Good evening friends;
Around two years ago (before the "How do I look?" category even existed), I asked random strangers on this website how they thought I looked.
Why? Because I was insecure about my physical appearance to the extent that it was holding me back in my social life. Over the years since I have become infinitely more confident and am now completely comfortable and satisfied with the way I look.
But did posting on here help? Probably not.
Sure, some people said I looked amazing (9-10/10). But even had I not been insecure, I knew that wasn't true. And on the other hand, some said I looked awful. And then some said I looked about average.
With such a huge deviation on opinions, and with less than 10 opinions to ride on, who do you believe? Are some trolls and the others telling the truth? Are the people who rate 3-4/10 the only people who are being honest?
In my opinion, this forum gives no REAL insight into your physical attractiveness - not only because photographs are deceitful, but because "true honesty" does not seem to exist in the majority of people's responses.
In general (and I know exceptions do exist), the only people this forum helps are
i) those who genuinely look fantastic - chances are they know it, and if they were insecure when posting their photo, they certainly aren't when the question closed.
ii) those who ask questions such as "which hairstyle suits me more", or "which profile picture would you recommend?".
It is THESE such questions in the latter category which this forum should be dedicated to.
Insecurity is not a healthy persona, and this forum does not make these insecurities go away, it simply fuels them on.
Thank you for reading, and I have two questions for you.
If you did post in this category, what were your experiences?
And do you agree that the nature of this "How do I look" category should be renamed and focused on self-improvement rather than self-criticism?