Skinny Shaming Is Real

[Anonymous]

** I don't intend to offend anyone in any way **

I know fat shaming is a thing. Something important that is relevant to society now. But I think the fact that we're focusing on supporting those girls that are a little bit bigger, has caused us to turn our attention the other way.

How Is It Real?

Have you ever heard anyone say any of the following to a skinny person (or something like this):

- Go eat something.

- Are you anorexic?

- Are you bulemic?

- Are you sick?

- Do you have an eating disorder?

- Do you think that being skinny makes you prettier?

- You're so fake.

- You're too skinny.

- Real women have curves.

- Bones are for dogs.

- What's wrong with you?

- Do you starve yourself?

- You look like a skeleton

- Go gain some weight.

- You're not attractive.

If you have, that is proof that skinny shaming is a real thing.

Pop Culture

The picture above is from Meghan Trainor's All About That Bass music video, a video encouraging girls with a little more meat to accept themselves. Trainor is a positive role model for lots of young girls.

However, as she tries to encourage those women, she shames those who are skinny. She says: "Boys like a little more booty to hold the night." In my eyes, she's saying men don't like skinny women, which implies that in order for a man to love you, you can't be skinny. And I think it's things like this, skinny shaming in pop culture, that makes it seem okay to other people to skinny shame. Another example in pop culture would be Nicki Minaj's Anaconda. The whole song is one big f*ck you to skinny people, but the one line that stood out to me, and really surprised me was: "F*ck those skinny b*tches in the club." You absolutely can not deny the fact that she dislikes/ disapproves of skinny girls.

Social Media:

Skinny shaming online is pretty self explanatory. The acceptance of skinny shaming spread through social media. More people see it and more people think it's okay.

Just Remember:

There is beauty in everything, just not everyone sees it.

[RainbowFanGirl]

I've been on both sides of the spectrum for both skinny and fat shaming. I was a skinny kid, and people laughed at me for that. Then when I was fat, people laughed at me yet again. There's no pleasing anybody. Fat people get shamed... skinny people get shamed... everyone gets shamed for what they look like on the outside, but nobody ever takes into count what they are like on the inside. I guess physical appearance is everything in this society.

How about we stop criticizing people's bodies and focus on ourselves for once?

[ConsultantIsBack]

Everyone is body shamed. Once upon a time everyone just would strive to be healthy and fit, and not belittle others. It'd be nice if we could go back to being like that I think.

[VermillionLies]

^^^this

[ConsultantIsBack]

@VermillionLies thanks!

[nalaa]

I kinda disagree with your premise here, which is that people typically shame skinny and accept fat ones. But that's not really true, it's way worse than that.

People don't accept fat women at all. It's curves that they accept and praise. People like Kim Kardashian or Nicky minaj, or whatever Instagram model is in style these days.
And that's not realistic for anyone. Well most women. It doesn't matter if you can't gain weight or can't lose it, you probably won't look like the girls in the first picture you posted. Even women that get so much praise for their bodies, like let's say jen selter don't look like that. She is fairly open about having had butt surgery. It's not common to have a tiny, flat stomach and massive butt and boobs. It doesn't work like that. And yet that is what is praised and advertised. And chubby girls feel bad because they can't live up to that, and skinny girls feel the same way. No one wins here really

I also I really am baffled that people always pick on the all about the bass thing, because Anaconda came out about the same time and as there ever been more body shaming in a song, ever?

"By the way, what he say?
He can tell I ain't missing no meals"

"He keep telling me it's real, that he love my sex appeal
He said he don't like 'em boney, he want something he can grab
So I pulled up in the Jag, and I hit 'em with the jab like..."

"Little in the middle but she got much back
Oh my God (look at her butt)

My Anaconda don't...
My Anaconda don't...
My Anaconda don't want none unless you got buns hun"

"Yeah, he love this fat ass
Yeah! This one is for my bitches with a fat ass in the fucking club
I said, "Where my fat ass big bitches in the club?"
Fuck them skinny bitches,
Fuck them skinny bitches in the club
I wanna see all the big fat ass bitches in the motherfucking club"

I know you mentioned Anaconda but it's amazing to me this isn't more obvious to everyone. And notice she doesn't say she wants fat bitches? No she wants " fat ass bitches"

[Rawrzz]

If by "people" you mean "black people", then yes.

[nalaa]

@Rawrzz by people I meant men

[Rawrzz]

Maybe in Ireland. Not in the U. S.; unless you're talking about the black population whose aforementioned anacondas are known to be preferential to big buns... hun. I think location is a pretty important thing, here. OP's premise wasn't that fat people are accepted and skinny people are shamed. The premise was that it happens, to some degree. "I know fat shaming is a thing." Which I have to agree with, in the U. S. People do shame skinny people outwardly, while being very much accepting fat people. My BMI is like 19, and I constantly get people saying I'm 'too skinny' or "you need some meat on your bones" etc. Doesn't bother me, but it happens. It's a travesty if you say anything other than "Oh, that 1,200 pound walrus is so beautiful just the way she is." So, following suit, you must shame skinny people to some degree. Which follows suit with typical liberal-centric idea of tolerance which borders on intolerance. /Slavoj Zizek paraphrase on tolerance

[Mekkalyn]

@Rawrzz Have you ever been fat before?

My best friend was really skinny, and I was overweight most of our lives and I would always get picked on more than she would. There were always people ranting about how beautiful she was and how skinny she was, and then there'd be the people that would talk behind her back and say she's too skinny and whisper that she's anorexic. I have nice features and I'd often times get compliments on my face (and I was never obese, just overweight like 15-20 lbs), and I'd never get called beautiful or get half as many compliments, and there would be twice as many people talking about me and calling me fat. And I had bullies because of it. She never had bullies.

It's what I've seen all over. I've seen it from my sisters perspective (she's a younger generation), and she says that she only sees fat people getting made fun of, rarely skinny people.

Fat shaming is very real and prevalent. So is skinny shaming. Both are very horrible. I wish people were nice

[Mekkalyn]

But don't act like fat people are accepted, because by no means are they. As someone who has struggled with my weight almost my entire life, I can attest to that. I've been called every name in the book.

I've even thought that no one could ever love me because of all the hurtful things said and people saying that no one could ever love a fat chick.

Please, don't act like fat people are accepted and skinny people aren't. It's just as bad, if not worse in certain areas.

[nalaa]

@Rawrzz "you need some meat on your bones" that's something grandparents have said since the beginning of time. It's not skinny shaming, you're their baby and fat is healthy on babies. And people who didn't have enough to eat when they were and love you, want to make sure you're well fed

And I agree with @Mekkalyn I didn't say skinny or fat shaming doesn't exist but that the take owner makes it sound like fat has become accepted and skinny shaming is prevalent, it's not. What people usually mean when they say fat is acceptable is that curves are acceptable. Fat is not, people still get bullied for being fat in school and stuff.
I'm neither overweight nor skinny so I can see from a neutral ground and fat shaming sure as hell is more common

[Rawrzz]

No. I've never been fat before. You been skinny before? As a kid? *Everyone* got picked on when they were a kid. For *anything*. I dripped blood the whole way down the school hallways because some kid didn't like me, so he rammed my face into a wall. No reason

In the larger context of society, mentioning anything negative about fat people is sacrilege. People go apeshit over any slight slight

Do people 'accept" fat people? Is that a euphemism for wanting to fuck them? Then no. No racism towards fat people. They are simply unattractive to most. That's what fat people are all pissy about. "You should want to fuck me, too."

No one said skinny people have it easier. No one said fat people weren't shamed. You just said what this entire thing has been: both fat people and skinny people are shamed

People vary in attractiveness. What should society do? Equally distribute sexual attraction? Impossible. If someone doesn't like their body--or anything about their life--then endeavor to change

[nalaa]

@Rawrzz I wasn't picked on in school and the only girl I know that was, was a bigger girl

"Is that a euphemism for wanting to fuck them"- No not at all. If all you wanted to say is that both skinny and fat shaming is real, then I don't see the point of your comment since the take owner already said that, and I never disagreed with it

[Mekkalyn]

@Rawrzz No, not everyone got picked on as a kid, actually. Not from my personal experience anyways.. it was only the people who didn't conform or look every everyone else. And, I'm sorry that bullying happened to you, there's no excuse for it, but there's a difference between one person physically bullying you and multiple people emotionally tearing the crap out of your insides for the better part of a decade. All the way until I got the heck out of high school. There's a difference between one person disliking you for whatever reason, and people tearing you apart for being heavy or too skinny, or whatever, and telling you you'd be better of dead and that no one will ever love you. That has a huge emotional impact on someone.

And you know what, I'd be glad if what you were saying was true. If people really are starting to get angry over assholes have 0 respect for heavier people, I'm really glad.

But, sadly, I think you are mistaken and I have never received that behavior.

[Mekkalyn]

And you do realize that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, right?
There ARE people who don't freaking care if someone is 15-20 lbs overweight. They still see the person inside, and they still find their features attractive, and they still fall in love with the person.

Not everyone is that shallow. Obviously, you have to be attracted to someone. But not everyone sees a little bit of fat and acts like a jerk about it. And some people still find those types of people beautiful. My significant other tells me I'm beautiful and means it every day of our lives together and has helped me repair my very broken self-esteem. He doesn't see me as a "fat" person, but as someone that has a beautiful inside that is dedicated and loving to him.

[Mekkalyn]

And what happens if that skinny or athletic girl you married becomes heavier after children and with aging? Are you just gonna go "eh, you're ugly, see ya later"? Most people won't. Most people will still find their partner beautiful and recognize that the person they fell in love with is still there.

I think it's really rude of you to say that people don't want to have sex with fat people. Ignorant, too.

[Rawrzz]

OP, It wasn't my grandparents. I've gotten that kind of thing from a lot of people--not just "Your skinny" but also jokes and such. I never disclaimed anything from you except the traditional idea of beauty being "curvy". As for my recent comment, it was directed at Mekk. Black people are very well known to like fat asses, and yes, even fat women. It isn't the general ideal of beauty. The general idea is the medium build, a sleek physique. In traditional society, no, fat is not desired. It is unattractive. I wasn't arguing that. I was, however, arguing that a large chunk of society--most, in my perception--will defend fat people to the death, seemingly, and talk shit about skinny people. As I stated: U. S. liberal tolerance. It really is accepted, very much so. It is a liberal crime to call someone fat. It is a bottom-of-the-barrel sin. Like I said. In adult society. Which was what I thought we were talking about. Not high school typical drama.

[Rawrzz]

The primary divisive complaint here is the question of whether or not fat people are accepted in society--not high school. No? I never said skinny people are shamed more. And I don't recall if the Take Owner said so.

I am simply arguing that there is, at minimum, a very large wave of fat acceptance which often follows into skinny shaming. "Oh, that thigh gap is disgusting. Men like a woman with some 'cushion for the pushin' " The thigh gap gets especial attention and vehement hatred. A LOT of people protect fat peoples' poor lifestyles to the death. Even though there's an obesity *epidemic* with 35% of the American population being overweight. e. g. "fat acceptance" It does exist. That's what I'm saying.

[nalaa]

@Rawrzz Black people are very well known to like fat asses - well maybe so but in the last decade that that has made it into mainstream society and when I see comments on facebook praising some girls bit butt it's mostly white guys now.
This is the ideal now
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Not this
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and not this
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that's all I said in my answer really and that that ideal is not attainable for anyone really.

[Rawrzz]

Just look at popular pornstars. If we're talking about sexual preference, then I think it'd be natural to presume that pornstar popularity would mirror overall preference.

Asa Akira images.duckduckgo.com/.../

Lisa Ann, for some reason 3.bp.blogspot.com/.../Lisa_ann_.jpg

Dani Daniels s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/.../...405f1c4ae6.jpg

Jesse Jane www.appscrawler.com/.../ImageAction.do

And, well, my personal favorite: Madison Ivy www.rnningfool.com/.../...-Alex-Ardenti-small1.jpg

Moderate-big boobs, medium build, smaller waist to hip ratio, and a moderately sized-small-ish ass. That is what I believe is most preferred. Not big asses. Even then, Riley Reid is all around tiny, and still pretty popular.

And really, just look at marketing ploys. Victoria's Secret doesn't advertise big ass models for a reason. It's not what's overall desired. images.duckduckgo.com/.../

The thing is there's a difference between sexual preference and societal attitudes. Of course fat people aren't really seen as attractive. But there are some, in the West, who will defend their right to clog their arteries, to the death--and talk shit about skinny people. Sure they don't want to fuck fat people, but they do *accept* them.

[nalaa]

@Rawrzz no I wouldn't necessarily assume porn stars represent the beauty ideal, they are also what you can get. Women who do look ideal would be less likely to porn and more likely to be in other kind of media.
But well thanks for proving my point

"Moderate-big boobs, medium build, smaller waist to hip ratio, and a moderately sized-small-ish ass" you have just described what I've been saying all along. big boobs - small waist - medium butts. And let's face it a lot of porn stars have fake boobs or a rip taken out to get a smaller waist so it's not even attainable for them. Big asses is just one part of unrealistically curvy and there are plenty of porn stars that do have them, just because you picked a few that don't doesn't mean anything. And I never limited it to the butt, I literally said

" It's not common to have a tiny, flat stomach and massive butt and boobs. It doesn't work like that. And yet that is what is praised and advertised"

And I assume the whole comment was an

[nalaa]

attempt to distract from the fact that I am right about the pictures above about what is and isn't ideal.

Well all VS models are underweight, so is that what's desired? Also every-time I bring up underweight model some guys says that models are representative of what men but what mostly male gay designers want, which is to look like a little boy, so...
And actually they DO exaggerate curves by wearing massive push up bras (as advertised) but still I bet you didn't think of it.
Again not sure why you're focusing only butts, it's just part of it.

And even so I think most men are more accepting of skinny than fat. Like you said obesity causes some healthy problem but so does being underweight and when you point that most VS models are underweight and are risking their health by their crazy dieting a lot of men get upset and defensive. When yo u say something about bigger women, they're like whatever

[Rawrzz]

@_@ You say BIG BOOTY BITCHES! Or, well, fat ass bitches. Same thing. Fat. Not medium. o. o;;

https://pbs.twimg.com/media/B_gQTuuUwAI9MmG.jpg <---That's a fat, massive ass.
And I'm just going to say it was fucking hilarious trying to google search for "moderately sized ass bitches".

"She is fairly open about having had butt surgery. It's not common to have a tiny, flat stomach and massive butt and boobs. It doesn't work like that. And yet that is what is praised and advertised." That's what you said. Massive. o. o;

Also, I thought Jen Selter denied any sort of plastic surgery. She's supposed to be a fitness freak.

How would ideal looking women be less likely to do porn? There are some gorgeous pornstars, if beauty was a determiner of career, you would think there would be no beautiful women in porn.

Those particular VS models do not look underweight to me. They look like two of my exs, relatively. Same type of body. And they were healthy. And most little boys don't have boobs.

[Rawrzz]

wtf. >.> ... Anyway.

What are you talking about when you say "accepting". Attracted to? Socially concerned about? Like I said. There's a difference between attraction and social acceptance.

"Moderate-big boobs, medium build, smaller waist to hip ratio, and a moderately sized-small-ish ass" I said moderate. Not massive.

[nalaa]

@Rawrzz what the hell was that?

"BIG BOOTY BITCHES" No I would never say such a thing. That was from Anaconda, I clearly said curvy with the obsession about big butts being one example of it.

"those particular vs models do not look underweight to me" Oh I know they don't. That's the problem underweight looks desirable to us, but they ARE underweight, you can look up their stats, You here they have this show called supersize vs. superskinny where they show the diet of one overweight and one underweight person and in the comments you will find loads of people saying they didn't think the underweight people looked unhealthy at all, even though a doctor just told them they are. Even tho the girls admit they starve themselves. That's because we're conditioned to accept underweight as normal and normal as overweight.
The closest to a little boy a woman could come and those girls don't have boobs either. And hey it was not my argument just telling you what people tell me when,

[nalaa]

I point out that most models are underweight and men have an unhealthy preference for underweight women. They it's not men, it's gay men who want women to look like little boys. I don't buy it either, I still think men have an unhealthy preference for underweight women and aren't man enough to admit it

"massive" clearly used as an exaggeration, an extreme case. Do I really have to point out that curvy includes more than that?
But ya from what I see in porn and the media, up to some point, for boobs and butts, bigger is better. But there are obviously physical limits to that. It doesn't really happen, which is why won't find many porn starts with "massive" butts and boobs, but that doesn't mean it's not ideal. Medium is just the closest, women whose livelihood it is to appeal to men, can get

[Rawrzz]

I don't know. If someone is starving themselves, it won't matter what weight they're at. Anyone will be unehalthy, no matter their weight, if they're not eating. That could have simply been a ploy--perhaps a way to console the masses for not having ideal bodies. Perhaps, I said.

-.- They do too have boobs. https://www.victoriassecret.com/swimwear Look. They clearly have fat on their stomachs... okay not much boobs. Even in America you see girls like that everywhere. Same arm size, stomach size, etc. I was a lifeguard when I was a teenager, so I saw all the bodies. Some I really, really didn't want to see, but saw nonetheless... jlkjdfsnbgoj Point being that I've seen tons of normal bodies, and I shudder to think that they were *all* underweight. In America, no less. Also, it's always the really fat Asian men who almost drown. -.-;;

It doesn't mean they're all starving themselves.

Even you could be considered to be skinny shaming, to some extent. If what you're saying isn't true and those people are a healthy weight.

[Rawrzz]

Most men will say they want a "healthy skinny" woman.

There's also a theory that dependent upon the man's resources, they will desire smaller or larger bodies. For instance, if they're piss poor, like a large percentage of the poor blacks in America via ghettoization, they'll want a fat ass and huge tits. If they're well off, they prefer smaller boobs and butts. The idea that if they starve, they'll have a cushion, I guess the theory states. Given the average income, perhaps an average size is most desirable. Average as in healthy skinny, not as in American average which is a BMI of 26, 1 point over healthy weight.

[nalaa]

@Rawrzz

No, they have clearly been under-eating for years, so that their bodies are that thin. They are underweight in every sense of the term. As I said I wouldn't expect you to admit it or even realize it

I know they have boobs, they're women, but much less so than you'd see in ads i.dailymail.co.uk/.../...0D00000578-26_634x496.jpg
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there's not much there and how could there be? They have almost no fat (for a woman ). What you're apparently not getting is that they put in a lot of extra work to make those models seem curvier before publishing their ads. Through push up bras, photo-shopping away visible bones, making their waist slimmer and hips/butt or chest bigger

And let's not forget VS models are the chubby ones of the industry.

I don't know what you think you saw when you were a lifeguard and I obviously can't say anything about their health, I just know that most models ARE underweight 0 doubt about it and it's not ok to tell girls they should look like that.
I know most men say that they want

[nalaa]

a healthy skinny woman, but at the same time most men have no concept of what a healthy weight is. How could they, when underweight is shown as ideal?
Most men don't know VS models are underweight while she is it a perfectly healthy weight

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Disregarding of how attractive different income brackets find a body type. Either overweight or underweight IS unhealthy. And a lot of people say it's just a preference, nothing wrong with it. I disagree, it's wrong to have a preference for unhealthy women and it doesn't make any sense either. In fact scientist are baffled about why men find underweight women attractive, makes no sense. No one wins
Of course the people in question will feel it's perfectly healthy when medicine tells us otherwise...

[Rawrzz]

You're basically calling all the women I've ever dated unhealthy anorexics. Ma ii. Those pictures look almost exactly the same as the pornstars I posted, except the pornstars have bigger boobs. And probably only because they have implants, so it's not fat, it's silicone. They're about the same size as the so-called anorexic VC models you posted; but, you said the pornstars were an obtainable goal and didn't say that they were unhealthy. They still have fat on their stomachs, even those supposedly anorexic chicks you posted. Otherwise their stomachs would be sunken in, the ribs would protrude. You can literally see the fat, stomach curvature. And how do you know they lost boob fat by under eating and not simply that they naturally have an A cup? No doubt there lies a motivation for fat people to spread rumors and go, "Oh, those girls are anorexic." as a justification to defend their own fat body types. Same thing with the thigh gap. Some girls say "Oh, it's impossible or photoshopped,"

[Rawrzz]

If men somehow have no idea what a healthy weight is (like it isn't programmed into our friggin' DNA to pursue healthy women in the pursuit of healthy offspring), then how--exactly--are you so certain that you know better? If men are indoctrinated by the system to think unhealthy skinny is healthy, then how do you know that you're not indoctrinated by the system to think a fatter weight is healthier?

[nalaa]

@Rawrzz I don't know what women you've dated but I bet what you're saying isn't true, that they were that thin. Very few people are. Maybe you felt that way because thin is just thin to you, but I'd bet money on VS models still having having lower BMI's and bodyfat percentage by a good bit. I also didn't say they are anorexic, I said they are underweight, which they are. There's a difference. Anorexic is not the same as underweight

"but, you said the pornstars were an obtainable goal " I did NOT, I said being skinny with a medium sized butt was more realistic that being skinny with a massive butt

". And how do you know they lost boob fat by under eating" again I did NOT say that. Obviously boobs are fat and if you have a low body fat percentage eventually it's gonna go from your boobs. And if you're at a healthy weight it's unlikely you'll be thin everywhere but your boobs but it'll be proportioned, which has been my point from the start. So if you're skinny all over you'd expect

[nalaa]

small boobs. There is no such thing as a natural cup size. Cup size is directly related to fat.

"They still have fat on their stomachs" of course they do, women need to have 20% fat. and even men with 10% have still some fat on their stomach. But having some fat doesn't mean you can't also be under-fat for your gender. I literally don't know how you made that connection

" (like it isn't programmed into our friggin' DNA to pursue healthy women in the pursuit of healthy offspring)" well clearly they don't. As I said you'd think they do but they don't because they prefer underweight women which serves no purpose in reproducing. It's just one example where nurture trumps nature. I'm sure not naive enough to belief beauty ideal are all about nature.
And again I'm not saying they're underweight, science is. From everything we know, those women are at weight that is not good for them. And if in a few years we'll find out women can actually be healthy and

[nalaa]

have healthy children at 5% bodyfat and a BMI of 14, I'll admit I was wrong. But that's not likely, there has been down research on it and clearly there is a too thin especially for women.

You made so many false assumptions based on what I said or just read wrong I don't know. But try not to do that, because I basically just repeated myself, I said nothing new now and that's no fun

[nalaa]

Also I meant to say, you're wrong actually, those porn stars are good bit thicker than the models. For example

Liz Ann 5'2 110lbs BMI 20 -- which is at the lower half of healthy
Alessandra Ambrosio 5'10 112 lbss BMI: 16 -- so underweight and def thinner than the porn star

You're right they're about the same weight but Ambrosio is 8' taller making her underweight and everything about her way skinnier. So I don't think it's fair to say they're equally thin at all.

And it wasn't just a fluke.

Dani Daniels 5'7 121 lbs BMI 19
Behati Prinsloo 5'11 119 lbs BMI 16.6

I hope you see that there IS a difference and quite a big one on top

[Rawrzz]

Yeah yeah yeah. I'm just delusional. Maybe so. In any case, like I said. In your OP, you're essentially talking about sexual preference as the definition of acceptance. "They are praised." Fat people are praised, too. Just in a different way. That was my point. Sexual preference doesn't equal social acceptance. That's all. Maybe you're right, maybe you're wrong about male preference, I don't really know. But fat people are definitely accepted, these days. Doesn't mean people think they're attractive. But it does mean they support them and defend them.

[myTake Owner]

@Rawrzz

[Mekkalyn]

I have a problem with the following things, and here are my reasons:

- Are you anorexic?
That's a mental illness. Someone who is too skinny COULD be anorexic, which is very, very dangerous and a horrible way to life. If you think that someone is anorexic, you should observe and ask and see what they say.

- Are you bulemic?
Same as above.

- Do you have an eating disorder?
Same as above.

- You're too skinny.
There is such a thing as too skinny, just as there is for too fat. When you can't get out of bed because you are so fat, you have a problem. If you can barely move because you are so exhausted because you are so skinny and malnutritioned, there's a problem. Obviously those are extremes, but they are still applicable to people that are too skinny (or too overweight).

- Do you starve yourself?
Valid question. If they look like they are starving themselves, you should be concerned and observe/ask!

- Go gain some weight.
Maybe don't say it so brash, but you should encourage extremely skinny people to gain a healthy amount of weight.

Now, with that said, if people are saying this to people that are barely underweight, and they do NOT show any signs of having some form of eating disorder, you should not shame someone for being too skinny.

My best friend from elementary/middle/high school was pretty skinny. She was like 10-15 lbs underweight. But if someone actually knew her they would never call her any of those things. However, people that didn't know her said those things all the time and it really hurt her.

I just want those questions to be asked in an appropriate way when someone is showing signs. I just wanted to make sure that people don't think those are always 100% skinny shaming, because those questions are not, it's all about the intent behind it! If you are coming from a positive place, those questions are not bad or shaming. If you are trying to hurt them or make them feel bad, then that's obviously shaming and not okay in the slightest.

[Rainie_]

I always think people body shaming others are so ignorant. Saying a body is unrealistic is stupid. Natural or unnatural. Everything is possible. Naturally skinny is possible, and "unnaturally" skinny is possible, as is unnaturally curvy and naturally curvy. Let people look how they want to look like. And everyone have different preferences, some people love skinny people some people love larger people... People can't speak for everyone else because at the end of the day, everyone is different.

I've had some very skinny friends and it was so sad how they were bullied in class, saying those exact comments you mentioned. They cried and not even the teacher bat an eye lid about it or told them to stop.

I do believe people can choose how they look like, as long as they are not putting a harm to their health to the point that they can die. Being anorexic and being skinny are two completely different things, and you can tell a difference. And being obese and being a healthily plump is a big difference.

[RandomReindeer]

Me and my sister have always been called anorexic since high school. But we can't help being thin, it's just our genes. Why should I be called looked at as less of a women when I'm not doing anything wrong?

Likewise there are also naturally bigger people, or people that have a medical condition and can't help their weight. Fat-shaming is pretty bad as well.

Why can't people stop believing that there is only one single way for people to look? For a population of over 7 billion, of course you are going to get variety. There's nothing wrong with that.

[AnayaWilliams]

I've struggled with being skinny and bullied because of it since I was a kid. I used to have kids make jokes about my weight and how I need to eat a burger and whatnot. People tell me you just need to eat and eat and eat. I try to tell people its not the easy for me. Especially because my metabolism is so fast, gaining weight is like a hit or miss for me. Although some people don't believe me but yeah its true. Some people are just naturally thin and just can't help, no matter what they eat, how many times they work out, etc. Our bodies are all built differently. I feel like we skinny girls though get bashed the most because we are so thin. Some people, like me myself can't do anything about being thin, its just the way I was born.

[Berethor]

Different people have different preferences, the "war" between skinnies and chubbies is eternal.

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[JustMe-93]

I guess because people don't understand that some people are naturally skinny, they think that if someone is too skinny it's because she/he starve themselves & exercise too much or is maybe even anorexic.

People need to understand that some people are just genetically like that. Some have GI tract problems.. etc.

[quinoaflakes]

Yes yes yes!
I've been fat and then developed an eating disorder and became underweight and ill. ( recovered ) I was " shamed " when i was fat and thin. Both hurt.
Many overweight people though think that for some reason, fat shaming hurt's more ( it's not a competition of which hurts more! ) There are all kind's of " shaming " and both are equally rude and hurtful.

[Alwaysthere85]

I think shaming of any kind is awful. I think being thin, as long as it's natural is a wonderful thing. People making assumptions that you don't eat enough or that only real women have curves... is traumatic. I just don't get why people have to make people feel ashamed for what they are.

My advice is to feel comfortable in your own skin: ignore the haters and be proud of who you are and how nature made you :)

[Anonymous]

We should just call it body shaming in general males and females are constantly getting shamed for their body type no matter what and are treated like skinny is too skinny curvy is too curvy. Society will never be happy, I've had friend called fat and friends called too skinny it's pretty awful.

[simplyunaffected]

I agree completely with you! As a naturally skinny woman- I literally can't gain weight over 115 lbs and I just naturally have a quick metabolism and my active lifestyle adds to it. You have no idea how many times I've seen posts like the ones you've listed about how all skinny girls are dieting bitches or we're unhealthy or a bad role model? Plus it's even worse to hear men talk about how they want something to hold, etc... :/

[BatChick69]

I 100% agree. My doctor has asked me a hundred times if I eat anything. My answer being yeah I eat like a pig I just don't gain wait. It's really annoying that people just assume I'm hurting myself to look the way I do. I'm 100% me. Leave me alone about it

[GraveTruth]

I used to be very slim up until I was 30yrs ago. People would continuously walk up and say "You need to eat something" "You are just bones!""

I found it really humiliating but it seemed very acceptable to talk like that.

[Anonymous]

Oh boohoo if Nicky Minaj song offwnds you. It is a fucking joke. It's popular because it is so damn stupid. And pretty much porn to some guys. SOME guys.
But yes skinny shaming is real. I hate it when people put others down to get their point clear. All women can be beautiful women. It has nothing to do with body shape.

[Polocrew]

Lmao just here to say its not all about base or whatever and Meghan trainor is -7/10 and looks like she just got out of Pacific ocean

[Missbadass1]

I hate that fat bitch

[iamshelly]

I guess the lesson to be learned here is just accept yourself the way you are and try not to let your feelings get hurt. I'm sure you could shame anyone for just about anything, but to stop allowing it to hurt you is how you'll truly be at peace.

[Prettygurl12]

I get skinny shamed all the time.

Like, no, I'm skinny but not diseased.

[RationalMale]

Fat women and feminist men skinny shame.

Don't let it get you down. Normal men who actually have dating options and no damaged self confidence love slim, physically fit women.

[Mekkalyn]

Because you speak for all that is normal.
I bow down before the King of normal.
(as if you could possibly know every single "normal" person's preference...)

[BruceTrails]

Im naturally skinny and yes I can eat as much as I want but I won't get fat or gain weight... so should I worry that people won't like me anymore cuz Im too skinny?

[Anonymous]

People shame the strangest things, because people can't tolerate differences