I think I should seek counseling but I'm nervous. Have you ever had counseling, therapy, etc?

[Anonymous]

My self esteem is basically s***. Everyone thinks I'm confident but I force myself into a false sense of confidence. I'm scared of people judging me and I try to act "normal." I try to be nice to everyone and do things for them so they'll like me. I always feel lonely. I don't talk to anyone about how I feel because I don't want them to reject me. I've never had a serious relationship and after some bad times I push away every guy that I have a fling with because I'm convinced that once they get to know me they'll realize there's nothing to love and walk away anyway.

I feel like I should go to counseling but I don't want them to give me medication or tell me I'm crazy. Have your ever been? How did you decide to go?

I'm asking anon because I'm embarrassed.

[Victorianna]

There's nothing to be ashamed about. It's surprising how many people feel the way you do and who are seeing a counsellor. It just shows you have been struggling on your own for far too long , and just need a little extra support and encouragement from a professional. Not everyone needs medication , but you could always tell him that medication is not an option you want to take. There's many other alternative therapies/treatments. He will tailor the treatment to your needs. You don't have to do anything you don't want to do. He will make suggestions, but in the end it's up to you if you apply it in your life,

It's good that you recognise you need help. Now all you need to do is motivate yourself to seek the help you feel you need. Good luck :)

[AzureGirl]

I've been to counseling before because of family issues. It was a good experience and it helped me. If you think it'll help you then by all means, go. You know yourself best.

[TheBootyChest]

You sound like most people in the world today. You just have a bit more courage to say something about it. I am glad that you did.

I think whether you need it or not you should still go to a counselor just so you can talk and get things off your chest. I think it will help you no matter what.

[TheBootyChest]

Thanks for the vote.

I have the same issues that you do. But I can't fake any confidence. I still have a hard time talking to people in public unless I already know them.

I am more than happy to talk to you if you want.

[Zendrya]

They won't give you medication most likely. Nor will they tell you you are crazy... You have a little anxiety. It isn't a big deal. Just go talk to someone.