Feminism and male insecurity

Anonymous

Feminism and male insecurity.



Recently I noticed something interesting about myself. I follow a national newspaper on Facebook and they do lots of posts about feminism and sexism from a female perspective. I read a lot of the comments on these posts and many of them are from frightened men getting all upset about how women are going on about what they want all the time, leaving men powerless...yadda, yadda, yadda...


I even remember the days when I felt intimidated myself by expressions of female sisterhood and feminine power - often surrounding my own fears about being unlovable and unwanted.


But now, I am in this interesting place where I totally understand and empathise with the feminist view yet feel compassion for the men who protest and get defensive. And I realise it's for one reason only. I no longer care about being unloved and unwanted. I genuinely do not give a shit.


What fascinates me about that is how it contrasts with my younger years when I felt I'd only be complete and happy when I was with someone who loved me. I actually felt that someone else's love would make a man of me when actually the reality was that no woman would love me until I became a man, and most of all not even I would love me till I became a man.


The irony now is that in being more of the man I should always have been I feel I no longer need that affirmation of someone else's affection, yet... I still understand and empathise with all of that emotional junk people have around relationships and their sense of power in their own gender. I also scoff at it too.


But clearly I'm not totally detached from it. After all I'm here on GaG and I find myself wondering why. I'm fascinated by that psychological place I'm in at the moment. It's a shift that's going on in me and I'm wondering where it's all heading.


So, what's my point? I'm not sure. Maybe GaG will help me work it out.


Feminism and male insecurity
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