Since this is a "Personal” MyTake this is also a “who cares” kind of MyTake but I wanted to share it anyways. Isn’t it what a MyTake is for at the end of the day?
I know that many will probably cringe reading this, but I also know that I’m not the only one who wants this kind of relationship. Some might feel this is misogynist or even maybe find some kind of misandry in it (as usual).
Many will also see me as a “Submissive weak woman” although I don't see any form of oppression in pleasing the person you love and making them happy. It doesn't lessen of my dignity or power since I believe that this would be my way to show my hopefully loving and respectful husband my gratitude.
1. Look good for him
I want to do my best to look desirable to him.
2. Be affectionate
I want to cuddle, hug, kiss him and lay on his chest :3 I hope he doesn't mind it!
3. Help him provide
I have a traditional stance when it comes to who should be the main provider in the house, but I wouldn’t mind helping my husband since I’m planning to start working once I graduate (I'm not studying 6 years in University for nothing).
BUT: the moment I feel that my kids' well being and needs are jeopardized and neglected , family comes first, and if one of us needs to sacrifice their career, I will do it.
4. Sexually satisfy him
I wouldn’t want my husband to feel sexually frustrated so I will do my best not to let him sleep frustrated, not even a single day, or at least very rarely!!!
5. Let him take the lead and dominate.
I am strongly opinionated, I'm my own person , I won’t be stupidly agreeing and following everything he says but I see it more as me placing my trust in him and his knowledge. It doesn't mean that he'll be the only one deciding for everything, but I would want him to be the leader since my decisions can easily be affected by my emotions and mood.
He’s not my master and I’m not his slave, he’s the president and I’m the vice president.
6. Be his confidante
Him laying his head on my laps or chest, and me, running my fingers through his hair while he opens his heart to me after a tiring long day at work.
7. Be his friend
Besides the obvious which is being his lover, I want to be his friend!
8. Cook for him
He can cook too if it's his hobby and likes it, but if he's the main provider and has more work than I do, I won't expect him to take care of the household. It's not about him forcing me to cook or bossing me around, I want to feed him because I love him and want him to be happy.
Go make me a sandwich: ---> NOPE Can you make me sandwich please:---> Of course <3
9. Give him personal space
I don’t want us to be ALWAYS together to the point of getting bored of each other’s faces! I want him to have his own good time with his guy friends.
10. I want to him be my first and last
Disclaimer: By saying this, I'm in no way slut shaming in case you're trying to go there. I’m one of these girls who can’t separate the physical and emotional aspects of sex, if other women can, more power to them! But I don't have that strength. I would feel like I kept a piece of me with my "First" which is why I want him to also be my last.
I know that this is a deal breaker for many, if not, most men since they want to “Try before they buy”.
Call me naive but I believe that when there is love, there is good communication, and when there is good communication there will most likely be good sex. We have years ahead of us to learn how to be sexually compatible, we don’t need to be compatible from the first day.
11. Bear and raise his children
The raising part is of course a shared task between the both of us because ideally a kid needs both parents to raise him.
I also want our kids to carry his last name (Only).
12. Let him Express his masculine energy
Hate me for it, but I believe that masculine energy and aura exists, and I believe it’s natural since it's as old as humanity's existence.
If anything, it’s social media that is trying to emasculate men by suppressing and shaming their masculinity. They want to turn us all into the same gender.
Masculinity has a very negative connotation nowadays because it's linked with violence, aggressiveness etc when in my opinion masculinity is more about natural protective instinct, vigor and strength.
13. Praise him and compliment him (if he deserves it of course)
14. Take care of him when he's sick
Not that I wish that he gets sick but if he does get a cold I would love to take care of him, I find it so cute ><
============================= If he's an As**ole these things will never happen though!
Have those babies <3 push em out, they'll be all squishy and mine and his. And he'll kiss their little heads and come into the nursery and I'll be there breast feeding one or singing him/her a lullaby. And eagerly eat his food. He'll cook my favorite meals, and he knows I'm a piggy, so, he'll make a lot. And he'll even fix my drink too :) And dress nice for him, in the lingerie and robe he likes with my hair curled the way that took his breath away :) And take care of animals and feel for them in the way that touches his heart, and made him see what a sensitive and passionate person I am. And cook for him too, his homemade honey mustard sauce. And brownies with caramel drizzle. And tacos. And chips and green salsa. :') And buy with coupons, because I'm the coupon queen. And plan trips down to the last detail which will make things run smoothly (even though he says he hates it, he loves it) And wake up every day to my "good morning beautiful" and reply by hugging him close and putting him in his "spot" and :3 heehee
Being fully honest, some of these things are general female projection onto their men. Other things come from a very personal point of view of yours, in terms of values. But others are truly things that men want, and NEED for being actually fulfilled inside a relationship.
Half measures maybe, I'm no one to judge, but the women saying you are acting "cute" are taken offense primarily because in some ways you are actually satisfying male nature, rather than considering your own directionality as a woman only. Don't listen to them. I respect your point of view, and in my honest opinion, think you almost got it right.
I have nothing against men being able to assume their role as man.
I just dont understand why you put such emphasis on it.
I see us both more as co-pilots, with different qualities that we can bring to the table.
But I really dont understand why you feel the need to insist that the man is the captain and you can only be his 1st mate.
I mean... I believe that in importance... man and woman are the same, though they may bring different assets to a relationship and even should.
But I also dont exactly agree with the... if anyone has to sacrifice their carreer it should automatically be the woman. I'd prefer for us to have a discussion over it and see which other options or compromises both of us can do... before any of us has to sacrifice their professional personal fulfillement.
About the rest I agree with you. Just dont really understand the need to see the woman as the one that should always automatically step back. I am more than proud of the advances true consciencious feminism has done for us women.
And I have more than respect for men. But... no... I believe we women also have an important voice and role not only in our families, but in our societies.
That said... just because we disagree doesn't mean I dont like you lol.
Bravo! You will make an excellent wife! You deserve the best of the best because you are willing to submit to him in love as he should be to you! That is a wife! I pray that you both whoever you chose will have a long lasting and satisfying marriage! 100% approved! :) That is a healthy woman!
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Anonymous
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What a lovely take! Well written and I like these points. He'll be lucky!
Can u help me out on a take pls? It's about a really nice woman who has interactions with two guys (both of whom she already knew). Who does she show affection for and want to be with?
What is this a rebranding attempt? Are you trying to get yourself out there because you're in the lime light lately? You have some good and some bad traits like every other human. Anyone who pays attention long enough will notice that and all the shades of grey in between. You don't need a marketing campaign. It just makes me think of a Trojan Horse Dido...
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What the Heck are you talking about? Why are you obsessed with hating on me? The fuck? I don't even know you.
lol Where did I hate on you? Some anonymous blue account is making all sorts of posts about you asking. I think I gave an honest opinion on two of them. That's not hating.
Who's that blue anon I don't know about him either? Yes you're hating I've seen you at least 3 times talking shit about me when I don't even know who you are. I just found out about you when you started talking shit about me. "Rebranding" rebranding for what? Didn't know this was a market or business place.
I have no idea who that dude is, but just because I have criticized specific aspects of your character when directly asked doesn't mean I hate you. Like I said, you have good and bad characteristics like any other human. As to the branding, well that's what you're doing here, making a big statement of this is me. It's hard to ignore the timing.
I wrote this MyTake BEFORE the question. Know what your talking about before saying shit. It seems that I offended you somehow and you're holding a grudge or something. When did I offend you? Was it because I said that men who sleep with prostitutes are losers and you're one of them? Or perhaps, was it something else? You don't even know my character to criticize it, heck I've never spoken to you and didn't even know your account existed until lately.
lol You sound like the one hating to me. :) I don't need to be offended to share an opinion that you might find offensive. I'm sure we've exchanged opinions here and there on this site. It is a community of people. If I had a grudge I wouldn't see a positive and negative side of you and be so neutral towards you.
Blue anon has been hitting you with random posts for at least a month. This post is 3 days old. So your point on time is irrelevant. As far as interactions between you and I, who knows what they were about but I don't remember ever arguing about anything with you so don't get your panties in a twist and assume you offended me. :D Google say we've responded to 585 of the same questions and I tend to read other people's opinions not just my own, and I don't obsess over users, I just take everyone's opinion into consideration. I think 585 opions gives you some scope on how a person thinks about some issues.
I haven't seen any question being asked about me. except for the ones with Pikatchu and the guy who compared me to rgb8 and the one from yesterday. Answering on the same questions doesn't mean we've interacted.
Well I know for a fact I've joked around with you a few times in a positive way. I couldn't tell you what about but I tend to do that with everyone. Like I said I read a lot of people's opinions. What you say will influence how other people perceive you. You're not in a magic bubble. This is a community of people and we all read each others thoughts and form opinions of our own.
I think you have a great and well-thought out list. The best part is you have a great self-awareness & self-understanding, and are proud of who you are. At the same time you show much respect to others likes/dislikes/opinions/etc.
As a guy, and like most other guys, I'd love to find a girl with the same mentality and attitude. But I also think that most of your points should go both ways. To explain:
1,2,4,6,7,8,9,13,14 - I want the girl I'm with to feel these same feelings toward me, at the same time, I want to feel all of them toward her as well.
3 & 5 - These are traditional roles that I consider for me to ideally be what I'd want, I could also be happy with reversed roles in either of these points.
10 - it's too late for me to fit in this category.
11 - obviously I can't bear the child (ren) but it would be both our responsibilities to raise the child (ren).
12 - let her express her feminine energy in the same way.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with what you want to give your man. As a matter of fact, it's wonderful that you, at your age, have put that much thought into it. The most important thing is that he gives you the same. It takes a lot of work to have a very successful relationship and it has to be a two way street. Good luck to you. I would love to have a woman like you. Any good man would!
You are a very intelligent person and you reason things out so well. I admire you for holding firm to you principles and for setting yourself goals that are a definition of your personality + your values.
The man who is to become your future husband doesn't know it yet but he is going to be a very fortunate man to become your first + last, your lifetime partner.
Those 14 points will come during dating stAtus if you guys are good for each other. When you reach marriage it will have evolved to something much more.
hopefully you dont like get married super fast, get to know the guy well
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myTake Owner
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I barely want to date :p most of these I can't do them before marriage :p
Is that a new direction you want. Because at a point you did like someone long distant and it was more 'western' you could say, right. Did that situation have any type of impact going forward?
leaders dont confide in their subordinates. you're not on their level , they won't respect you therefore will not trust you to handle real exposure. a person can not be a leader and a friend. you have to choose.
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Anonymous
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WOW, where do i find a women like you? I wish more women were like you.
Its because there are still women like you, i still want to go out there into the dating world. May you and your future husband have the happiest life together. This mytake is so awesome. What ever happened to women like you? I miss the old style femininity in women...
YOU GO GIRL... You are certainly not weak... in my eyes... your are a real awesome fabulous feminine lady. :) <3
WTF are you talking about? This is a woman who knows what she wants and I for one would be honored to be with a woman who is that loyal and true blue. How would have your woman be? A ball buster? That's what you deserve.
What a disheatening ending. So feminism has taken it's evil roots in your heart too. 'Look good for him' - what if he's muslim and wants you to cover head to toe? And how many kids? If he wants like.. 8?
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myTake Owner
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Lol I was sure someone was going to see some misandry in this. The guy I'm talking to right now is Muslim and he doesn't have a problem with it. I really don't know what the hell you're talking about. If anything I know more veiled Muslim women who are being pressured by their husband to take off the hijab than the other way round. I want 6 kids.
France has a good social security system so you won't need to work if he doesn't too or makes too little you can take good social benefits to raise a family. Which is a good think I guess you don't beggars like we do here
He doesn't live in France and he's not French. He's Tunisian and studies in London , and like me. he's not planning to stay in London and wants to go back to Tunisia. He actually comes from a very wealthy and famous family here, he doesn't need France's welfare.
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