In January 2023 he made me a romantic playlist named after me but he never send it to me. During this time his friend tried to ship us once and the guy tried to approach me. He used to have a slight crush on me in 2017 but I rejected him by ignoring his stares out of insecurity. At that time he seemed very shy and inexperienced with girls.
In August 2023 he posts vacation pics on instagram with a girl from his circle of friends that he already knew in 2022 and she did the same a month later. The pictures look very coupley.
Now he still posts her on his stories but I see him heavily flirting with a new girl he just met in front of me and seems to completely forgot about me.
What is the deal with this guy? Is he a player or does he just not know what he wants? Why did he dedicate a playlist to me and stare me down if he was (probably) already crushing on the girl he met in 2022 and went on vacation with that is now his girlfriend. And why does he flirt with this other girl and forget about me if he was never serious about any of us?
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We are literal days away from 2024, so I don’t think the playlist he made for you nearly a year ago coupled with this crush he has several more years ago are relevant in present time when he seems to be exploring his options. Without speaking with him directly, you are drawing assumptions based off posts and comments, which to me is very young-minded. You don’t know what his relationship to these women are, so how can you know he isn’t flirting or pursuing them within his right as a single guy? He’s not in a relationship to your knowledge so who’s being cheated on or played games with? I don’t know if you’re speaking about this and watching him online out of jealousy, fixation or both but unless you plan on talking to him about these things then you should know better than to move how you’re moving.
Did he specifically share he’s in a relationship?
He didn't publicly announce it but who really does? They both went on vacation alone and posted pictures of both of them together on instagram. The pictures look coupley
I don't know if they are a couple but everyone I showed these pictures to thinks that it is very obvious
I just think that if he likes this girl from his instagram he probably did so way before he made me his playlist since he knows her since 2022
That doesn’t have to be true at all. Just because he knew her since a certain point in time last year does not mean he was interested romantically. You aren’t there seeing all his interactions, they could totally linked up at some point this year and found a connection. You ask who really posts their relationship status online, I’d say that’s very common. I don’t know a single person who’s active on social media (such as Facebook where relationship status can be added) and don’t put that they’re taken. He may be dating her, maybe not officially with a title but I that’s it.
What’s bringing this on for you anyway? Do you like him? Does he know that?
he knows that i used to like him but now he probably thinks i dont
i just want to know if he is a player and what his intentions are or were with me
Sounds like he has no intentions with you when he’s with someone else. Him making that playlist was basically a year ago and this whole crush happened in 2017, that’s many years ago so his intentions then are very irrelevant. If you’re having a hard time finding a man right now or being in a serious situation then It makes sense that you fixate on this guy, but if he’s not pursuing you and with someone else who you even think is his girlfriend then I think that’s more than enough incentive to move on, don’t you think?
He flirts with other women as well so maybe she isn’t his girlfriend.
True but if he’s posting her on her page or sharing romantic pictures then she is probably a prospect
He wants to fool around with you on the side?
And what is better about his current girlfriend? What does she have that I don’t?
i don't know.