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"Do I have to bleed for you to see me.."

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 17:52:23 GMT

"do I have to bleed for you to see me? do I have to scream for you to hear me? cause I grieve your not listening ot me... do I need to scream..?"

that is some of the lyrics to my personally favorite song. it reminds me that in my family, my problems come last. nobody listens to me when I'm in pain or trouble. they interrupt me when I'm telling them my problems. they say their problems out ranks my own. nobody listens to me. I have no friends to call and talk out things with... my family won't listen. I can't even send letters to my uncle telling him what's wrong. my mom reads every mail I send out or receive.

its like I'm invisible to my family. they don't notice I'm in pain until they see the blood on my skin. I cry myself to sleep at night because nobody listens. I can't cut myself cause then everyone will see how much I hurt and then send me to the doctors. I can't scream because nobody will hear me. nobody even see's my tears. all I have is the people I meet on chat lines.. they listen and maybe they care.

all I can do is bleed and cry and then get out. when I'm graduated from college I will get myself a new identity and move out. change my name and everything. move into a small home in a new place where nobody knows me. start fresh. then I might find somebody who will see me and hear me and hold me tight when I feel like crying.

What is your #1 favorite feature on a guy?

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 17:51:29 GMT

I have been told that I have really full lips, and broad shoulders, and great eyes, those are the three things ladies comment on me most, but what do you find are the most important parts of a guy? oh yeah, and they like my butt

What can I do while he is away?

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 17:48:18 GMT

hi
my boyfriend is always away
3 months in HongKong
and then got back home for 20 days and now he is in the USA
to me this is almost not a relation
cause in so many ways it's!
it just hurts me a lot to feel un cared about or ignored for this much!
we had been together for 3 years now and it's always like this.. him going away to other countries for business while I stay in my country to finish my study
iam wondering what can I do mean while!
sure some peoplee would say leave him .. find some other man who buys for me roses and takes me to movies and other places!
but although I wish sooooo much to have a boyfriend like that
but I would never replace my man!
i love him
and he loves me too
it's just our life styles that makes me so sad and angry and all the bad emotions in the world
would any one know what can I do to keep my hopes up?
or know actually what to do mean while?
it's not like i am just gonna set and wait for him .. I wanna have a life too
how do I do that?

I don't want to go back to my girlfriend's house...

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 17:47:26 GMT

Well, the second time I went to her house, her dad talked to me. Her dad basically said we were texting too much, he didn't like it when I put my arm around her, and not to get mad at her if she can't hang out (I've never done that). It was super awkward after that. I felt super uncomfortable too. And on top of that, her mom is socially awkward. She can't even speak English. She also has to drag her brother everywhere she goes. What should I do? Because I really like this girl.

I need ideas for something to do with my boyfriend that he is going to remember for awhile I guess.

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 17:46:07 GMT

So next month my family and I are going on a vacation and I won't have access to outside world at all. A few days after I get back my boyfriend is leaving for 10 days to spend time with his sister. Then later in the year I am leaving for at least 10 days with my family. Please keep it clean. I want him thinking of me a lot while we are apart. I am going to miss him so much!

His Ex-girlfriend seeks his attenton and doesn't understand why and how to be a platonic friend.

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 17:46:05 GMT

Although she lives in the city 2 hours away from here in his apartment. They have been together for 4 years and are not a couple perhaps since 2 years but of course they have been such a close friends since. He claims he doesn't want ANYTHING to do with his Ex, just pure friendship, I believe in it, I trust him.
I am his first girlfriend after their friendship, he had some short dating but from what he said never more than that.
I have met his ex personally, at that time she said she was sort of seeing someone, but her guy didn't show her much interest.we satyed at my boyfriends apt which she lives in and despite one situation that my boyfriend got me worried I was still trusting and hoping for the best, also being nice to his expired girlfriend.
I even tried to contact her nicely trough Facebook and such but there was no response from her side at all. I was ignoring it until her phone calls started to go over board..calling drunk at night and crying, night texts or calls, or everyday calls , occasional sending hearts, lately even messages.. this is all going too far. I have this feeling she has been more active friend since I have met her. So I talked to her myself and told her It's no worries from my side , I don't mind their friendship as long as it is strictly platonic. She said I "can not be possessive" and tried to show me "she loves him" and "doesnt want anyone to stay in between her and him"( QUOTES).Now SHe is being more annoying.calling at night, sending messages and hearts not to mention making my man feel guilty for not paying attention to her ( she seems as she has been demanding it and used to it for years) its a real asking for trouble and sooner or later she will have to pay the consequences of it.. All her actions show clearly that she still have some hots for him. What's the worst she doesn't want him to place my person over her person.. and still giving my boyfriend sh*t about me and how bad he is for leaving her aside as of now. I feel sorry for her that she is trying to manipulate his feelings to this point. Its a problem for our relationship to progress. How can I get rid of her out of our life at least until the time she is completely over him? . She was already the cause of enough conversations and arguments between of us..I don't want to discuss more and more about her being such a kiddo. HE told me they spoke& he said to her to not to call him but still she doesn't give up.He chose me over her and he tells me she knows that already...
but if she does, why does she still playing all this not honest games trying to get him emotional over her pain.I am afraid to talk to him about it again, and I try not to think of it, but deep inside I am very hurt cause I am afraid she will be calling again make him feel guilty and he instead of ignoring her for sometime would have her on his tail.
..any suggestions what I should do..?!?

What do you view as "good" or "evil" in our world.

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 17:42:58 GMT

This is my response to a similar question posted by DasoutherIcon. I decided to post a similar question and give my thoughts and hopefully receive yours as well. Thank you - j

Evil as follows:

All of the following in every form or shape we have, do, or will see in the future.

Religions, Governments, War, Politics, Economics, Money, Corporations.

anything that desires to oppress or abuse any other human being for any reason whatsoever. -all of these are false and frivalous and thus, my definitive of evil, because they are distractions from the overall goal we as a species should share,

All humans on earth should share the same collective goal of evolving to higher plane of existence in all of our actions towards both ourselves and towards each other. All of the things above have proven themselves as failures to what should be our collective goal and purpose in life.

www.zeitgeistmovie.com

www.thevenusproject.com

take a look at these websites and learn to think for yourselves. - j

How do I become "hot" and more spontaneous?

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 17:39:26 GMT

Ok I am really shy and quiet,only a couple of guys have talked to me.I am a cheerleader but I am only loud and "out there" then.I really want guys from my school to notice me,so please give me some tips.

Why is my Girlfriend telling me about all her male attention?

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 17:38:40 GMT

Hey,

I've been seeing this girl casually for about 3 months. She always said it would be for 'movies and sex' so I never complained. 2 weeks back she told me that she had a one night stand with a guy from work. She was very apologetic and remorseful and since technically speaking she did nothing wrong I let it go. I did however tell her that I did feel hurt and wanted us to be exclusive. Which we appear to be..

So we moved on and things have been better than ever. Really good in fact. There is just one thing that is getting to me.. The last 2 times we met she told me about these guys who are perusing her. In a kind of 'how do I get rid of them nicely' way. At least I think.. I did not wish to come across as all jealous and needy so I laughed it off. Joked that maybe I come have one of the guys killed if she liked.. This one guy is persistent however and won't give up.

Why is she telling me this? Particularly after her previous escapade.

Is it

(A) To make me jealous and get some sort of a reaction?

(B) To test me?

(C) She's letting me know subtly that she wants to meet other guys?

Maybe its none-of-the-above but my head is wrecked over it..
After her one night stand I don't feel like I can ever trust her again.

Any opinions?

How do I know if a guy is looking at me?

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 17:28:01 GMT

How do you know?
Ok well I don’t think I am very pretty but others seem to and I was wondering one of my guy friends seed that guys are better a hiding the fact that there looking at a girl and how do I know if a guy is looking at me because I am on vacation and there are guys every were and I don't know if there looking

After 20 years I like him, are we friends or could he be interested?

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 17:21:06 GMT

There is a guy I went to high school with and he got back in touch on FB through another friend and we started to talk. We went out for drinks, hung out at our reunion and we have talked, worked on his resume, emailed, etc. for 6 months now. He told me he was on eHarmony when we connected again this winter but then at the reunion at the end of May he told me he hasn't met anyone he connected with but that he's still looking.

One of my friends was at our reunion before I was and when she said that when she mentioned me he started talking about going out for drinks with me and that 'his face lit up'...but I've offered to watch a movie with him that I know we're both interested in, hang out and have dinner, etc. and he doesn't take me up on anything or offer an alternative.

I arranged a BBQ to see friends who didn't come to our reunion, and I asked him to help grill. I thought that would be his only commitment but now he's emailing me to see who is coming, etc. I just figured he was really focused on the BBQ but then last night he emailed to say we should talk about the menu soon and reminded me he's interested in reading a paper I wrote for school (and seriously, who the heck wants to read a huge paper they don't have to?)

I'm confused, is he just being a nice guy and a helpful friend or could he be interested?

Is friends with benefits consifered bad?

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 17:06:45 GMT

I just really want to know. my guy friend wants to be friends with benefits...

The return of an old flame... just friends or more?

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 17:06:28 GMT

After 7 years... my ex-flame from University and I re-connected via a social networking site.

Over the course of the last 3 years or so we have conversed bi-weekly, flirted, went out for brunch, met his family (brother), and have had some really great nostalgic conversations. At present the ex lives on the other side of the country - which makes it a long-distance friendship - however we have had the privelege of seeing each other once in person over 3 years as he made arrangements to see me when he visited family in a city close to mine.

So things have been going great as per a great friendship. However, after the person-to-person brunch those feelings for me came back in an overwhelming way... and being introduced to a family member (which for him is huge because he is a commitment phobe to the highest power) was meaningful to me.

So, I told him where I stood... that I had feelings beyond the platonic and that I was willing to pursue more than a friendship (albeit flirting one). He responded saying that he had a girlfriend (which I knew); he lived across the country ... and that if things were different ... there was the possibility of a reciprocation... but he circumstances were as such that he was unable to. A pragmatist :)

So, sad and broken hearted... I knew he made the right choice... we tried at keeping things light and I just couldn't go on conversing with him... due to the difficulties associated with having feelings. I informed him that I was stepping back to let him pursue his relationship without my interference given my disclosure... anything less would be inappropriate and unfair to him. As a friend I owed him that - and as a friend I would always be there if he needed me.

So... fast forward three months... he never responded to that email until last week... when I broke down and sent him a jovial one inquiring about how he was doing. I was on a date - and bored so I emailed him while waiting... (bad girl I know).

He promptly responded saying he was happy to hear from me. That he wanted me to know of some significant changes in his life. That he was now single (no g/f); that he was moving close to my city in August; that we should "hang out"; and that I was the only person that new of his plans to relocate and start his own business aside from his family. He also had taken the time to read my favourite book (something he remembered) and said it was one of the best of all time. He also told me to run from my present date if he showed up in khakis and a golf shirt (he is an Armani suit kinda guy) - that he would never take a date to where I was...and heckled me as such. I saw that as a little jealousy :) Cute.

Wow! I was blindsided --- and at this point am confused... does he realize what that email would mean to someone who is in "serious like" mode? Does he want more than friendship when he moves here in a few months? Am I a complete fool for thinking there was more here? Guy-speak translation please.

Is not replying her way of saying no?

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 17:06:26 GMT

I recently messaged this girl from my school my feelings for her. I waited for her to get on her Facebook page, which took two weeks probably because she was busy. well the other day she was on, and I got no reply to my message. She was on only for a short time though.

I noticed she was at a friend's house at the time, so could she have been busy and just didn't get the chance to see the message or is it possible she may have seen it and just decided not to reply, as if she were saying she didn't feel that way towards me.

I'm losing my best friend, and how do I tell him that?

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 16:32:11 GMT

Me and my guy friend have been tight since the moment we met, he said he was glad we met because I brought out a different side of him.
Since I've known him he's always been loud, spontaneous,hilarious and a total sweet heart. He's always been there for me.
Until he started dating one of my friends. I love both of them separately but together, he becomes a completely different person. We barely ever talk now, and he's become moody and rude, and he's ditched me on more than one occasion. Also, when we do hangout, all he does is point out my faults. I don't want to lose him, but I don't know what to do.

How long does it take for a guy to realize you won't hurt him or laugh at his emotions?

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 16:31:03 GMT

Me and my boyfriend have been together over 3 years. He's had a rough time when it comes to confrontation and sharing feelings. I think it's due to how his mom was and all that. He's only shared his feeling deeply 2 or 3 times and he rejects me when I ask him about his feelings.
How long does it take for a guy to realize you won't hurt him or laugh at his emotions? I understand he was hurt by past girlfriends also, but I was patient and proved I wasn't like them, so what am I doing wrong? Should I just accept that's he's that way and drop the whole sharing of the feelings?

Are guys into girls who....?

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 16:27:11 GMT

like to read, learn new things, are very smart, and enjoy going to the library and watching history channel and stuff like that lol? thanks :)

The guy I like has a girlfriend, but he still leads me on.

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 16:22:56 GMT

The guy I like has a girl friend. He's a total player. He's always telling me that he wants to hang out with my, secretly. Plus, he's smoking hot, and older. So I can't look away. On top of all that, I know, and talk to his girl friend! I would hate it if someone was talking to my boyfriend. So, should I run from all this? Give me some hints to look out for when a player approaches.

In your own words, what is your definition of good, and your definition of evil? Is it popular or not?

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 16:17:16 GMT

..the eternal struggle of good v. evil... What is good, and what is evil to you? Please explain below...

How do you know if a girl likes you or if she's just leading you on?

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 16:16:20 GMT

I kinda like this girl once and then when I found out she didn't like me at all...

how can I tell if a girl really likes me or she's just teasing me?

Should I be concerned?

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 16:12:54 GMT

I've been getting to know my best friend's best friend over the last couple of months. Last night, we finally had this heart-to-heart and I asked him how he felt about me because I was unsure whether we were friends or friends with potential, aside from saying I liked him. His response? "I feel the same as you...", and yet, I was the one having to ask all the important questions.

Should I be concerned he's not as interested in me as I am in him because he wasn't asking me the loaded questions?

What are some things that girls do they are turn offs?

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 16:00:49 GMT

guys help! I am a very pretty girl and guys are asking me out on dates all the time.. the problem is after the first date they are done? I don't know why either because like its not my looks... what are some things that girls do they are turn offs or w/e?

Lots of his friends will be there and I wouldn't be surprised if he invited other girls.

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 15:56:05 GMT

I've been played, I'm well aware that I've been played and now I want to come out ahead. Any advice on what action I should take would be great.

Here's the deal: Boy has been stringing me along for a month and invited me a week ago to go see his friend's band tonight. At the time he asked it sounded like a date, but now it is clear to me that he is messing with me. Yesterday he proceeds to tell me that he is moving and that he doesn't get why girls are always "so clingy" with him. He also said that he just wants to be alone right now and asked me if I was dating anyone.

I could be wrong, but I'm pretty sure he has just stuck me in the "friend zone" so that if I show up he can do whatever he wants and get away with it because he told me so. I've had guys do this to me before, they act like you're friends then make a move. It's a very sneaky trick.

Now I have a dilemma. I said I would go to this concert. Lots of his friends will be there and I wouldn't be surprised if he invited other girls. What's the best way to handle this situation and come out ahead?

How do I get my friend to see his girlfriend is totally wrong for him?

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 15:52:03 GMT

My friend has this girlfriend who is 26, she doesn't work, she doesn't go to school, just sits at home doing a bunch of nothing all day, hangs out with her friends whenever and gets mad at him when he wants to go out with his boys, she doesn't like me so she'll call me private acting like she delivering something to my house and when he confronts her she'll say she didn't do that but then she'll text me calling me ugly and things like that she's very very immature and on many occasions my friend has told me I wish she was more like you ! You're understanding, easy to talk to, mature,etc... he's told her he was done trying to make things work with her and she said "well I will go jump a bridge!" and begged for another chance...the only catch to everything is I think my friend likes me ...he confides in me a whole lot and we talk everyday...but I know I like him too and it doesn't bother that he's with some1 its her she's a horrible person so what can I do to either get to notice me more or notice some else and dump her...and do you think he likes me?

Ladies: Go back to your maiden name after a divorce?

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 15:51:20 GMT

I've noticed that when they get divorced, some women go back to their maiden name while others choose to keep the husband's last name. Which one would you do if you had to divorce your husband, ladies? And explain your reasons please.

What is he thinking?

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 15:22:50 GMT

The guy I like who knows I like them, hasn't told me he likes me yet but he tells me he cares how my siblings think of him cause they are part of my family and it matters to him, and if they don't like him for whatever reason he doesn't know what to do?:s he can't tell me he likes me but he says things like this that confuses me even more. he tells me about the girls as he calls them sluts who try to get close to him/ hit on him and he is not into them, not now or not ever... and he gets overly protective once I tell him how there is another guy who likes me. but why can't he just tell me he likes me, guys please help me out to understand him, cause sometimes he over analyzes things and gets upset over nothing and stays away from me till I talk to him and we solve the problem... Does he really like me/ is he just trying to lead me on and play with me? what do you guys think

Guys call me perky? What's that really mean, generally speaking?

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 15:11:56 GMT

I'm not from this country so I want to know what that means when they call me hey perky! well I know the hot,the pretty,the sexy and the rest but perky? I know when I say refers to boobs but it sound to me like they generally said I'm perky type of girl..*shrug* please define to me what its meant when they say that do they refer on attitude?body or the way I walk I don't know please clarify thanks guys

Guys, what do you expect from a girl on the first date?

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 14:57:22 GMT

Like for you to respect her and hopefully have a meaningful relationship with? Girlfriend Material.

Belly Button Piercing?

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 14:55:53 GMT

So I really want to get a belly button ring...but reading on here guys have mixed reviews about them. Do you like them or not? Oh...I'm not fat either...I'm not the fat girl who gets a belly button ring. I'm actually very thin with a pretty flat stomach. So what's wrong with that?

I suck at kissing!

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 14:15:34 GMT

Help me peeps! Please..
This guy and me got together and we happened to kiss in bed(nothing but that happen).Every time I tried to kiss him I was basically given him pecks.His mouth was a little open but I kept closing mine.Fyi: it was was first kiss too.

Does he really mean this all or is he confused?

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 14:14:17 GMT

I was with my boyfriend for 3 yrs. We were friends for months before this and things just evolved. One night after a few drinks we went out and bought a puppy...This was 2 weeks after officially dating. Then with the puppy I stayed with him for a week and he asked me to move in. We were beyond happy. He always told me he loved me and wanted to spend his life with me and I felt the same way, We did the most amazing things together..went away on the weekends for these romantic get always, We looked at houses for our future (which we never put offers in on) and just were happy. A year and a half into our relationship after his grandmother died he one night decided he wasn't happy and that I should move out. I did. It was awful. 2months after that after talking and trying"dating" we moved back in together on his insistence. We again were very happy. Just this April we went on our first big vacation together on a cruise. When we got back he told me he fell in love with me all over again. Things with his mom started getting rocky shortly after. Then in June his cousin had a graduation party and my boyfriend got VERY drunk. I left without him and his mother called me in the morning to tell me that he had kissed another girl that only she saw it and I should leave him. I woke up my boyfriend and asked him and he said he didn't remember. His mom also told me how his cousin encouraged the whole thing and deserved a talking to . I screamed at her instead (my mistake) and his whole family turned against me. His mother swore to me she would break us up and I would never see my dog of boyfriend again. Boyfriend sided with me. Wouldn't talk his mother and we got closer and closer. He left on a golfing trip and called every day telling me how much he loved and missed me. When he got back he was still having a hard time dealing with his family and I told him if it was too hard I would leave because I would never want to take him away from them. He cried and said I was the only one he wanted not them. That was Sunday. Monday after work (he works with his dad all day) he came home acting funny. Then Tuesday he was still acting funny. I asked him what was wrong and he said nothing. Tuesday night he wanted to cuddle and watch a movie so we did. Then we went to bed and his mom called. After the call we had a minor disagreement on his mom and how she wouldn't apologize for screaming at me on the phone and screaming at my mother on the phone, he said she won't apologize because he asked her and she said no. I thought that wasn't right. 2 seconds later he broke up with me. Said he couldn't do this anymore. The next day after talking w/my mom I moved some stuff out. I didn't see him again until Sunday when he said he just never really loved me? Then this week he has told me he misses me, and that he second guesses it all but... And won't finish? Yesterday I didn't talk to him all day. And yet I am more confused then ever. Does he really not love me...or is he really confused? What should I do? I still love him very much.

Kids and snakes

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 14:13:26 GMT

A two year old was killed by a twelve foot snake that was her mother's boyfriend's pet. It escaped in the night and wrapped around her and bit her head. Would you allow a large snake around your children? Would you be able to forgive the man who brought such a dangerous animal around your child? Would you be able to forgive yourself for allowing him to?

Class Flirt?

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 14:12:32 GMT

Guys what would you think of the class flirt, or the girl who always was flirting with a guy. what about a girl who was always boyfriend hopping say bout one a week lol

just wondering :)

I want to move away but I'm afraid.

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 13:29:21 GMT

ok all my friends have kids there all young they are all 18-19 and well I'm not going to be having kids in the near future so now I have no friends who can up and go and do the traveling thing with me , I want to move to Portugal for 3 months I know the place very well I'm just afraid I won't make friends out there on my own anyone ever just went on there own and had best time ever and made friends? any tips be so useful thank you

Would any of you guys date twins?

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 13:28:50 GMT

I know of a pair of twins who do everything together, and even want to date or even have a relationship with the same guy.

At the moment they are sharing the same guy, but would any of you guys consider dating twins at the same time if they wanted to?

How should I say sorry? (question is more to girls, but guys can answer as well)

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 12:56:22 GMT

Okay so I have a female friend, whom I'm really interested in.. I don't know if she likes me at all.. but I don't care about that right now.. all I care about is to make our relationship even just as friends good again.. what happened was I screwed up big.. this guy kept talking smack, an old colleague of mine (we used to box together) then he started talking smack about her and stuff so we kind of organized a fight.. she said don't go because he really isn't worth it.. but I let him get to me and we ended up fighting anyways.. it ended up bad as I gave him a broken rib and a broken nose, and he gave me a collapsed lung, bruised kidney, etc.. anyways I felt like a complete after so the first thing I did was call her in the ambulance.. but the paramedic told me to hang up as I wasn't supposed to talk.. she told me she's really upset with me, and has nothing to say.. we planned to meet in a day though, with her sister and her sister's friend.. all I want to say is she was right.. how do I do this? do I get flowers? or do I just tell her without giving her anything? please I just need your help

Help ! My ex won't respond to my texts.

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 12:41:13 GMT

she broke up with me . then I went on NC for month and 1/2. she told everyone that I ignored her call. so I broke the NC yesterday because her aunt has past . but now she's ignoring me now.before I went on NC , I told her that do not contact me unless its about the kids . she didn't content with my request . so I still went with my NC. is anything I could do to have her return my call . I think she try to reverse it on me . I just want to re connect with her not as a friend , just civil .

What's the most laid-back thing you did after you have been cheated on..

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 12:06:09 GMT

ok I have been cheated on lately...guys I have to come up with a strong but laid back approach as to dealing with this..i already confronted him and he lies he always comes up with best alibi in the world and I don't have that energy to argue..i wanted to remain the best person as possible without going to the "I'm breaking up with you" idea right away..i want revenge in a way but not cheating back.so a kind of inner ego revenge,where he feels so sorry for what he did and realize I don't deserve unfair right? I don't want to ignore the fact that he cheated but I don't want to go crazy about it either its not my thing.and plus it was a factor of other girls flirted on him or maybe he was just vulnerable.or I don't want to think about this but maybe I'm lacking something too.

i can't come up with Idea as how to do this since I am on the situation,i have the normal feeling of stress.,so guys tell me what you did that worked and actually they felt so sorry and ashamed for what they did..

Hypothetical situation--Who do you side with?

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 11:56:21 GMT

You're recently married and you're going to attend a family reunion. You're bringing your husband/wife and it'll be their first time meeting most of your family.

When you get there, your husband/wife meet a sibling of yours who it turns out they dated in the past, and the relationship didn't end well. You try to find out what happened but each is giving you a different story that makes the other one out to be the bad guy.

You have no idea which one is telling the truth because they're both giving you different stories and there's no evidence to support either one because it was so long ago. What you do know is that there's bad blood between them because things apparently got VERY bad between them.

Question is--do you get involved or do you stay out of it? And if you do choose to get involved, whose side do you take? Explain your answer.

I think I came on too strong, but only because he was too.

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 11:54:29 GMT

I have been seeing this guy for a few weeks now. He is an old ex of my best friend, and they are still friends. One night me and my best friend went to visit this guy at his house. The chemistry between us was instant. I could just tell he liked me, and I felt the same. We flirted and talked a lot. The only problem was, I had a long-term boyfriend. But my attraction to this guy was so strong.

Afterwards, I told my best friend and she was thrilled. She likes him as a friend and thinks we would be a great match. She also believed my boyfriend was making me depressed and that I should leave him. I agreed, after nearly two years, the spark wasn't there. So later that night my friend gave the guy my number and we texted a little.

The next day I had a big argument with my mum and got locked out of my house, and he was the only person who answered any of my calls. So, desperately in need of someone to turn to, I went to his house. We talked for hours and watched movies, but nothing happened. He asked me round to watch the end of a movie the next day & we kissed. After that he invited me round every day for over a week, and cos I like him so much, I went. After a while we ended up having sex. I was the one who initiated it, I wish I hadn't.

I felt terrible for cheating & knew I had to leave my boyfriend as it wasn't fair. So I did. My boyfriend was devastated but we agreed to stay friends. I continued to see that guy every day. We would mainly sit in his house and watch movies, but sometimes we went out for lunch and he even invited me to his aunts birthday party. A few days after I split up with my boyfriend, he asked me out. But I said no because it was too soon after my split. But assured him that I liked him and seen the potential for a relationship.

The problem is, now he isn't as keen. He stopped asking me round every day and I am always the one who texts first or arranges things. And I am scared that he has went off me.
I think I came on too strong, but only because he was too.

I asked him about it and he just gave me excuses like he's tired or busy, but then later slipped up saying he wasn't busy that night. Help. I really like this guy, what should I do?

Have you ever contacted the other woman/man?

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 11:16:04 GMT

My ex cheated on me and dumped me for someone else. He was sleeping with both of us for at least 2 months before ending things with me. I don't think she ever knew the truth about our relationship because he told everyone we broke up long before. When I found out about her (on my own because he never told me the truth) I wanted desperately to call her or message her the truth about me and how he had lied to us both. I never did cause I figured it would just make me look jealous and deep down I just wanted to do it to break them up.

Has anyone else contacted the person their ex left them for? Did it make the situation better or worse? Do you regret it, or were you happy you did?

How can you get a man back?

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 11:15:01 GMT

Any ideas?

Ever tell a girl you see her only as a friend and later develop feelings?

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 11:04:34 GMT

Hey guys, have you ever been good friends with a girl who then told you that she likes you more than friends, but you only considered her a friend and didn't have feelings for her. Then at some later time you actually developed feelings for her as more than a friend?

Date Time!

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 10:57:09 GMT

I'm going on this date tomorrow with this boy who I've known for a while, he was in the year above me in high school. We mainly talk over msn or through text, I don't really see him in person.
I really like him... a lot and I want to like "woo" him, if you get me! haha! I'm kind of shy to begin with too, so I need to not do that!
Anyway got some general tips on first dates? Thanks!

I don't know if I can be friends with him..

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 10:41:55 GMT

My ex and I were together for 3 years and were high school sweethearts. This ended in 2006-07. We were best friends prior to this, but before I started dating him, I told him I had a history of mental health problems that ran in my family. He was okay with that, but I didn't want that to be a burden on him. Without realizing so, it did.

I wasn't seeking the help I needed at that time, because I believed my actions/feelings were normal. How this affected our relationship, left both of us feeling drained. My mood was changing rapidly, I wouldn't have the energy to get up in the mornings, I wasn't being affectionate as I know I could of and my anxiety was taking it toll whenever we went out together. In short, I was too selfish with my own feelings, I didn't notice it was affecting him.

We broke up because I was late most of the time to meeting with him and he couldn't be near me, but the reasons kept changing every time I met up with him to 'talk'. We tried working it out at 1 point, but he started cheating on me with sites like Facebook & dating sites. He get going back to people like his first crush or random girls that were basically the town bike on sites like these. He even asked some of his friends to cover up for him from others (other people that knew) when our relationship was trying to be mended. Because of that, I couldn't really trust his motives. He kept contacting me randomly, then stopping and ignoring me, then meeting with me and telling me how I'd never change (even though I want to for the best.) and went as far as insulting my family on how they don't work hard enough, when there's nothing I can do about that.
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Since then I've been seeking my help with medication to stabilize my manic depression. Two weeks ago, we met again & he spoke his mind. He explained that he was angry that I didn't like public displays of affection and that I must be embarrassed to be with him. Though I told him, I'm not keen to doing things like tongue kissing in public, it's something I'd prefer to do behind closed doors or in private. Then he asked to be friends. But it's like he isn't showing any real interest in doing so. I'd like to be friends with him, but I don't want any unnecessary drama if he gets a girlfriend or the same thing to occur again with the sudden loss of contact.

A while back he wrote a rant about people, with mentioned me about how I don't work hard enough and had it on his Facebook page for everyone to see and my aunt, who knows his family overseas read about it on the site while trying to contact him. The whole thing is, he never mentioned that to be the cause of our breakup. I just felt like he was ignoring what was going on on his side: lying and cheating, his own family problems and imperfection, his temper, etc .

A part of me wants to be with him again, but I just have to take care and love myself first before seeking a relationship. And as much as I want to be friends with him, it hurts thinking back.

What do I do when my boyfriend always wants to invite his friends everywhere I invite him?

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 10:28:21 GMT

His friends are really immature and retarded

My best guy friend writes me, teases me and stares at me. Does he like me?

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 10:13:20 GMT

Hi! I have a great guy friend. We are in the same major, will work with the same company and even have similar dressing styles (we both love funky hats). We have so many similar hobbies, but we are still different in other ways.

We write emails to each other (even though he says that he's bad at keeping in touch with friends). I sent him a dress shirt and he LOVED that so much. We've known each other for over 10 months.

When we do see each other he teases me a lot (doesn't tease other girls) when we are with friends, gets goofy and a little nervous (otherwise, he's very confident). What I really love is that he compliments me by telling me things look pretty or good on me, touches my back, and gives me BIG hugs.

Now, he stares at me while I'm talking to other people or if I'm listening in a study group. Most of the time, I just let him do it and work hard not to look at him, but recently I had to let him know that I caught him and he looked away immediately. Then he got awkward and shy afterwards, but so cute! When I talk to his best friend (who's a guy I have a lot in common with), he listens in and totally becomes 12, by hitting him or throwing things at him! I tease him back a little now and he revels in it!

He sees that I am loud with others but get a little shy around him- we both do that. He gives me nice attention and when we are alone, he speaks softly, loves to look me in the eyes (which can make me even more shy) and smiles a LOT. I've also realized that out of all of his friends, I seem to know most about his plans, his loves, his passions and his schedule (he tells me all this). We laugh a LOT together and can be quiet together for 5 minutes and it DOES NOT feel weird. He's the only person I can do that with.

I doubt and I'm afraid because I'm 8 years older than him (I'm 33/he's 25) and not a genius like he is. I'm black, he's white. I'm a little chubs (but so is he), but I'm pretty funky and somewhat adorable but not what you would call a knock-out. He's the "cool" one whom everybody loves and is quite handsome- chubs and all.

He's my best guy friend and I don't want to risk losing that. We will be working together and sharing the same friends for many years to come. I want to try to ignore him, but that's dumb because he's my friend first and that may make him think that I don't care.

Making the first move on him would be BAD I think. He's gone for the summer. His best friend stares at me and smiles, now. Does his friend know? What do I do? Or not do?

My instinct says to just wait for him to make his move because he's shy and he may feel nervous because I'm an older woman (but he does say, "our age" to me). What say you, men?

So confused about guys, and don't know what to do anymore...

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 09:21:25 GMT

Okay, so I liked this guy the whole school year, he's broken my heart many times but I couldn't let him go. The last day of school I found out that he was dating one of my friends, when he said he can't date. So... I gave up on him. I hate him now. but the thing is I just can't find love anymore. And I'm so confused, I don't know what I was doing wrong, because I know guys are attracted to me (three guys asked me out this year, more than ever) so guys can you tell me what you like in a girl, way a girl needs to act and any other info, please?

Is it true that a guy will never see a girl as just a friend?

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 09:17:35 GMT

Unless the girl is either butt ugly to him or did something that could possibly turn him off completely?

I have a guy friend I like that's not so close, but I'm just worried I'm just a friend to him. Am I just hoping for nothing? Or am I permanently the dreaded "just a friend"?

How do guys like to be kissed?

Thu, 02 Jul 2009 09:00:57 GMT

how do guys like to be kissed and what are some things girls do while kissing you that impress you or surprise you in a good way? for example, licking your upper lip?