be CRAZY that time of month and being polite might just make things worse.

[dan123z4]

no I never raise my voice to her or called her any names in the 3 years we've been together

[crazybastard]

does it hurt when she whipes yo ass?

[Maddygirl]

^^^ Does it hurt to be single?

[Rykar]

Wow, no...thats just eff'n rude! No way. I wouldn't disrespect my or any of my past or future girlfriends like that. And if a girlfriend ever did that to me, I'd drop her like a bad habit.

[bassman]

Nice!

[LightUp]

Don't have a girl friend :( but I would pretty much say that to anyone, If the go overboard with their talking. Like this one time My friends were talking about Dicks (you typical guy stuff) on the bus ... and I had to stop them ! Because everyone was giving me that look!

[GoodManDave]

I've made shushing noises, but never told a girlfriend to shut up. I don't recall ever calling a girl crazy unless it was kind of kidding around... like... "You are crazy." But I haven't done it to be really really insulting. Only girls I call Bipolar are girls who have been diagnosed with Bipolar, and again, not as an insult, really...

[Loki1337]

Feel like answering this even though I never been in a relationship. Partly cause I'm bored :\

Yes I have told girls to shut up about as much as I have told guys to shut up. When people need to shut up, they need to shut up.

Would I shut a hypothetical girlfriend down and not allow her to speak? Hell no. Call her crazy or insane, to her face? Yes. But I use those terms as a good thing unless stated otherwise.

That might be related to me actually being insane as well.

[WeaponZero]

Not that I can recall, no. But if she seriously needed psychological help yeah, I'd say that.

[chriistellkelly]

well, whenever my sister gets pissed off at her boyfriend, he calls her a psycho bitch. which is pretty retarded if you ask me. I have no clue why she's still with him.

[Anonymous]

Youre honestly beautiful. Any guy that is with you should treat you like a princess.

Be an a**hole with anyone else, but with you're girlfriend? hell no.

You need a guy who will feel lucky he has a girlfriend, esspecially one as gorgeous as yourself.

[Moloch]

Lol treat her nice because she's pretty? That's way shallow.

[Opinion Owner]

I was complimenting her. And I also said, you can be an a**hole with anyone else, but not your girlfriend. I also said that she needs a guy who willl feel luck because he has a girlfriend.

So don't call me out without reading everything.

[brittanyd654]

Wow, that's really nasty if someone has done that to you. There's nothing you could do that would deserve that.

[Anonymous]

Any man who tells his girlfriend to shut up is the same guy who can hit her. If this happen to you I suggest you consider leaving him.

[carlo]

watch out because all men are rapist and violent and girls are beautiful angels come down from heaven to bring a bit of light to this sad world full of devil males. I eat two girls for breakfast every day.

[Opinion Owner]

@carlo... did you just get out of prison?

Telling a girl to shut up is not a considerate way of dealing with a dispute. If you can't figure it out then you are not worth a good girl that is just having a bad day.

[carlo]

You are assuming the girl can do no wrong. A decent girl won't be told to shut up by a decent man. An idiot girl can and should be told to shut up 'even' by a decent man, without that having to lead to hit her. If you ask me, some girls deserve indeed to be hit, if you are idiot you are idiot. Also, many 'decent' girls feel entitled to say whatever to men. It's not that you girls are these innocent victims prey of men. It's sh*t and obsessive how this however is the mainstream view

[Opinion Owner]

@carlo... you sound like the same whining sissy who complains that he can't find a nice girl while beating up on another. You exaggerated what I said by a LOOOONNGGG shot, just like the down voters. I said one thing and you start thinking a thousand other things.

I assume nothing. A decent girl can make mistakes, girls are not perfect. Duh? What YOU should do is stay single or just hook up with dumb girls because you seem eager and hungry to hit a girl. Still on parole? I thought so.

[carlo]

What is it exactly again the reason I am someone out of prison, eager and hungry to hit girls and a whining sissy too who deserves to stay alone? Not sure if you realize the sh*t you just threw there to me, yet it's me overreacting. "Any woman who tells his boyfriend to shut up is the same girl who can hit him". No, you assume nothing, it's others who do. 'Course.

[Opinion Owner]

Lets be clear: there is no nice way of saying "shut up". It's a very strong and harsh way of saying "be quiet!" The QA knows that is why she brought up those two conjoined words. For a guy to tell his girlfriend that, not a stranger, would make me think he could turn violent on her at one point or another. Those are hostile words.

[Tony90]

when you have an argument for a bad reason its posible to hear things you don't like especially if you have caused this

[Anonymous]

sounds wrong...there are other/better ways to handle conflict.

[Anonymous]

Once when I was driving in a car and my girl would not stop talking about how badly she needed to do this certain drug. She was flipping out and would not stop. We were both strung out and were driving to another state to get away from people places and things. I screamed on top of my lungs to shut the eff up.

[Markezzo]

I could say all those things in a joking fashion maybe. But I would never not allow her to speak her mind.

[yopyopyop]

Already happened to me indeed. But she was all this, doctor certified ;)

[crazybastard]

when she pisses me off I just say "be quiet bitch" she says "go to hell bitch" and we kiss and make up

[CasaNorba]

yea... only when they have forced me to. wish it never happened, but life is not fair after all