My fiancee wants me to wear an engagement ring but I don't want to?

My fiance wants me to wear an engagement ring as well but I don't want to. It's causing fights. What should I do?


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  • haha you're silly. Iv never heard of a man with an engagement ring. Did SHE propose to you? :p

    Dont wear the ring if you don't want to. She is mad because she thinks you don't love her enough to show the world that you are engaged. Regardless of your reasons for not wearing it, she really can't change the way you feel. right?

    If you wear it, then you will be lying to yourself, and to her.

    When you get married though, would you wear the wedding ring?

    (Very nicely, and sweetly) Tell her you don't feel itz right for her to force you to do something you don't want to do. Tell her that your love for her remains the same regardless if you wear a ring or not. And that when you two get married, you will wear the wedding ring. She just needs your reassurance.

    Some people perceive rings as something that symoblizes your love for each other/someone. It symbolizes commitment, loyalty, etc. That is probably how your girlfriend feels. Since you have a different opinion on it, then explain it to her.

    I mean, what is in a ring anyway? There are a lot of married guys out there who wear their rings, as they hit on another chick at a bar, or while they fool around with their mistresses. So, what does that mean? Like I said, we all have different perspectives.

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What Girls Said 16

  • I've never heard of that...that's an odd request. I'd suggest getting a necklace or even a tattoo (ha!) something that is a little more aligned with what a guy normally does. Maybe that will satisfy her so this isn't a big deal for either of you.

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  • an engagement ring, or the wedding ring? I know some guys that want them during the engagement. Are you opposed to wearing the actual wedding ring? Is it based because of your job, or are you not a jewelry person? Girls sometimes take things a bit personally, and when my (ex) fiance didn't want a nice engagement ring, it made me feel like he didn't take the whole concept of "'til death to us part" seriously. Turns out, that was just the tip of the iceburg. We kept arguing about things that sounded petty, but kept us from carrying on happily on a day-to-day basis. Keep an eye for this. Hope everything works out!

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  • Um hello, if you were my fiance you'd be getting booted in the head. WTF are you marrying her for if your not willing to wear the ring? That's just stupid!!!

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  • a man wearing an engagement ring? LOL never knew.you don't have to if you don't want to. She shouldn't be upset over something so trivial. If she's going to get that petty about it lol.lord knows what else she's going to complain about.

    I know married men/women who don't even wear there wedding ring and remain faithful.so god knows what her problem is.just stand your ground.

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  • Get money priorities straight. Get over it, girls (and guys). These rings are just ROCKS - shiny rocks. We've been together nearly thirty years and I made it clear to my husband years ago that I didn't want my intelligence insulted by him giving me stupid gifts like jewelry and flowers, and I would return the favor. Instead we have spent our "gift" money on a multitude of wonderful trips together. It's these shared memories that we will cherish as we age together. And likely part of the reason we are still married after thirty years. When we are sucked in by advertising in the media or by following "tradition" because it's "the thing" to do, we lose our ability to think for ourselves. Knowing I am loved is enough; no symbol at all is necessary.

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  • Why does she want you to wear the ring? Just so you don't get hit on? Does it feel like more of a commitment to her? Tell her if she wanted you to wear the ring then she should have proposed to you. Guys don't wear engagement rings. Their rings don't even come in two parts because they are supposed to wear a wedding ring.

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  • just tell her that you dnt want to and tell her its a petty argument. if small stuff like that bugs her then marriage might not be the best thing. the fights will just get worse.

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  • You're going to be wearing a wedding ring soon enough. You might as well get used to it.

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  • Dude, no shit, wear the damn thing. You're asking her to let the world know she's not available, why shouldn't she request the same of you? If a guy refused to wear an engagement ring I'd refuse to wear mine.

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  • Just wear the damn ring.

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  • why not just wear a class ring? that's what my dad did.

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  • Totally wear the ring. by wearing you're ring everyone knows shes taken and proud about it. if your not gunna wear it she might think that your not proud or too embarrassed to show it?

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  • May I ask why you're against wearing it?

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  • Go different ways

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  • You should wear the ring!!! It shows that you love her...it will make her happy.

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  • I've never heard of men wearing engagement ring. Do they?

    But seriously, you want to marry the woman and spend the rest of your life with her but won't wear a symbol of that? Why?

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What Guys Said 4

  • Getting a necklace or a tattoo or anything will never be a ring. Ring is a symbol and everybody in the world knows it. What your girlfriend is asking is very valid request. If you want to get laid when you are not with her, just take it off ;)

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  • Walk away. If she isn't willing to respect your position now, it will only get worse.

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  • Here is my advice: Pick your battles wisely. This is a stupid one to fight over.

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  • I know many people who don't like to where rings. But if you want her to be happy the I would recommend you wear one. Because every guy I talk to tells me if the wife is not happy then there not happy. Man up put the ring on and smile.

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