I see so many of my friends ripped apart by divorce now. I have to say, although both sides contribute to the demise of the marriage, the woman IN GENERAL makes out like gangbusters in court. Is it worth it? Why?
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No it's not worth it for guys because there is nothing to gain. Let me say this. There is nothing that you can't do in a marriage that you can't do in a relationship. You can love, have children/family, live together and so on. Girls on the other hand have everything to gain if things don't work out. I remember what Chris Rock said about the O.J. case in the 90's and it goes like this.
"O.J. was paying all that alimony and he hasn't scored a "touchdown" in 20 years. O.J. should have had a pre-nup, that's right prenumptual agreement. Everybody needs a pre-nup. People think you have to be rich to get a pre-nup, oh no. If you have 20 million, and have to give up 10 million big deal you're not starving. But if you make 30 thousand, and your wife wants 15, you might have to kill her! I'm not gonna move back with my mama just because you ain't in love, you gonna have to die!"
Marriage is NOT for love and commitment because you can have that without a marriage. It's a safety net now, a "just in case". Then you have people waiting to get married to have sex, then the sex isn't good, then they are "stuck" unless they have the balls to leave. You have sex being used as a weapon in marriages or it just stops happening (by both sexes), and wonder why the other person leaves or has an affair. Many people stay married while they are not happy. Attraction leaves, people change.
It's a big risk for men mostly. When a relationship is over, it's over. Both people go their seperate ways, move on, no courts, no money. Most of the time back then, marriage was the "ideal way of life", even if you weren't happy with the marriage. I rather be alone and happy/content, then with someone and miserable.
There are certain countries that still marry more than one person at once, or in a one on one marriage they know their "roles". Once again, you don't need marriage for a happy life with someone you love, it's not necessary and not worth the risk. It's funny that a marriage licence is the only type of licence that doesn't expire. I wonder how many people would stay married if it could expire and had to be renewed every 3 or 4 years...2