So inexperienced... is it unattractive?

[Anonymous]

Ok... so I am almost 19 and a freshman in college, but totally and completely inexperienced to the extreme... I didn't have my first kiss until I got to college (only my friends know that, none of the guys... not even the guy I had my first kiss with). Since then, I have had my fair share in hook ups and know what I am doing in that area... but anything passed kissing is just nothing. I have not done ANYTHING and I mean ANYTHING other than make out with a guy. Not that I'm complaining. I don't mind that I'm saving all of that for later... I'm just worried that it isn't attractive and its immature and makes me look stupid to guys. Recently I've decided to move passed the whole hook up culture because I'm looking for something more real. I know it sounds stupid because I just started the whole hook up scene in general and I'm kind of naive to it all and I'm in college and what not but I do... I want a relationship.. I'm kind of over the hookup and then awkward avoidance or hookup again thing, mostly because the guys I hook up with, I'm not all that into, I just like attention which ends up leading to kissing... wow this all sounds so stupid and I didn't even realize until I started writing it... I'm going to finish it anyway just because I seriously do want to know the answer...

Is it unattractive to guys when all a girl has ever done is kiss? (not that I tell anyone that that's all I've done) If, say, I do find someone that I want to pursue a relationship with, will he find it weird that that's all I've done? Will he silently mock me? HELP!

[beesod]

I think most guys prefer it to be honest. Certainty the guys you are better being associated with anyway.

Hook up is a conspicuous word though, sounds like something that's said to describe sleeping with random people, not necessarily just kissing them.

Don't overtly go out of your way to have sex, you'll be glad when the time comes and you meet the right guy.

Any other path may lead to you being upset, so just keep up looking for a boyfriend and avoid those suckers only looking for sex!

[Sparks32]

I can't speak for all guys. I'm not of your age group but I was 19 once. I was with a girl like you once and I thought she was sort of innocent and sweet. I felt in a way honored that i was her first. Some guys love virgins. I don't think any guy will mock you. the right guy will put all those fears you have to rest. If he isn't kind and understanding then he will not be the right guy.
I hope I helped good luck

[bubblegirl_1998]

If he truly cares about you it shouldn't matter. And he will understand. Most guys do and don't like the experienced and inexperienced for multiple reasons it just depends on the male.

[Anonymous]

I was compleately inexperienced and he had no problem showing me stuff.. We're now getting married

[RasmusAiken]

It's not at all unattractive to me. What kind of society have we become in which slut-shaming is a vice and virgin-mocking is acceptable?
The Bible warns of the time when people call good evil and evil good.

[TheyCallMeMacDaddyG]

Your fine. Really. Any guy that looks down on someone based on their sexual experience is not worth the oxygen that they consume.

[Ihav2fart]

insecure virgin hunters would find that extremely attractive