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My crush had a „stranger“ crush on me for YEARS after briefly talking once in class and used to stare or take glances repeatedly when he saw me and listened to my conversations with others. One day he saw me interacting with a guy who tried to strike up a conversation trying to find out where I’m coming from, possibly flirting with me (due to my ethnic background). I was polite but short since I was busy that day and don’t like talking to random strangers. After that, I found out my crush looked up a few of my friends on LinkedIn. The next time I saw him he didn’t look at me like he usually did and from then on he barely looked at me anymore. A few months later he deleted the playlist he made for me a year ago.

Why did his interest in me drop all of a sudden to zero? I’m pretty sure he knew from the very beginning that I’m not the most outgoing person so seeing me being shy with strangers shouldn’t come as a surprise to him. How is being shy with strangers such a big deal for someone who has admired me for YEARS?

29F, have been told I’m pretty/attractive, have a younger face which is how I could be deemed as cute instead. When I tell you I’ve never been approached by a guy I’d actually want to date, I get attention from guys in person but it’s usually the questionable ones. I’ve been told on and off in the past that a guy I found attractive would look at me/found me attractive but never did anything about it (I’m too shy to also). I don’t have any in person friends as I work remote & sadly only rely on dating apps. The guys I match with I find attractive but not sure if I’m just unlucky (likely the case) or it’s dating apps as a whole but for some reason it doesn’t work out for a multitude of reasons. If those guys actually noticed me in person I would feel a little bit more secure. My thing is I’m pretty old in my opinion, as most people my age are married & have kids. I only have a str under my belt from a few years ago when I was in my early twenties & have been single since. I have this mindset that if I was actually attractive, I would’ve had quality guys lined up by now. Since that str, I’m very selective & am even quicker to stop something in its tracks if the guy does something that turns me off/isn’t what I’m fully looking for. I think dating has treated me very unfairly as “pretty girls” don’t deal with this, unless I’m missing something. And I’ll add this even though it shouldn’t matter that much in the very early talking stages: I don’t care about sex much at all, maybe overthinking it but unsure if that vibe is picked up on being so reserved.

TLDR: would you also think you’re unattractive if you’re almost thirty & don’t ever get attention from guys you’d actually consider dating?