This is a hypothesis for your particular situation. Girls sometimes do their own version of the "nice guy" act, but in order to be accepted, have a boyfriend, feel secure, etc., they will act overly submissive, sacrificing themselves and even to the point of holding back on most opinions.
Maybe everything seemed great for you because she agreed with everything you said, never talked about anything difficult with you that could have turned into an argument (e.g. instead of bringing up something that bothered her and resolved it with you in a civil way, she kept quiet to be a "good girlfriend"), tried to prioritize your interests over your own (e.g. always watching the action movie with you and never requesting a chick flick), etc. I thought this partially because you said she was an "angel." Every woman has her sour side (and should let the SO know that by voicing her opinion or saying if she doesn't like something), and if you only saw the good side of her all the time, never disagreed, etc., something is up.
I only know this because I did it myself when I was really young (high school). I couldn't talk to my then boyfriend about the music I liked, jokes I wanted to make, what I really thought about situations, etc., because I was so afraid he wouldn't like me as I was, and he made fun of some of my interests, and his opinion was the be-all and end-all. This wasn't anything malicious I meant to do (dumped him "out of nowhere" after years of liking him and 4 months of dating), but I was sick of not being myself, and other issues arose that bothered me.
So, if this was the case for you, she probably did not have bad intentions, but once she met up with her friend, she may have realized that, after sharing her interests with her friend, feeling free to be herself, etc., she may have realized how much she resented you for her not feeling comfortable to be herself around you.
OR her friend is a bad influence and has turned her against you unfairly. Or there is another reason I can't think of right now.
But then again I could be completely wrong. Tell me more about the dynamics of your relationship. What was it like? What did you do? DId you do things she liked?
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Sorry, for your heartbreak.
When people involve themselves in relationships from a very early age continuously, then we often get lost in them (and don't know who we are standing alone). I think she is at the point in her life, where she wants to know who she is out without a man (because she is usually involved in a relationship). This will be the first time in her life where she doesn't have to worry about anyone else and strictly do what she wants to do.
Trust me, if she didn't tell you this and strung you along it would hurt you even more (because she'd probably do things you weren't okay with).
It has nothing to do with how you treated her, or what you two went through, its just she wants to truly experience life. Its best to get these things out of the way, rather than moving on and pretending to feel differently. I've known many people that have done this and their relationships go down hill from there. Because they are trying to act like everything is okay when it isn't. No relationship can work when two people aren't on the same page.
You are at the stage in life where you want a sweet girl to be with.
She is at the stage where she wants to have fun with friends and not have any concerns.
I know it hurts, but you have no choice to respect her decision because clearly she knows what she wants and there will be no changing her mind.
It will hurt a lot.
It will be hard.
But you must pull yourself together and move on without her.
-Delete her number(s)
-Delete her from social networking sites
-Do not contact her anymore.
-Do not visit her anymore.
Give her that space that she needs, to find herself. This is something she has to do to better herself and to grow stronger.
I'm sorry this is happening to you. You seem to really care about her, so you shouldn't be treated in this way. You deserve someone who feels the same way you do.
Maybe try checking for signs on how she acted before she did this to you. Was she distant? She might have been falling out of love with you.
What I'm stumped on is how she could treat you so terribly. I know that when I love someone, at any point in my life, I would never dream of hurting them in any way, even if they did something terrible to me.
Another thing that could of happened is maybe her friend talked to her about you. Maybe she talkt to her friend about you, and her friend told her to break up, or made up something about you. Maybe she thought you'd just hurt her again like those other guys, or you did something small that hurt her like those other guys did.
I say you give her time. BUT when people tend to do this they dwell on 'Well she might get back with me someday, i"ll wait for her.'
DONT wait for her. She's not waiting for you. Give her a break. Don't talk to her for a month, then maybe then you can text her with a 'how have you been?' But don't think you'll get back together, because you probably won't nor would you want to after she treated you like this (because she could just do it all over again in another two and a half years.) Get out there and (even if this sounds unpleasant) GET BUSY. Get your mind off of her. Hang with friends. Spend time with the other people you love. Do thins that truly distract you from her. Find some new girl who would respect you, and who would never dream of hurting you like this.
Be the dominant male..She's probably laughing at your face right now flat out..Get over her even ignore her for sometime!I've been where you are and this is how it works!Leave her it's for your own good..
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One thing is certain, she no longer loves you... if she really did love you to begin with.
I know it hurts but maybe it's for the better. Stop acting like you would do anything to get her back because that would either push her away more, creep her out, use you or all of the above. Maybe she grew tired of being in a relationship, being with you. Maybe she just wants to be single right now. My advice is to move on. I know it's going to be hard but it's for the better. Delete her number in your phone. You can't force someone to be with you, sadly...Just give her space and time. That's what she wants and needs right now. Giver her a month or two or even more. I know that's really hard, but sometimes you need to let go. She may want you back after that; she may not. It depends on how she is feeling. However, if you keep trying to talk and bother her it will just make her want to get away. If you want to get her back you need to stay away from each other for a significant amount of time.
You need to move on. She doesn't want to be with you anymore. 2.5 years is a long time to be in a relationship so be happy with the times you had together and go find the next big thing in your life. She was clear that she doesn't want to be with you anymore so leave her alone. You tried to see her once and she flat out rejected you. Trying to see her again will just leave her pissed off at you and leave you feeling hurt.
Text her tell her that you know something is up and tell her that you love her and you won't take no for an answer say even though she may be breaking up with you ask for an explanation you at least deserve that and the truth.
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