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This has happened for the third time
The first time was someone I worked with he was obsessed with me we had sex for around two weeks then he just went weird. The time we had sex first he lasted 3 seconds then the next time was about 5 mins and much better.

Then I had a date from someone who messaged me who is never met on social media and we had sex. He lasted about 3 seconds and I accidentally laughed at him. He did try to come over again but I was alseep by the time he got to my house. Then he tried again but I was fed up with him taking ages to reply.

Then the third was someone messaging me again and he lasted a lot longer about 5 mins first time maybe less. Then we had sex multiple times that night but again he’s ghosted me

Why does this keep happening? They all say I’m super pretty and the sex is amazing but then it ends like this. I do have 3 kids and don’t want a relationship and have said I’m not closed to it but not seeking it.

Am I that bad looking and the sex that bad?

I don’t wear makeup and I don’t shave my underarms because I only have hair on my underarms and down there, the rest of my body is silky smooth. I know there are girls and women like me in real life and every one of them has a choice in what they want to do with their bodies. I was wearing a basic sleeveless dress and I was sitting alone at a bar and there was a young man around my age chatting me up. I was shocked because I’m sure he has noticed I don’t look good in any way especially my underarms being unshaven, my face having pimples and some acne scars on my face. I was panicking inside but pretend to show I’m not afraid of him. I answered his questions and we did have a chat. He then asked me if I’m single to which I replied. ‘I prefer to stay single because I’m a burden due to personal reasons. There are way better looking girls around here why pick me when you can pick them?’ He replied ‘You have the confidence to go out like this is the reason why, not everything is about looks you know.’ He left and I saw how he looked a little disappointed. I find being single is safer, easier and cheaper compared to getting married. Since marriage does comes with lots of stress especially when there are kids involved and honestly I couldn’t handle married life. It doesn’t matter if it’s marriage life with or without kids. I just know I couldn’t handle them. I’m a weak vulnerable person so I couldn’t afford to be in a relationship where it might be a toxic/abusive one.

Link to screenshots

https://imgur.com/a/NmQaFOM

I’m the purple msgs and he’s the grey. The convo hasn’t been going on very long at all, you don’t have to be a gamer to understand the context but just see the back and forth. 30F, this is a pattern that’s happened A LOT and I can’t tell if it’s b/c I’m boring. Or the guy is a dud, I’m unlucky or just the nature of OLD apps etc. I get that a lot of people want to jump to meeting in person asap but he hasn’t even asked yet so don’t think that’s the case here. As soon as I notice a shift whether it be the longer response times or the guy stops asking about me/not open-ended, I stop the conversation in its tracks. To be clear, that first message he sent wasn’t an actual direct message. It was a comment he made on one of my photos. I’m not going to beat a dead horse, I took the hint and stopped replying.