What do you consider to be a “Real Man”?

[sparkly-crystal]

I think a real man puts his partner and his children on a pedestal, knows when to stand up for what he believes to be true, knows when to back off on things and issues that don't matter and good at math lol.

[redeyemindtricks]

Do you have something to stand for, in life? Do you know what yr core values are?

If there's a conflict between what's popular and what's right, will you stand on the side of what's right?

Can you hold yr positions and convictions, in the face of people who are opposed to you? Can you stand up against pressure?

Do you have an honest understanding of yr strengths and weaknesses, both personal and professional? Are you willing to acknowledge yr weaknesses, face them, and work on bettering yourself?

Can you distinguish between real friends and fake friends? Are you loyal to yr real friends, even when they aren't perfect people?

Can you identify toxic relationships and negative influences, and distance yourself from them -- even if it's painful to do so?
If these people are close friends or family, will you help them, and give them "tough love"?

Do you look for chances to bring up others who are down, rather than chances to knock others down?
When you interact with people, do you leave them better off than before? Do you try to learn what you can from them, no matter who they might be, and no matter how much you might disagree with them?

Can you settle disputes and arguments in a mature manner, rather than letting stupid rivalries fester and escalate?

In times of crisis, can you remain calm -- perhaps even calmer than at other times? Can you direct the situation rationally and with sensible priorities? Can you ignore what needs to be ignored in order to do so, loud or tempting as it may be?

As a leader, can you comfortably defer to the advice of those more knowledgeable than you?

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Most importantly -- Do you ALWAYS keep yr word? Do you NEVER break yr promises?

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If those answers are all Yes, then, congratulations, you've earned yr man card. You make the world a better place, by being you.

If there are still some No's in there, then, work on those things.

[redeyemindtricks]

Tx for the MH luv <3

[juliaaa]

Someone who knows how to be a good person and treat others properly, not just women, but other men too. A real man isn't an asshole. I don't think being the breadwinner or having muscles or shooting guns is the definition at all.

[vonasaurus]

a "real" man:

-is faithful;
-takes responsibility for himself and his actions;
-respects his partner as an equal;
-does not abuse his strength.

(this goes for both genders, really.)

[Anonymous]

The Biblical story of the Hebrew Judge Shimshon (his name meaning a man of the Sun, shemesh in most ancient Middle Eastern languages) is one to hail and follow by all men today. Indeed, the tale is one of glorious victories, subservient loyalty to a higher cause, leadership and modesty – on the one hand. The rise and fall of Shimshon on the other hand is also a warning sign, a broad red flag placed there thousands of years ago by men wiser than us today.
In an era when suffering, death, and hard work were not unknown terms from mouldy history books but rather everyday realities, people still knew the value of educational guides on being a man of virtue, a leader, a prophet and a warrior.
Shimshon was certainly all of them: and the reasons he failed in the end are written on the wall with grim letters, staring at us today and cautioning us on all the vices that might take hold of a brave man, even one as brave and wise as Shimshon. In this article we will examine the positive side of Shimshon’s life and deeds.
Shimshon was exceptionally strong and tall. Added to his earthly strength was the strength of God: Hebrew tradition holds that he could lift two mountains and break them into little pieces with his bare hands. His shoulders were supposedly so broad, that even later religious authorities had to point out that this part of the tale was probably fiction.

[Opinion Owner]

“as he approached the vineyards of Timnah, suddenly a young lion came roaring toward him. The Spirit of the Lord came powerfully upon him so that he tore the lion apart with his bare hands as he might have torn a young goat. But he told neither his father nor his mother what he had done.”
Gentlemen, is a passage of Scripture that should be engraved upon seats of height for all men to see. Which one of us could handle a healthy young lion, in its prime of strength and agility, charging at us from an ambush, with nothing to protect ourselves with? Shimshon had slain the beast without a sword or shield; for sure, not many Biblical characters could claim to have achieved a feat such as this. And this is the part where all men should take notes: he said nothing of the whole affair.

[Opinion Owner]

Let us analyze the story a little further. Shimshon went on a “date,” so to say – he definitely did have the intention of approaching a young and attractive female with the aim of making her his lover. In a similar situation most emasculated Western men would arrive with a list of their “deeds” to recite in vain hopes a quick shag. Shimshon did not do so: in fact, he did not even utter a single word about his heroic act.
Make no mistake, she was just as much of a game player as modern chicks.
Make no mistake, she was just as much of a game player as modern chicks.
Did he have a reason to brag? Although he sure was a man of splendid physical attributes, he could still have expected the Philistine woman to put him through a series of tests. If he did have such expectations, he had certainly been proven correct. Only a few lines later the Bible says, as Shimshon did not share the solution of a secret riddle with the woman in question, she “threw herself on him,

[Opinion Owner]

‘You hate me! You don’t really love me. You’ve given my people a riddle, but you haven’t told me the answer.’”
In case you don’t realize what this means, here is the answer: this, gentlemen, is the proof that women have been giving men shit tests to solve for thousands of years. Yes, even if you are a Judge of the Lord Almighty himself, bitches will still hurdle tests and riddles at you.
Yet Shimshon said nothing. He kept the story for himself, just like he didn’t brag about his other accomplishment, slaying a thousand enemies with a jawbone of a dead donkey – a story which the Scripture shares with us later on.
Alpha Males Don’t Brag Either. Keeping your positive secrets, your great deeds and your truly remarkable achievements can be a vast source of inner strength and pride. It gives you the option of merely smiling when people ask you about your exploits and silently saying: “I don’t get around much.”
Women will instantly feel that it isn’t true, and they will feel a deep urge

[Opinion Owner]

Women will instantly feel that it isn’t true, and they will feel a deep urge to find out what you are hiding. While they do, they will cling at you for the rest of your – fleeting or more serious – relationship.

Nothing says “high value male” more clearly than achieving much and sharing little. Shimshon knew this, and it unquestionably is a lesson that men today should internalize. Shimshon, then, was in possession of a number of alpha male qualities – but also a number of weaknesses of character, which evidently led to his downfall,

[lightbulb27]

The pedestal part can be misinterpreted and can be poison in relationships.

* Has high self esteem and Is confident in himself and his opininons, but he has an open mind to listen and grow.
* Knows how to communicate, have fun, and engage with people. He shows his dominance in conversation, intelligence.
* Learns how to love people where they are at and how they need to be loved.
* He gives positive energy rather than needing from other people
* I'd say he has a source of love, which is God/Jesus. That said, I've seen men without that.
* He knows when to pick his battles and what is important to fight for vs let someone else handle it.
* He undersatnds women enough to manage the relationship successfully. for example... that women need to vent verbally and he doesn't have to fix things, jut listen, etc..

[Jackwagon]

One who has the proper chromosomes and genatalia required for the classification.

Now if you were to ask me what being a "good man" is, I'd list the following qualities.

Firstly a good man is honest. This integrity should encompass all areas of his life whether it be in word or deed.

Secondly a good man values knowledge and the power that it provides. He should never take this power for granted as that would make him a fool.

Thirdly a good man has established himself firmly in the world around him, taking stock of the things that matter such as his family and freinds. He is loyal to them and to his own honor as a man of compassion.

These are but three basic requirements, but nonetheless you will find these characteristics in any good man, or woman for that matter. Just replace the male pronoun with a female one and it works just as well.

[Bandit74]

Someone who can open jars

https://i.imgur.com/NCgC96v.gif

[sparkly-crystal]

lmaooo

[RandomBritishGuy94]

I hate this saying. I'll be whatever kind of man I want to be. If you don't like it that's your problem. I'm not going to be defined by what others think I should be.

Nothing angast the question but I really hate people that claim "Real man would/should..." or tell anyone to "man up". It devalues men that are going through life with mental health problems or is simply used as an excuse not to accept someone who isn't as male as a women would like.

[RandomBritishGuy94]

angast =against *

Stupid typing. :(

[Fearless_banana]

A real man doesn't listen listen to tumblr/instagram phaggy memes that tell them what real men are.

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So cringe when I see these on my feed.

[Polocrew]

One with real dick lol most dudes that are obsessed with being "real men" are ones that are too insecured about their own "manhood" and have napolean complex or shit lol

[sparkly-crystal]

i agree

[AssJacket]

There's a lot of truth to this, but I think guys that act like little boys and/or bitches probably also don't think about it too much either.

[heavensgift2girls]

Mostly I consider a "real man" to be a guy that is so insecure in his masculinity, that he lets other people define how he should act in order to be seen as a man. As soon as a guy starts in the "real man" speech, I instantly lose respect for him.

[zagor]

What are you talking about? Most real men don't go around calling themselves that.

[MakeShiftThug]

A man is an adult male.
A real man describes characteristics of a male that a society or culture delineates as masculine.

What I consider to me a "real man" is male human being ( the homogamatic sex ) That is responsible, mature and who largly possesses positive qualities.

I do not consider females that have "transitioned" as real men. I maintain that they are still femail as from my understanding of science: it is not possible for human beings to change sex.

[BiscuitesSwag]

A "real man" is a man that was born with a penis and testicles due to the Y chromasoma.

[sparkly-crystal]

yeah that too

[MakeShiftThug]

I concur

[MakeShiftThug]

However I still consider men who have been born without genitals as a result of a medical disorder to be men.

[BiscuitesSwag]

@MakeShiftThug
I mentioned the Y chromasoma thing.

[Yumix]

this

[Anonymous]

I'd talk about Y chromosomes but even that doesn't really do it.

It's basically nothing, it's kind of nonsensical to me. It's a term that means nothing beyond the nouns that compose it. Like if you just called me a pineapple puncher, if I'm literally punching pineapples then it's like 'ok so nice of you to notice I guess lol', if not then it's just nonsense and I'm flabbergasted.

To follow from your interpretation; women don't have to do any of that?

[mooky06]

A real man to me takes responsibility for his actions and decisions, his respectful, is not afraid to speak his mind and fights for what he believes in.

[Yumix]

I'd expect the same from a girl.

[mooky06]

@Yumix mm I think the definition is to just stay true to themselves and other people they have in their life. I find that to be a "real" man

[Anonymous]

Someone who takes care of his responsibilities, makes things happen on his own (or at-least doesn't *abuse* charity), is the master of his own life (he plans for things rather than just letting the chips fall where they may and the consequences be damned), treats people how he wants to be treated, and is *eager* to work to take care of himself and help take care of others

[Anonymous]

- Confidence
- Physically strong
- Tall in height
- Deep voice
- Able to stand up for himself
- Keeps his emotions to himself
- Mature
- Respects women
- Intelligence
- Not homosexual
- Not transgender
- Success driven
- Financially stable
- Practical talents

[HandsomeRaj]

I couldn't agree more with you young lady <3 + holds the door open, holds out the chair, pampers his partner & kid (s) ...

[Anonymous]

To me this is dumb. Everyone has there definition of what a "real" man is, so the answers are irrelevant. I am 5'8, baby faced, and still get called a baby on a daily basis, but I am still a man. Whatever floats your boat though.

[Anonymous]

As other here have said, though perhaps not as directly, the first thing you must do to be a real man is not give a flying shit what anybody else thinks a real man is.

It's a Zen thing.

[AleDeEurope]

A real man doesn't let others determine his manliness.

[clampfan101]

Aside from the math part, I agree with you. lol I'm sure I'd be good with the partner and kids part, and know I am good at the rest. (Even math, sometimes. lol)

[AssJacket]

There's a lot of behaviors I think constitute a "Real Man", but the major difference is that he doesn't act like a child. A lot of adult males have problems with that one.

[TheSpartan]

-Is strong.
-Has character.
-Is successful in whatever pursuit.
-Is wickedly confident and unyielding.
-Has a high self-esteem.
-Is in good health.
-Does well with women.

[realname]

a real men is someone who is able to control he's life, he understand what he wants and does what its need it while having values and ethic he would use as guide and never broke