In the past year, I’ve had no less than five different girls cheat on their boyfriends or husbands—or attempt to cheat—with me. I’m not talking about seedy hookups on Tinder where I found out the girl was attached after I banged her, but normal girls I knew socially who decided I was the man they wanted to have an affair with. Some examples of the girls I’ve encountered:
●An Ivy League-educated housewife in her early twenties who tried to make a move on me when I visited her and her husband some time ago. She later divorced her husband so she could shack up with a friend of mine (and fellow manosphere blogger), then dumped him to get gangbanged by a bunch of survivalists in Wyoming.
●A young groupie of mine who flew out to hang out with me in upstate New York without disclosing the fact that she had a boyfriend back home.
●A girl who sent me unsolicited nudes despite having a boyfriend.
I’m not going to argue the morality of banging other mens’ wives. While I don’t take the view that I’m a moral innocent in these affairs, I’m also not going around looking for these girls; it was they who went after me. I don’t know exactly when my life turned into a Charles Bukowski novel, but I figure I should at least teach other guys what I’ve learned so they don’t end up with a jilted boyfriend’s baseball bat to the face.
Here’s how to tell when a girl you know socially is angling to suck your dick.
1. She drinks
People hate it when I (or others) point this out, but it’s the truth. If a girl drinks anything other than wine, Twisted Teas, or girly cocktails like daiquiris, she will cheat. It’s physics. It’s inevitable.
Alcohol is the lubricant that greases the cogs of male-female relations. It’s no coincidence that cultures and religions where drinking is verboten (e. g. Islam, Mormonism) are seriously screwed up. But when a girl drinks, her id is unchained and her superego is banished to the darkest corners of Hell. Her long-suppressed fantasies and desires come bubbling to the surface, and if you’re part of those fantasies, you better watch out.
2. She hates other girls
Girls who talk about how they “hate” other women or prefer hanging out with men (for example, one of the girls who cheated with me told me that she’s “afraid” of other women) are prime candidates for infidelity. These girls have more masculine personalities (even if they work harder at appearing feminine)
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It's instinct: he doesn't want to get cucked. He's probably extra paranoid because he's 50 while you're 28 and your friend is much closer to your age.
Sounds like he may not fully trust you yet. That's what you need to say to him. Reassure him that he is the only one you want and he needs to trust you that no matter what situation you end up in you're gonna do the right thing by him. I would also introduce your friend to him. Let him see how you two are together so he can be comfortable that your friend isn't gonna make a move on you. I know that he should just trust you but at his age I'm sure he's experienced more heartbreak and unfaithfulness. That makes a person learn that trust needs to be earned. Or at least to trust and not be blind to possible redflags. It's not easy to be in a long distance relationship and trust because you don't see your partners actions. You two need more physical time together to learn each other more. Relationships really take a lot of work learning to communicate, listen, and compromise. So if you love him don't give up on him. Just get him to understand that he needs to work on himself to figure out why and learn to trust you. Trust takes time to build so be patient. If he refuses to believe that he doesn't have a right to be upset about you seeing your male friend then that's a major red flag. We can't change what we don't acknowledge.
My partner is possessive as well. He's my first, so I guess he thinks he took my first time and owns me. He likes to say I am his, and only his.
Sometimes I think it's a turn-on that he's possessive, because it's good to feel desired, but a few times he will question me about things that I have not done. For example, if I talk to a male friend. His questions just came out of nowhere.
I would simply state the fact that he talks to other females and I don't question him, and that i don't have anything with my male friend (specific one who he questions), he doesn't need to be upset.
However, I don't show too much excitement or enthusiasm for my regular male friends, that's why I can justify my action when he questions.
Girllll I'm honestly not trying to be judgmental or anything but that's a really big age gap? Do you think it'll work like are you both on the same level in life because he's 50 so he might wanna settle and stuff I personally think it's too much of a age idffrnce like I remember myself i was talking to this guy who was 30 and I'm 19 and we liked each other but I stopped talking to him because we were at different points in life because of the age difference and I still act quieter young lol but hey who am I to say anything if you're happy that's what counts but him being possessed is definitely not a good sign!
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Casually reading then I read "he's 50 years old"
i.memeful.com/media/post/PRoemwo_700wa_0.gifYour boyfriend is right to be worried. 50 year old seeing a 28 year old girl makes for fun but doesn't have any future so he's going to hold on tight.
Do you want kids with this man?
Do you want to be his nurse in his old age?
Do you want to put him in the ground if you sticl around?
If yes to all 3, then you might have a future with him. Otherwise one of y'all are wasting time.it means he is insecure.
It is rather unusual that someone his age would be insecure like that, and that should be a red flag for you.There is a healthy level of protectiveness and then there is sheer insecurity. He knows he's struck gold landing a 20 something year old and he is terrified that he'll lose you.
50-28 huh... i guess he doesn't like to compete with those young whippersnappers lol.
You have to protect what's yours. I'm really possessive of my boyfriend. I gotta keep those hoes far away. He's MINE.
That's quite an age gap.
But he's probably possessive out of jealousy and insecurity. I dated 2 girls like that this year who were so possessive and controlling that I couldn't hang out with friends and do hobbies without them accusing me of seeing others and playing them. It was insanity."he admits he doesn't want to say it cause he's terrified of saying it"
So he's basically saying he loves you but is terrified of actually saying it? Forget he's also 50 years old, it just sounds a bit pathetic.
But you're bothered he's possessive instead... like most guys, whether they show it or not.Guys who weren't possessive raised other men's children and died out of the gene pool.
Possessiveness in the slight is natural for all males , although over possessiveness becomes negative and a threat to relationships. It does spell insecurity once breaching over that thin blue line , which can spell all different types of problems.
I think girls get more possessive honestly. guys just show it more openly. But I think this happens because people feel competitive.
Probably for the same reasons why women get possessive.
Girls are just as bad and it seems these days that cheating is a normal accepted part of society
Being possessive is a good thing lmao once a guy has had sex with you and had been with you for a long time he feels like your his and that's finale lmao. But can you really blame him
Some men just have a protective nature. However, being truly "possessive" is a negative quality and signifies a jealous or insecure partner. That's something you should steer clear of.
Nononono honey
Men doesn't get possesive
He does
And it's red flag
Fuck the all the biological things he can test to know he's father or not this 2016
It's just huge sign that he can be abusive and opress you some dayI'm not really sure why this is so confusing to so many people. Simply stated it has to do with basic evolutionary psychology surrounding jealousy.
Because a girl gets a wild hair and starts doing things to make us men suspicious
That is male animal instinct to be posessive about his mate. Also he's old as fuck so that explains the insecurity
same reason crazy women date men that are old enough to be their dad, they have issues and they can't get with anyone better. Needless to say, guys your age will be much calmer.
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