Wow...
Happy Birthday...
Don't feel so bad...
It has been 6 months...
Care to explain why you 2 broke up in the first place?
That would really allow us to help you better...
But you can't expect him to rush over after 6 months...
Thats not fair, I'm sorry...
I know how it feels to lose a relationship, but you have to keep that head up, and move on.
Check out this poem...
Sincerely,
A Loving Black Man
"So You Can Cry"
So, it's over
He's with someone else and you know her
And you just can't get any lower
Sit in the dark alone
And won't answer your phone
Well
I'm sorry
I won't attend your pity party
I'd rather go have calimari
Life isn't long
There will be pain but
Life goes on
With every day, a brand new song
But, if you'd rather stay at home
Let me do you a favor...
I'll ask the sun to shine
Away from you today
So you can cry
& I'll ask the clouds to bring
The rain for you today
So you can cry
I'm a lover
And the pain of hurt from another
Can be difficult to recover
Yes, this I know
But difficult
Isn't impossible
And you shiver
He wouldn't want you to cry
Lips quiver
Honey, go on and cry me a river
You wanna be down?
Fine, let me help you out
How 'bout...
And your tears won't bring him back
I know you wish that they did
But it just don't work like that..
I know that healing takes take time
Hey, even your heart has a pace
But, how much time are you gonna take?
Too much would be a mistake...
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Well, as a guy...
I can see your reasoning as valid, but how sure are you that he's messing with her?
Unless you walk in on them, its going to always be an assumption.
If you want this guy back, then say so, but if you don't, you really seem to care too much.
If your right about the situation, then yea, he's an idiot for getting involved, but that's still his life.
Maybe he's trying to help her get on her feet. Maybe she talks to one of his friends.
I don't know what you want to hear, but my advice would be not to worry about it.
It sounds like it will not work from the beginning.
But who knows? Only him and her.
So make a choice, get him back or let him fly...
Sincerely,
A Loving Black Man
alright here's the thing. he is quite possibly, and I mean this in the nicest way, sick of his "type". after being in a relationship for 9 years, often times its nice to have a change. his "type" of women might remind him of your guys' relationship. so, though he might still find himself attracted to that kind of women, he might purposely be trying to steer clear of them. As for the woman at work, I think that you might be being a little harsh on her. since you spent 9 years with him, my guess would be that your ex was a great guy. is a great guy. can you blame this woman for going after a man as great as your ex when he is clearly expressing interest in her? I just think that after nine years there has bound to be some deep seated jealousy building up for any woman who either he goes after or goes after him. but you have to move on. scrutinizing every woman that becomes a part of his life will do nothing. they don't deserve that. he doesn't deserve that. hell, you don't deserve that. you deserve to spend your time enjoying your newly acclaimed independence, or getting out there and looking for mr. right.
Sounds like he just wants to get laid. That would explain why he's fooling around with some skinny, 'young' thing with nothing going for her. As to why, maybe he needs an ego boost or maybe he's venting sexual frustrations while he tries to figure his life out.
It's really strange, and I'm sorry for what you're going through. I wish I could be of more help. :(
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you've been with the same guy for nine years and he hasn't asked you to marry him?
and then he drops you for a hussy?
he's just not that into you then.
move on. get over it. you probably deserve better. you're crazy to want back something like that.
if you're together for nine years and he doesn't want to make you his wife, something is wrong.Which means... If you're hoping for a chance to reconcile with him, and you "know" that she's not his type, then the odds fall well in your favor. We as men have phases. And sometimes, we go after the opposite of what our type is. It's more curiosity than anything else. I don't know why you guys broke up, but I hope what you need is what you get. Cheers.
Who knows why he he is with her? If you are not interested in being with him, don't worry about it because it shouldn't effect you. I suspect, however, that after being with him for nearly a decade, there are some feelings you may have. Probably best to acknowledge those feelings but also set up some distance from him. You don't want to be involved with his new relationship.
Hi Hun, Going through exactly the same thing. Was with him 8 years broke up with me 6 months ago and he got a new girlfriend after 2 months - However I think more like 2 days!
I don't think she's dog ruff but not his type at all - well I thought she wouldn't be cause I thought I knew him but obviously didn't. Still feeling sh*tty bout it but what can we do. Just let him learn from his mistakes.Sometimes what some1 has had for most of their life is not truly what they want. Maybe he got bored and decided to chg it up? Its possible or maybe he finally realized what he does like and its something that she offers him. You obviously could not know him that well - as this shocks you to your core and if you truly were what he wanted, he'd still be yours.
Dude.
You've been broke up for half a year. AND he's going after some trash?
Be thankful you've gotten out of a relationship with him. He sounds like an idiot.The term rebound describes this situation perfectly. Don't let it bother you cause he's only looking for comfort.
Who knows! May be it is mid-life crisis. May be he has gone mad.
But why do you still care? He is an adult. He can take care of himself. You are not his mother!He might be trying to make you jealous since you all work together. If you like him then talk to him about it and tell him that you still like him. If not then just leave him to do what he wants becuase he's also an adult.
I don't think this will last. I think that since ya'll was and a long relationship, that he was too bored, and wanted to go out and do some crazy things now. I think he will definately come back to you. He just need time right now. I hope he doesn't want to get serious with that kind of girl.
Actions speak louder than words. He can say what he wants, she might even know what he says. But she also knows whose bed he's in, which says more than anything.
Happy Birthday at least. You're above ground. That's the most important thing of all. The hell with him
it won't last...just be patient and flirt with other guys
Have you considered letting him give you a facial?
well did you tell him how you feel
nope, won't last,
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