What's wrong with being desperate?

[993099142]

Why is that everyone male or female dislike people who are "desparate?" What does "desparate" even mean? Does it mean you need love, respect and attention?

[Atomizer]

Desperation is a sign of panic or fear. If you're thirsty, you get a drink, but if you're desperate for water it means you life or health are at risk if you don't get a drink.

Same with relationships. It can be great to have a boyfriend or girlfriend. But if you're desperate for a partner, it might mean you're terrified of being alone, or that you'll tolerate abuse simply to have a partner. Desperation comes from the panic or fear you feel about losing a partner, or about being alone.

That's why desperation is not a good trait.

[SLL2019]

being desperate in my point of view is being someone that cannot live independently. The depend on someone else to make them happy to make them feel self worth. If you are alone one day and you are completely miserable becauise you need someone there to cheer you up and you cannot be happy until someone comes to make you happy, that is desperate and that is being dependent on other people to make you who you are. A lot of guys like girls that have there own thing going on and don;t need them around 24/7 so they don;t get miserable.

[Anonymous]

Everyone needs love, respect, and attention but if you go around begging for it from people then it makes you desperate. Desperate means no confidence, too eager to please, they try to hard..It's just pathetic really. I think everyone has been desperate at some point in their lives but you don't wanna live life that way. Desperate people get taken advatage of, used, and/or ignored.

[gravygirl]

Have you ever dealt with a desperate person? They're hard to be around. Every step forward is greeted with overwhelming enthusiasm and every step backwards is huge drama. It's painful. No one wants that.

[shadowcat517]

Being desperate means that you constantly need affection. Like, every second of the day, regardless if the other person has other things to do. And also, doing whatever other people tell you to, no matter what. Chasing a person who rejected you or clearly doesn't want to be near you is "desperate."