Do you want to be less angry? Wouldn't you LOVE for someone to make you HAPPIER?? If yes, read this myTake!
When you are less angry and more happy, you become a person others would like to talk to. It will help you with your relationship goals AND it will help you with your health. Here are some tips from me, someone who was so full of ANGER and is now filled with happiness.
1. YOU MUST LEARN TO BE THANKFUL
Try saying this, "I am thankful to be alive today; I am thankful I get another day to bless someone,"
instead of, "I hate my life, I hate that I don't have what I want."
2. YOU MUST LEARN THAT YOU ARE IN CONTROL OF YOU
Try saying this: "I don't have to let them get to me; what they say or do is just their opinion and that doesn't mean it has to matter to me," instead of, "I get so angry when they say or do that, it makes me want to scream."
I really believe that if you get to know the person you are angry at, you will see that they are only human and they really don't know everything because no one is perfect. Sometimes when my kids are driving me nuts, I respond instead of react because I know that reacting just drives them to do it more. Instead, I calmly respond with, "okay, now that you spilled your food... go and get a towel to clean up," instead of, "why are you always driving me nuts! Why are you always making my life awful?!"
Now this not only goes for children but for adults as well. My mom was always mean to me growing up; I was never good enough. I realize now the reason she did that was because she was overlooked by her parents. She was the middle child of 12 and she never got attention. Her siblings treated her badly and her parents never did anything about it. Nowadays, my mom still can't get along with her siblings and she lives in a state all by herself. She wallows in self-pity, thinking that no one cares for her or her feelings and that's why she lashed out. I understand her now and I don't have any angry feelings for her anymore. Just pity and love.
4. GET WISDOM
What is wisdom? Wisdom to me is knowledge on how to speak or act in certain situations so that you don't make things worse. If someone is really angry, you don't tell them to be quiet. You tell them you understand why they are angry and you can work with them to make things better. If someone is complaining out of fear that they are not loved, you have to reassure them that they are loved. The way you talk in love, and the action you show in love really does make you happier and them less angry. A kind word goes a long way. I always tell my kids that I understand they are frustrated, and that with time they will master things.
5. ALWAYS BE KIND
This really helps you to not be angry and to be happier. Take the 30 day kindness challenge here:
Just remember that when you are kind to someone who isn't being kind to you, you really BENEFIT yourself!
I hope this myTake helps you in some way in your life. Remember to smile; it really is good for your health to be happy. I wish you a life full of happiness! Please comment below and tell me what you have done to make your life happier.