Why am I so desperate to fall in love?

[Anonymous]

So i am being really desperate to fall in love. I am dying to find someone who i love and he loves me truly back. I just want affection and finally want to start dating a guy who truly and genuinely cares about me and loves me for the way i am. Is it wrong that i think like that? I just want to find my true love...

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+1 y

Well what i am trying to say is that of course many people want love. But i am being desperate. I have been feeling bad and too lonely that i don't have someone who loves me romantically.

[Quidthonian]

I think your desperation to fall in love comes down to your personality type. I believe that you need other people in your life. I also feel lonely, I'm also out of a relationship. I also would want true love.

It is OK to be desperate. However, in your desperation, you may make a mistake. The other person could see you as an easy target for nasty things.

"The Universe" has been teaching me a very important lesson lately: Patience. I have been out of a job for over one year, I moved out to my own apartment, I moved to a new country. I'm burning up my life savings. Yet, I am constantly getting the message "be patient."

[D_Bone_Steak]

Where have you been finding partners? That would be my starting point question and you probably already know why, so I won't go into it. There's plenty of dudes that want the same thing but they're not going to be in the places everyone goes to just get laid. You feel me?

[Asker]

Ah i can kinda understand what u mean... Thank you!

[JKingOff]

I wouldn't recommend dating until you're 18 unless you live in a state with the Romeo and Juliet act. Other wise one of you could end up in trouble if you turn 18 before the other person does. Also, your feelings of anxiety, depression, and loneliness could have something to do with your raging hormones if you're still going through puberty. It's best to go into a relationship with out those emotions weighing you down.

[YHL6965]

Do you feel lonely? Do you feel like you have not felt enough affection in your life so far, particularly from your parents? If yes to both, then you have your explanations. You have been lacking affection, love and so you desperately want a relationship to hopefully get some love and affection.

[Asker]

Like u have read my mind woah. Its like that i guess. I have been drifting apart with my parents lately. They don't show me much affection when i need them the most

[YHL6965]

I know how it feels and it hurts quite a bit. Unfortunately, there is not much you can do about them. However, I would be careful about relationships and expecting them to bring you the love and affection you have because you might have lower self-esteem, maybe partly because of the lack of affection from your parents, and you might be trying to fill a lack of self-love with external love, and it does not work.

I'm telling you all of that because I went through this and trust me when I say it can actually make you feel worse if you don't love yourself first. If you want, I can tell you in more details how it hurts but I would highly suggest loving yourself first before trying to love someone else.

[Asker]

After reading what u wrote really made me go into deep thoughts. You are actually right. Maybe i should try loving myself. Its terribly hard and i have been too depressed about this. But thanks a lot and sorry you had to go through it. Hope ur happy with ur life right now ❤

[YHL6965]

The thing is, if you don't love yourself, you will constantly run after this love and affection, it will feel like it's never enough and you will still feel that void from the lack of self-love. It's really not a nice feeling and it might make you feel like your partner does not love you.

Right now, I'm sort of taking a break from relationships because of that, because I realized that this lack of self-love slowly chips at relationships and might turn a good relationship into one where you suffer.

I'm not yet at a point where I can consider myself truly happy but thanks for your kind words!

Do you want to talk about what is making you depressed or why you don't love yourself? If it can help you feel better, feel free to talk about it. I'm not here to judge you.

[Asker]

I can feel u. Its actually better for you to take a break for now. I would love to talk to you. Thank you so much. How about u message me?

[YHL6965]

I agree, I don't want to suffer and make someone suffer with me while it's my responsibility to love myself. No problem, feel free to PM me.

[Anonymous]

It's not "wrong", but potentially dangerous. You might just pick any guy/relationship because of these feelings and it end up being a bad one. This happens sometimes. So don't be too "desperate", ie, keep your common sense and don't "settle". You're better off happy and single than in a bad or abusive relationship that you are "stuck" in.

[boggboss]

Wrong no but can lead you to being taken advantage off

[es20490446e]

https://youtu.be/bMBKnwX8Ay0

[Anonymous]

Because you dont love yourself, also because you are a human.

[Opinion Owner]

Right, because you dont love yourself so you are trying to fill the hole inside you with something outside of yourself, another person, drink, drugs, smoking, food, sex, money, attention, etc

[Unit1]

I can relate to that. I'm the same way.

You and I just want love. Nothing wrong with that.

[DaMack999]

Ur 18 we all felt same way at your age it's normal. Chill.

[Anonymous]

No you're not wrong to rhink like that. A lttle immature but not wrong.

[Twalli]

Not at all. I wish more people did this.

[Meatunnel69]

Yep you are a human

[Anonymous]

Don't hold your damn breath. Keep on dreaming.