Girls, my boyfriend talks about buying me bras?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has a thing for seeing me in my bras. He talks about wanting to do online shopping for bras and panties. We haven't really been bra shopping together yet (any advice). When we talk about this stuff I think he is joking about how I am going to need more drawers just for the ones he buys for me.

Do you think he is crossing a line or is this a dream come true?
Please tell me whatever you are thinking. I want to know who to handle this situation.

Guys: Would you do this for your gf?

[poopedmypantsagain]

Yes I would do this for my girlfriend and I have a few times went shopping with her where she has bought both bras and pretty panties and valued my input on all I said to her.. then she one day said she wanted to go shopping again.. I thought it was for maybe some more bras and panties and I was again happy to go with her.. but I was wrong.. this time because she knew what I wore and liked them on me a lot.. she took me to a place that sells diapers and rubber pants and we looked at a lot of pretty and cute cloth diapers as well as many different pairs of rubber pants.. she asked a lot of times.

Do you like these or do you like those.. and I was glad to give my input for anything she asked.. about 35 minutes later when we walked out of the store she had bought me 3 pairs of thick cloth colored diapers and 4 pairs of colored rubber pants to go over the diapers.. I thought that was so sweet of her, we then went to her house and she modeled all her pretty underwear even letting me put them on her she then one by one changed me into all 3 pairs of diapers and 3 of the 4 colored pairs of rubber pants it was a fantastic evening.. this is not a person giving you some smart ass answer.. it is one that is very true and also honest and I wanted to answer it as honestly as possible.. take care now

[someguy1987]

I actually do this with my girlfriend. I have I guess you'd call it a fetish for bras and bra straps, so we have fun and make a day out of it. I'll always buy her one since she uses them mainly to satisfy my fetish :) It works for us and I have no problem spoiling her with them lol

[Asker]

Thank you for saying that you have a fetish for bras. Can you help me understand what it's like to have it, so I can better understand my boyfriend?

[someguy1987]

Well I guess the bra itself is part of the main turnon. Like most guys would get a girl in bed, take their clothes off, see their boobs and lady parts down below, and would be turned on as heck.

Now me, I'll get a girl in bed, take everything off except for the bram and kind of play with the bra straps, touch her bra etc. I HAVE had 1 girl get upset because she thought I only liked the bra and now her but I explained to her, if that was the case, I'd just go pick up a bra and masturbate to it... which is not the case. It's how she wears it, how the straps fall off her shoulder, it just overall adds sexyness to her. Its like the bra is a part of her.

[someguy1987]

I don't knokw if this happens to you, but my fetish specifically has to do with when bra straps fall down off the shoulders. Like if they're too loose or something, and slip down the arm. I don't know why but it drives me crazy and instant turnon. Like my girlfriend will text me "hmm my straps keep falling today!" and her telling me that is enough to turn me on. She also texts me pics of her bra strap hanging out of her sleeve or hanging on her arm. Its so hot. When were together, I'll walk behind her and see where her straps are on her shoulders, if they're up or down (her straps fall down a lot, so if they're hanging on her arms, I'll get turned on, come behind her, kiss her neck and feel the straps on her arms).

Hope thats enough detail lol

[Asker]

Thank you for being so open about that.
Do you have certain bras that you like a lot?
Have you thought about picking up a bra for the times that you are single? I'm not judging you either.

[someguy1987]

Not really any preference. What do you mean? Like a bra for myself? Lol no, not into like crossdressing or anything if that's what you're getting at.

[Asker]

I wasn't getting at that at all. Just thinking about what you said to that girlfriend you were with. That's all.

[Abbypink420]

I think there is a chance he's trying on the bras and panties he's buying you. Or he might just be ordering some for him self. I know I would lol.

[bbch25]

Mmmm, for me I don't think I'd like it for a while, because bra shopping is quite personal for me. Especially when you're picky about how it sits on you, and sizing is always impossible sometimes, just every shop is different. But after a while perhaps it would be comfortable to take him with you to a bra shop. I think you just need to make your thoughts clear about how you feel about this. If you think it's a bit weird at the moment tell him that.

For me, when I'm comfortable enough and in that part of my relationship where I try wearing nice lingerie for my partner, after I've done that for a while, I may take him shopping with me and say "ok you choose 5 items" and I'll go try them on and buy the one I like the most and then he gets to know he chose something, but he still gets surprised when you 'show it off' for him later that night and he sees which one of the 5 you picked.

But I think after a while, a year, two years however long it takes for you to be at that stage that he can go online and just buy you things, it may be more sweet than weird. Suppose it's all a context thing. Sorry for the long reply! ha.

[Asker]

Your long reply was much appreciated. :)

[Anonymous]

maybe he wants to see you on a certain bra.
if it was me, i'd feel embarrassed but would rather not do it with him. If you are okay with it, then have fun choosing those sexy lingerie.. if not, you could tell him you wanted to do it by yourself, or just ask for his opinions and buy it yourself..

[Asker]

What if he wants to come with me shopping so we can both look around, and he pays for it?

[Opinion Owner]

*and not but

would it be okay for you? what do you feel about this?

[Asker]

I don't think I would mind it, but I just don't know what to expect or how to handle things that come up. What do I do if he suggests something that I might not be comfortable in?

[Brelee625]

My husband would buy me a new bra if I asked but he also would make sure I am comfortable in them and he has walked into Victoria secret with me no problem he has bought me lingerie for Christmas. So enjoy it. Do it with him though more enjoyable that way.

[Asker]

How does he know what is comfortable for you? Did you guys talk about it or did he learn it from somewhere else?

[Brelee625]

He discussed it with me in order to find out what I liked

[Mesonfielde]

I wouldn't buy my girlfriend bras, because there's no real point to it if she cannot try them on. There is no point to an uncomfortable bra, and I don't have the boobs to even make a rough estimate.

As for buying bras together, sure, go ahead, go shopping and let him in the changing room, and preferably don't start getting all rompy because people need to use that thing or you'll keep up the line.

[Asker]

I would be too embarrassed to sneak him into a dressing room.

[Mesonfielde]

... sneak? Like, at a shopping mall? I've went into the same dressing room as my girlfriend did, she sent me to obtain smaller or larger size of things while she was trying other things on. There was no sneaking about it.

[truthbeknown]

Crossing the line of what? Most guys love to see their girlfriend or wives in sexy lingerie or just bra's and panties. What is wrong with that? Welcome this situation with open arms. Don't shy away or be embarrassed of it. This is one of those things that keep couples together and having fun with each other. If he knows what he likes then let him take the lead.

[Asker]

What if he starts to like my bras more than me wearing them?

[truthbeknown]

Hmm, look at it this way. Would you rather him like the bras more, but on another girl, or on you?

[Asker]

I mean if he wants to masturbate to my bras in my bra drawer. Instead of me wearing them, or someone else.

[truthbeknown]

... or cross dressing, right?

[Asker]

Isn't crossdressing where he puts it on and wears it? I was thinking he would just look at it and masturbate without wearing it.

[truthbeknown]

If he has some sort of fetish for women's lingerie or underwear, don't panic. This is a very common and popular interest with a lot of guys. Lingerie is what turns "cute" into "hot". It turns a pretty girl into a sexy woman! It just increases the appeal a notch or two. Don't be insulted or offended if he likes them. Lingerie highlights and accentuates your body. It increase the visual pleasure and heightens the feel of contact with your body. Don't let it seem like he is only interested in the clothing and ignoring you. It is you and your body that ultimately makes the lingerie sexy. Let that feeling flow through you too. Realize you are also more beautiful and sexy in them. This gives you more power and control over him, you just need to learn how to harness that power. He will be your slave! LOL.

Crossdressing is when he wants to wear them, that is a totally different level of fetish that is more rare and probably not what he is into.

[Asker]

Thank you for going into so much detail.

[Anonymous]

Crossing the line? Depends on the level of your relationship. My husband always talks about buying me panties, thongs and bras but he he never did. It's a lot of work for them, I do it myself, but I highly recommend not to do it online, bras are unpredictable with how it's going to look like on your size and shape, I would say go to the store and try different styles, till you find the right fit for you :)

[Asker]

What if he wants to buy me stuff that looks different on me than what I normally wear?

[Opinion Owner]

I see no harm in trying new things out, it took me some time to know what I really like and what he finds sexy on me at the same time. Because I used to like practical things while he wanted me to look sexy all the time from the inside out. And still exploring. I would say go for it, you might even like it :)

[Asker]

What kinds of things did you guys talk about to get on the same page?

[Opinion Owner]

You can notice his reaction on models wearing sexy things and you can always surprise him. Lace is guys fav! You can never go wrong with lace panties and push-up bras. There are some standards for what guys like and turn them on. But when it comes to personal taste he can show you some styles he likes on the Internet. most important thing is to keep an open mind :) I wear different styles. It's so much fun, and you can act and wear characters and crazy things, if you like each other you can always spice it up.

[Asker]

That was some good info.

What kinds of things did you actually learn about each other's taste and how did you find a middle ground? Like wearing a bit of lace but needed a style/material that you can wear all day long.

[Opinion Owner]

I leant that on my own, I kept buying different panties, different shapes and materials from Victoria secret, different styles and colors, and then I noticed what panties and bras makes him go crazy, especially if he saw a peak, not the whole thing. Guys sometimes doesn't know what would really turn them on, I think all you got do is keep exploring and observe, and being unpredictable with what you wear. and you'll find what you both really like :) I'm with him for almost 8 years now and I'm still exploring :)

[Asker]

Is it weird if he wants to put his favorite in a separate drawer from the ones I wear regularly?

[Opinion Owner]

I don't think it weird to be honest, I do that myself, I separate my regular underwears from the ones I wear for intimacy. You kind create a collection by time, and whenever you feel like being sexy, you open that drawer. It's a physiological kinda of thing. And I add a collection of lotions and other things into that drawer like scents. I think it's kinda of cool. That's my personal opinion.

[Asker]

That's a great idea. Thanks for sharing it.

He has mentioned that he wants to buy me so many bras that I would need a new drawer just for the things he likes. I just wasn't sure if that was too much or too weird.

[Opinion Owner]

If you don't feel comfortable with this idea, try to take it slow, you don't have to buy so many bras all at one time, you can find really good deals by time, just keep an eye on things you like. And I really suggest that you should be the one who buys these things for yourself. It's very nice of him to buy you things, but don't let him buy it all for you.

[Asker]

By "paying for it" it's more like him paying at the register not him going out on his own and picking things.

[TheBootyChest]

I would to do all the bra shopping with a girlfriend. But I don't know if my wallet would fill an extra drawer.

[TheBootyChest]

@fauchelevent @Blonde401 @justbanANNAz @BambooforPanda @Spa12345

[TheBootyChest]

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[Spa12345]

LOL... Enjoy

[Asker]

@Spa12345 I want to but I don't know what to expect.

[TheBootyChest]

@bbch25

[9mfeo]

Yes please! Buy my bras for me! I don't want that $100+ expense anymore! Do it! I just request that some of the picks be fairly practical.

[Asker]

How would you teach him to be more practical if he was buying just what he liked to see?

[9mfeo]

I would tell him that I don't like it and wouldn't wear it. He'd learn.

[Asker]

Is there a way to mix what he likes and what I need to be comfortable so that I can wear things he buys more often?

[9mfeo]

Try to get him to get you styles with more coverage, like demi or balconette at the very least. Bras can be sexy and functional. It's all about the materials. A full coverage lace bra is still pretty damn sexy, in my opinion.

[Asker]

I'm pretty small still. Can I still get full coverage? I thought those were for big boobs.

[9mfeo]

Yeah, they still make them. I haven't been small ever.

[Asker]

So if I get to decide the style and coverage then he gets the color and material too?

[9mfeo]

If that's how you want to play it, sure.

[Asker]

I understand I have a bit more control of what I wear for the most part.
but I am curious to know if there are other options that I don't know about. So I am asking other people for their thoughts.

[Dim_121]

He wants to help dress you up. Think of it as taking him shopping. He will probably get pleasure from the fact that he knows your wearing something that he picked out just for you. Even through others can't see it he knows it is there.

[SarahsSummer]

My guy buys me lingerie which sometimes include bras but we don't shop together for my underwear.

[Asker]

Is it because he doesn't want to stand around the whole time or something else?

[SarahsSummer]

Yeah, he has an aversion to shopping in general but he'll buy me sexy things from the Internet which I model for him.. Briefly. Lol.

[Asker]

What do you want him to do or say if he went shopping with you?

[SarahsSummer]

I'd show him some things and ask what he likes.

[Asker]

Are you hoping to hear what he likes or what actually looks good on you?

[SarahsSummer]

I would only show him things that I liked first.

[Asker]

What would you say to him if he grabbed something he likes off the rack? (in the store with you)

[SarahsSummer]

How could i possibly know without seeing the item itself?

[mooky06]

Maybe he has a thing with you and bras as a fetish?

[Asker]

Is that a bad thing? Should I encourage this with him?

[mooky06]

Do you have an issue with it? Or is it perfectly ok with you?

[Asker]

It sounds like it would be okay. but I have never been in this position before. How do I know if he is just trying to do this for something? Is he being genuine about this?

[mooky06]

I know. I would be in the same position as you if my boyfriend were to do that. But I know he would be genuine about it.

You can always ask him to be honest to you and ask why he wants to buy you bras

[Asker]

What do I do if he has a thing buying me bras? Where is that line between fetish and creepy?

[mooky06]

Creepy would be just spending all his time watching you put on his bras for him all day everyday. Fetish is just probably doing that once a week or two before you guys have sex.

Fetish and creepiness is just defined by amount of time and obsession

[Asker]

What if he looks at my bras more than me?

[mooky06]

Just spends so much time being in that draw with all of your bras? Yeah that's being creepy

[GingerGuy]

It's only "creepy" if you find it creepy. If you like it, which you must ("dream come true") then what's creepy about it? It most definitely is a fetish but fetishes are bad things. It's only bad if it's forced on someone or affects someone that doesn't like it. You guys are a couple to so no harm. It might be different if a random stranger was doing this.

[Asker]

any tips or warnings about going bra shopping with him for the first time? what about fun suggestions?

[Red_Arrow]

Crossing the line? That depends. If you like the idea, then no, he not crossing a line. If you do not like the idea, then he is crossing a line. As long as it sounds good to you, then it is good!

[Offthelist]

No its pretty adorable. Just go with it. He wants to do something nice for the both of you.

[Anonymous]

How on earth is he crossing a line? I'd be pretty happy if I were you.

[Asker]

I guess I mean something like he wants to look at my bras even if I am not in them.

[Opinion Owner]

Womens lingerie is sexy. He is probably picturing you wearing them.

[Anonymous]

No, he's buying his girlfriend bras, what's wrong with that?

And yeah, I wouldn't mind picking some bras for a girl I'm dating..

[Asker]

What kind would you pick for her?

Is it weird if he wants to look through my drawer and not care if I am wearing those bras?

[Opinion Owner]

I'd probably pick something like this,

www.styledicor.com/.../...ecret-push-up-bras-2.jpg

And no, it's not weird. This is your boyfriend, darling. That kind of limitations is unnecessary. He finds you sexy and he dated you. Now he wants to add his personal touch to make you even sexier to him. You can do the same with him too. Buy him boxer briefs or whatever you're into.

[Asker]

Can I ask what you like about that bra?

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, I like the color and I like the design on it. I personally dislike the animal designs which many girls seem to like for some reason; the bras that look like zebras, cheetahs and whatnot. This bra looks nice, doesn't just show too much to kill excitement and looks pretty feminine.

[Asker]

Do you have any things you don't like about going (lingerie) shopping with your girlfriend? Something that I could know about so I could make sure they don't happen with him?

[Opinion Owner]

Uhhh, not really. It's a pretty enjoyable experience, the only thing I didn't like was when she would spend too much money on it.

[Asker]

What about how long ladies take to go shopping?

Would it mean anything if she shopped at like Target or JCPenney to save some money, but didn't get the fancy bras?

[Opinion Owner]

When it comes to duration, that depends on the day. If I have nothing to do then it can take as long as it needs. I do eventually get tired though, I think 2 hours would be a maximum length when it comes to going around looking for bras, but each one man is different.

To be honest, only the girls really care about "fanciness" Most guys can't care less about where you got the bra from or for how much so long it looks exciting.

[Asker]

Thank you for all of your advice and opinions.

[Anonymous]

How is it crossing a line? Doesn't he see you in them and out of them?

[Asker]

What if he wants to see the bra more than me?

[Opinion Owner]

Seem unlikely! I'm sure he mostly wants to see you changing out of them! lol!

[Decentguy]

i dont think he's crossing the line, i think he finds you more attractive and hot in a bra, specially in a bra of his choice.

[Spa12345]

I suggest that you go with him... So you will see what he like in terms of color or design 😉

[Asker]

What do I do if we have a difference of opinion?

[Spa12345]

If you love him, you will like what he like.. And if he loves you he will do the same..
people are having different opinions about clothes, that's why we have a lot of collection in the market.
For the bra and panty.. I think you should wear what he likes.. Specially when you are with him, as This will turn him on.. Am i right😉

[Asker]

Yeah you are so right.

[Prince_teddy4u]

Yes. I've done that. If I'm buying them lingerie that's the night I'm gonna remove.

[NYkid27]

I wouldn't buy my girlfriend bras unless she really needed new ones but she couldn't afford them

[Anonymous]

I think it's his fantasy. I might do it but maybe not.

[farscryer0]

He might be sizing you up for some sexy lingerie.

[SunnyCaliGirl]

He is crossing the line for sure

[Asker]

Why is he crossing the line?

[Frackowack]

I don't think he's crossing the line. I think he just wants to do something nice for the both of you.