Do women prefer black guys?

[Anonymous]

I used to never see race at all and used to be very kind to everyone regardless of skin color. I am tall, decent looking, kind and half Asian, and when I was in college I was rejected by a pretty girl who said she didn't like Asian guys and instead favored having one night stands with the black football players - none of which were kind people, but bullies and alpha males.

It seems now that women favor black guys regardless of their character, and when I meet a girl who has a black boyfriend I feel so sad that she feels that I am so inferior because of my skin color. Nowadays I am convinced that most girls would rather have a black guy over me, and this to me is just a form of bullying with the popular guys showing off how many girls they have, and it is really affecting me and making me feel that there isn't true love and that everything is meaningless and that my life is worthless.

I don't have a mother (she died) to tell me that I'm great or talented or handsome or whatever, so all I see on the street are black guys with non-black girls, and most of the time the relationship seems to be more about showing off and sex than love… I mean in some cases of course it's love but the fact that this is much more common than non-black male / black woman relationships, I feel that women are attracted to something in black males that is regardless of character. Sometimes I feel that there isn't any point in living if I can't get female attention just because I don't have black skin - and that personality, good qualities and characteristics are ignored in favor of blackness.

Honestly in order for me to get through the day I need to convince myself that I am special and worthy of being loved despite my skin color. I know this is a sensitive subject but PLEASE be honest… I would love to be able to change my mentality to be more open to these things, but I hope other people can understand.

[Anonymous]

WOW, this question is so interesting to me because I have been going through the same thing. I feel your pain.

I am black woman and I have been recently feeling like I hate being a black woman. It seems today all guys want is white girls. If they are not white they are latina or Asian but we black girls are overlooked a lot. I hate it because people always tell me I am attractive (mostly women though) and when I look in the mirror I see an attractive woman but I got one major flaw. That is my skin tone is not white. I see black men getting with women of all kinds of races but black women not so much. It makes me sad and kind of dreprssed. I feel like I could get a date with a guy of another race but when it comes to marriage they are not trying to marry a black woman. I had a crush on this non black guy I thought he was into me but he ended up with a white girl. I found out later he didn't want to be with a black woman only white. It made me feel bad.

For record, I think Asian are VERY VERY attractive. I would love to date an Asian guy more than a black guy. But I dont think Asian guys are also into me because I am a black woman.

[Anonymous]

As a black women I beg to differ... some pple yes have a preference.

But, that's not because your unattractive..that's ppl. Just like I'm sure you have a preference.

And it does have a lot to do with personality, and confidence now a days. You are special regardless what anyone thinks here. And you are entitled to have feelings, just because your a man don't let no one tell you otherwise. Ur not a loser. To me tho your question is more about a specific girl. You can't generalize your story here. Its not true what your saying.

So if it's based on a specific girl choosing a black guy who also liked her and she chose him instead of you, maybe he was more assertive in his pursuit.

[pickledxtofu]

This question sounds like a set-up. You want people to come on, bash black guys in order to make you feel better.

The thing is, we all have preferences, including yourself.

Some girls like black guys, some do not. Some girls like Asian guys, some do not. Some girls like white guys, some do not.

It also sounds to me like you're making excuses for your lack of success with women. It has nothing to do with other guys, it has to do with you.

If a guy is attractive, he's attractive, regardless of race. And on top of that, there's this great thing called personality.

You sound rather entitled, tbh.

[Anonymous]

Here's the truth as I see it: apologies if it sounds harsh.

You're not failing to get women because you're not black. You're failing to get women because you're a loser.

You're not a loser because you're failing to get women. You're failing to get women because you're a loser.

You're not a loser because you were born a loser. You're a loser because you refuse to take responsibility for the outcome you're experiencing and DO something to change it.

Being a loser is a choice. You have chosen to be a loser. You could just as easily choose not to be a loser.

Right now, a part of you actually WANTS to be a loser. Why? Because it's easy. You get to play the pity card, you get to sit back and just say that things aren't working. You're comfortable being a loser and you've been too lazy to change that.

You have a choice. You can continue to play helpless and waste more time out of your finite life not getting the results you want, OR you can choose to face your situation, work on being a better man (or in your case, just a man at all) and good things will happen.

The choice is yours.

[pickledxtofu]

For some reason the first few lines made me chuckle. But you are being honest, albeit still harsh. But harsh is good when advice is asked for

[Opinion Owner]

Glad you're amused! lol! More importantly, I'm glad you think the advice is sound.

[Chico_brah]

That's actually good advice. You shouldn't be hiding behind the anonymous feature as a safety net though. Sort of takes away the impact.

[TedStar]

I think girls just want good, confident , compatible and attractive ( to them at least) to guys regardless of race. Take away the guys race and look at the characteristics that make them who they are. Some girls will have race as an important criteria, but do really want someone like that. I personally put race right at the end of things important to me when looking for a partner.

Why don't yo also branch out too. I'm sure that there are many black, white, Latina, east asian, native American, south Asian etc women who are single and are looking for someone like you

Don't reduce a whole person to their race

[jennifer_bloom]

I like black guys but only under certain conditions
1. They immigrated to North America in their late teens or early adulthood years and actually grew up in Africa
2. They are very religious
3. They survived severe tribulations

[JDavid25]

You basically makin stereotypes about "Black" guys and ish.. I don't see women jumpin at me, and if they talk to me it's because they want a certain type of personality which don't help me.. "Black" dudes unless they are athletes don't have it that sweet with women because many are afraid of us.. "White" guys actually have the monopoly when it comes to gettin women.. I don't know why you feel like "Black" guys do.. LOL.. You just made cause some girl you liked wanted to have sex wit a "Black" dude...

[abundantlyrich]

I would say it's an issue of personality if you don't draw in those girls towards you. It goes back to the saying girls liking bad boys, aggression, dare devil attitudes and I don't give a fook attitude are traits, some girls find alluring and attractive.

[LivinLegend]

Thats world is bruh just adapt. Females like alpha-like personalities more than they like the "nice guy whos ready to do as they say" personality. Most likely its you thats the problem honestly.

Complaining about what girls prefer and the dudes that get em instead of improving yourself. Thats kinda beta male tbh

[TheUsername27]

A crazy mixed raced dude who was pretty jacked and good looking came up to me and started chatting. He was complaining about how black dudes and white dudes plowing women or something? Then talking about how he was an orphan. Bro i dunno... I get girls my age look at me... occasionally... they smile (most don't but then i do often look away after a second out of awkwardness). I think women get with guys who approach them. Most women do not fancy changing the roles even if it isn't equal.

[Lommelun]

Yes, they do. That is why you see all caucasoids and mongoloids are always alone. Never married or in a relationship. And being a mix between the two? Tough luck man.

[Anonymous]

I think people all have unique types. I'm personally not attracted to black guys, but I could still say there are some who are objectively attractive, I just don't find myself personally attracted

[Anonymous]

No women do not