This affects our relationship because he has high expectations for me, and a lot of the time isn't able to see that I want to be there for him, unless I point out after the fact; or all that I've done for him, also after the fact... And I'm really the first person in his life that has shown him love, loyalty, compassion. He's so used to being let down time and time again that he's grown to expect it. However, expecting to be let down also makes him have high expectations of what it is to NOT be let down. If that makes any sense.
I'm an extremely understanding and empathetic person so I understand why he is the way that he is and I am patient with him... I feel sometimes it's to a fault. When I was able to explain the correlation between his relationship with his mother and how it affects us and the way he treats me, he's able to see it and wants to change and now hates his mother even more.
There is so much more that I could go into but trying to keep this as breif as possible.
So I guess I'm just wondering if how others have dealt with this?
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