I recently wrote a story about a man who had played me like a fine violin and lead me to believe he liked me only to learn that he had a girlfriend (that was 1/3 his age; barely legal) and was also leading several women on. A friend and I were discussing this and he explained to me that on several occasions I ignored tell tale signs that would have spared me a lot of headache and heartache.
Due to the fact that his family and friends tell him that it is wrong to be a "playa hater" and "reveal trade secrets to women" I wanted to give the list to women to prevent them from having to go through the same ordeal that I did.
There are several things that can tip you off to the fact that someone is playing you and these were all told to me by a MALE friend, so it is inside info.
Indicator 1: If a man sings songs in a cute tone to describe a situation (like singing "Sugar, Sugar" because you said "sugar" instead of profanity).
Indicator 2: If someone constantly tells you how pretty you are, how talented you are, etc (milks you with complements).
Indicator 3: They will make statements like "You are the only girl for me" or asks you to "Be their woman" after a very short period of time.
Indicator 4: If you actually go out on a date and you ask if he would like to go out again, if he responds with "Absolutely", that is frequently (but not always) a tip off that they are not serious.
Indicator 5: If you are in a public area but not specifically WITH a man (you are just in the same proximity) and he whistles, rubs up against you frequently, etc to let you know that he is there.
Indicator 6: If a man makes excuses for damning existence that they are a possible player: For example, if someone states that she is dating the man and he later tells you "She is imagining things".
Indicator 7: If he tells you that he is indeed involved with another woman but he hates the way that she treats him or her idiosyncrasies and that he plans on leaving her soon so that you can be together.
Indicator 8: If he is frequently referring to his "6 pack", how "beautiful" he is or how "everybody loves him" (in short, if his ego is too inflated).
Indicator 9: If you begin to show little to no attention to him and he begins to intensify one of the previous indicators or shows you more attention.
Indicator 10: If he makes comments like "You deserve so much better", or "We need to get you some nicer things".
Indicator 11: If they make purring noises or suggestive comments to you.
Indicator 12: If they complain of stiff muscles or back cramps and ask you to massage them.
Indicator 13: If they ask for your photo or offer you a photo of them (but you are not in a boyfriend, girlfriend relationship).
Indicator 14: If they are reluctant to either accept you phone number or give you their number after you have communicated verbally for a long period of time.
Indicator 15: If they talk about financial difficulties (like speaking of how unexpected expenses came up which may hamper their ability to go on a scheduled vacation) while well aware of your interest in them but don't ask you for assistance, they are often (but not always) waiting for you to step in and offer it to them in an attempt to earn their affection.
Indicator 16: if you give them a token of affection, like a poem you wrote, something with sentimental value, or something that you spent a lot of time on like a hand designed rug and it doesn't seem to affect them at all.
Indicator 17: If any time something seems amiss, they blame it on gossip or the actions of others, they may be trying to cover their own tracks.
These are just some of the indicators detailed to me by my friend. I will follow up this story with more tip offs very soon. As I previously noted, although not all people who do these things are players, master players or veteran players (people who have mastered their craft into an art form) these are often warning signs that someone may fall into one of the categories. I had a run in with someone that I would deem a veteran player and he took me for a roller coaster ride of emotions. That is behind me now but I want to use my knowledge to help protect others from such a scenario.
I am not by any standard saying that all men have bad intentions. There are many kind hearted men in this world that often have trouble finding a loving woman as a result of the players in this world that prey on women and we constantly fall into their traps. We need to stay on guard, not only to protect our own hearts but to save our emotions for the people who deserve them.
Due to the fact that his family and friends tell him that it is wrong to be a "playa hater" and "reveal trade secrets to women" I wanted to give the list to women to prevent them from having to go through the same ordeal that I did.
There are several things that can tip you off to the fact that someone is playing you and these were all told to me by a MALE friend, so it is inside info.
Indicator 1: If a man sings songs in a cute tone to describe a situation (like singing "Sugar, Sugar" because you said "sugar" instead of profanity).
Indicator 2: If someone constantly tells you how pretty you are, how talented you are, etc (milks you with complements).
Indicator 3: They will make statements like "You are the only girl for me" or asks you to "Be their woman" after a very short period of time.
Indicator 4: If you actually go out on a date and you ask if he would like to go out again, if he responds with "Absolutely", that is frequently (but not always) a tip off that they are not serious.
Indicator 5: If you are in a public area but not specifically WITH a man (you are just in the same proximity) and he whistles, rubs up against you frequently, etc to let you know that he is there.
Indicator 6: If a man makes excuses for damning existence that they are a possible player: For example, if someone states that she is dating the man and he later tells you "She is imagining things".
Indicator 7: If he tells you that he is indeed involved with another woman but he hates the way that she treats him or her idiosyncrasies and that he plans on leaving her soon so that you can be together.
Indicator 8: If he is frequently referring to his "6 pack", how "beautiful" he is or how "everybody loves him" (in short, if his ego is too inflated).
Indicator 9: If you begin to show little to no attention to him and he begins to intensify one of the previous indicators or shows you more attention.
Indicator 10: If he makes comments like "You deserve so much better", or "We need to get you some nicer things".
Indicator 11: If they make purring noises or suggestive comments to you.
Indicator 12: If they complain of stiff muscles or back cramps and ask you to massage them.
Indicator 13: If they ask for your photo or offer you a photo of them (but you are not in a boyfriend, girlfriend relationship).
Indicator 14: If they are reluctant to either accept you phone number or give you their number after you have communicated verbally for a long period of time.
Indicator 15: If they talk about financial difficulties (like speaking of how unexpected expenses came up which may hamper their ability to go on a scheduled vacation) while well aware of your interest in them but don't ask you for assistance, they are often (but not always) waiting for you to step in and offer it to them in an attempt to earn their affection.
Indicator 16: if you give them a token of affection, like a poem you wrote, something with sentimental value, or something that you spent a lot of time on like a hand designed rug and it doesn't seem to affect them at all.
Indicator 17: If any time something seems amiss, they blame it on gossip or the actions of others, they may be trying to cover their own tracks.
These are just some of the indicators detailed to me by my friend. I will follow up this story with more tip offs very soon. As I previously noted, although not all people who do these things are players, master players or veteran players (people who have mastered their craft into an art form) these are often warning signs that someone may fall into one of the categories. I had a run in with someone that I would deem a veteran player and he took me for a roller coaster ride of emotions. That is behind me now but I want to use my knowledge to help protect others from such a scenario.
I am not by any standard saying that all men have bad intentions. There are many kind hearted men in this world that often have trouble finding a loving woman as a result of the players in this world that prey on women and we constantly fall into their traps. We need to stay on guard, not only to protect our own hearts but to save our emotions for the people who deserve them.
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