Hey m19 here and I like a girl which is 18 years old. We met on a dating site because she requested me and I accepted her request. We immediately clicked and things were well. She was texting me sometimes first but when she got to know me more she stopped initiating. So I thought to myself that I should probably ask why she never texts me first because I'm an honest guy and also direct. She said that she wants to text me but she never know if I have time (which is true because I do many things) and she said that she is like that she doesn't want to text someone first that much because she doesn't want to annoy someone. She said that she is happy that I told her that and that now she knows that she can text me too, but she only texted me first after that the day after we talked about it, which is strange to me, but it's true that this thing wasn't a long ago. We flirt and compliment eachother sometimes. We agreed on liking eachother and that she was scared to think that maybe I like her too because she sometimes didn't know if my flirting was just joking or fake etc. We agreed on going slow and we both like it this way because we both think that it is better to get to know a person deeper and not just rush into anything. We both agreed that we will put some time into getting to know eachother and that we will do it 50/50 which is right thing to do. She responds to me whenever I text her quickly in average in less than few minutes and she is not dry and responds very well to my flirting, like for example she told me she has a scar on her arm and I told her "okay, will check it when I will can". She responded to me with "deal;)" or sometimes when I give her a compliment she says "I take the compliment if you say it:)". Maybe I'm overthinking but should I continue texting her first or not? I would take her out already but we live 30 miles apart so for now it is like that.
Thank you for your answers.
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It doesn't sound like she is playing you, and like she said she doesn't want to come off annoying since it sounds like you're busy as you mentioned. So yes go ahead and text her and open that door for her to feel comfortable reaching out to you. The more you text or call her more she will be wanting to do as well but you have to open that door for her to feel comfortable enough to not feel like she is being annoying. Sounds like you''re both into each other so just do it
Text her first. Be a gentleman