The blending of different racial backgrounds together is a beautiful thing. I love seeing people find happiness in a "person" rather than finding it in a phenotype, they deliberately chose to seek out.
I always say, " love is blind ".
When love is true it sees no color, age, or gender. It holds no limitations or boundaries.
When it comes to love, it is accepting and non-discriminatory.
Can the same be said about those who are a certain race but refuse to date their own?
How can you say you have love to give, when you choose to neglect someone because they share the same phenotype as yourself?
Usually, the people who refuse to date their own hide behind the words "I have a preference".
Society has become so desensitized to those words, that they almost have no reaction when they hear someone say that. Those words have been said so much, that they have lost their effect of what they could really mean.
Although preferences hold true in some cases, how many of those people are using those words as a way to mask the deep self hatred they have for themselves?
Preferences only get looked at in a negative light, when someone refuses to allow those with interest through the front door because of their skin!
When someone utters the words "I have a preference" from their lips, usually no questions are asked afterwards.
The only thought one has is, "Okay, that person is probably really accepting but they have a type."
This is far from the truth!
That particular person chooses to date only outside of their race because they have a hate for themselves that roots beyond any eyes vision. How can you find "self" undesirable?
When I ask the person to elaborate on why they have a preference,
they announce a list of negative stigmas that is associated with their race.
They believe all of the vile behaviors of their race, and leave no room for anyone to prove them that they can be different.
Don't these people see?
They are blinding themselves by their own ignorance?
Despite someones color, everyone has different stripes that can only be revealed if given a chance.
Upon first impression, those stripes are concealed.
The person who refuses to date their own is so blinded to what they believe that they feel in their hearts, there is no different. If different exists it must be in another race. Why? because everyone of their own race wears the same stripes!
How is this attraction real? When it is not only based off of an appearance one finds more attractive, but the ignorance they believe their entire race is ?
I would say this attraction is heavily flawed.
I believe in allowing people to live their lives the way they find it suiting for them.
If my opinion is asked on this subject, I will be very direct in expressing what I think.
The words "I have a preference" in many cases is similar to make up because it is used to mask the truth of what IS.
You can hide yourself, and show a more acceptable face to the world, but not everyone will be fooled.
An overall summary:
Coming together with those who are racially different than yourself, is something that is supposed to blend us, and further allow us to mesh well together. When someone is solely seeking out different races from themselves because they hate their own identity, they are setting themselves back as a human-being. If they choose to mix races to pro-create their child may grow up with the same mentality that they have. They are doing more harm, and ignorance spreading, than good. They are opening the doors to allowing their significant other to think that a majority of their race is no good.
This contributes to the hate that is all around us in society.
Be proud of who you are!
If you date interracially do so because you love the beauty of all.
Not because you're masking yourself with heavy make up, and want to get away from the unattractive reality you feel presents itself to you.