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Polygyny, Polygamy, and Polyamory: Know the difference!

Polygyny, Polygamy, and Polyamory: Know the difference!


Polygamy is "more than one spouse". It means that you are married to more than one person.


Polygyny is one man, taking multiple wives. Each of those wives is only with him, they are not with each other, and he is only with his legal wives.


Polyandry is one woman with multiple husbands.


Polygamy and Polygyny have been confused and combined in the modern social definition: It's a herd, or a pack, which usually consists one male in control of many females who care for him and bear his offspring. Lesser males that are allowed to remain, are usually the offspring whom are too young to leave the herd, and/or they're earning their place providing for the alpha, but they're probably not getting laid.


There are animal species, mammals, that are not monogamous, literally by nature! https://www.livescience.com/12963-top-10-polygamous-animals-bonobos-hyena.html Lions, horses, cows, and wolves, to name a few, all practice polygamy in some degree.


Monogamy by modern definition means "one sex partner at a time". The original definition was "one marriage". Not one marriage at a time, but literally one marriage ever, at all. But the modern social standard for "monogamy" is being romantically involved with one person at a time, only only engaging in sexual acts with that person.


Polyamory is loving more than one person in a romantic and/or intimate way, and it does not mean that you're having sex with them! Polyamorous people may or may not enter into committed relationships. Not everyone in a poly relationship is poly themselves. Being in a poly relationship doesn't mean they are dating, or have to be dating, every person involved. Polyamorous people do not just sleep with everyone. Just like monogamous people, they only engage in sex with those they feel a close intimate connection with. Assexuals can be polyamorous (see below). Poly relationships often include both monogamous, and non-monogamous people (see below). Unlike non-monos, polys do want to feel an intimate connection before getting physical with a person (see below).


Non-Monogamous people do not commit to one sexual partner. They can, and often do, commit to one romantic partner, whom they love and share a domestic partnership with, but they have unattached sex with other people. For them, sex is not intimate; it's a physical act that feels good between two consenting adults. Sex is not emotional, it's physical, and does not equal love. But not everyone is capable of unattached sex. Non-monos can also take part in poly relationships.


Assexual people still date and fall in love, but for various reasons, they do not engage in sexual behavior. They can be poly, or mono.


How can a Polyamorous person and a non-Polyamorous person be in love, date, or even work? Polyamorous people feel love and fall in love the same way anyone else does. You don't know why you love someone, you just do, and you accept them for who they are. They could end up hurting you, you could be totally wrong for each other, or the best thing to ever happen to you. They could be monogamous, assexual, or non-monogamous. Maybe they are poly too. And if not, maybe they're cool with you being poly, and you decide to give it a shot. Many non-poly people are open to, and accepting of, those who are truly poly, and can be completely happy dating a poly. Again, I stress this, it's not for just anyone.


Some people are truly Monogamous, and just as many are not truly Monogamous.


Cheating is when you engage in sexual, romatic, or intimate behavior with other people, before or without the knowledge and consent of a committed partner. If they're not in a committed relationship with you, it's not cheating. If you have been informed that they may sleep with, or date other people, and you chose to stay, you have no right to get upset, jealous, or accuse them of cheating or playing around with your feelings. It's cheating if you don't inform and get permission from your partner before it happens.


Anyone can be a cheater, reguardless of sexual type or relationship style. Monogamous and Polygamous people are more likely to cheat than Polyamorous and Non-Monogamous people. They are many reasons and factors to this. There are people who will claim that they are Polyamorous as an excuse to get away with cheating, but this does not excuse their actions, and truly poly people are all about open communication. They wouldn't lie about it and hide it, or cheat. Society pressures us to be monogamous, and many polyamorous and non-monogamous individuals are afraid to come out, even to themselves. They often feel trapped and unhappy trying to be something they're not.


Sex does release chemicals in the brain that can cause a bonding reaction, if the person is genetically compatible with you, and would make stronger healthier children. This kind of reaction usually happens when you've experienced lust towards the person before sex. You can thank nature for something called pheromones. They can only be detected by those with whom you would produce strong healthy children with, Your immune system actually affects your scent. Ever come across someone who was sweaty after work and smelled good to you? Congratulations, you found a perfect mating partner, but that does not mean they would make a great romantic partner. Becuase pair-bonding in nature does not account for personality, only genetics and the physical factors that relate to ensuring survival of the species.


Falling in love is a state of being caused by multiple factors, and created by nature to ensure an ideal concept of "breeding for life". This does not mean that we are naturally monogamous, it only means that it's natural to want stronger healthier offspring.


For a female bearing young, It's only natural to stay with someone who can provide the essential conditions for many offspring. That means someone with whom you are physically and emotional compatible with.


For a male attemptiong the strengthen his genetic line, it's only natural to spread his seed to as many females as possible.


Monogamy is ideal and beneficial, while raising children.

Polygyny, Polygamy, and Polyamory: Know the difference!
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