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I have introduced several girlfriends to my parents and siblings. Eventually, I would prepare them with this warning: "After you meet my parents, as we are walking away, you'll lean over in my direction and whisper, 'You were adopted, weren't you?'"

If you are just dating casually, meeting parents is not important, but if you are dating to find a long term, monogamous partner, meeting each other's family is essential. So. . . at what point do you ask if he/she would like to meet your parents?

I posted this question and it got deleted because of the picture.

My girlfriend Donna had an abortion because we had an accidental pregnancy. I was fully supportive due to the fact that neither of us had kids or wanted kids. We agreed no kids=freedom and money.

Recently, it seems like me and Donna are not the same page. She doesn’t want children of her own but wants to play mom to other peoples children, and constantly pushing other peoples children in my face. Trying make to play dad to other people’s kids.

Donna wants me to inconvenience my life for her friend Lacey’s kids. Her friend Lacy has this nightmare child who out of control. Lacy’s daughter breaks stuff, screams nonstop, and not potty trained at the age of 4. This kid is the biggest handful. Yet Donna is always volunteering to babysit this kid whenever we have it planned to spend the day together, and constantly pushing Lacey’s kid in my face. The other day we had an argument because I didn’t want the kid sleeping in our bed. The kid ended staying in our room and ripped one of my sweaters and damaged my Xbox controller 🎮.

I planned a couples road trip for us to drive from Toronto to New York and Donna was gonna bring Lacey’s kid, so I cancelled. I figured there’d be no point in spending this kind of money and time on a trip just to deal with a screaming child. Earlier today Donna had the kid over and she damaged the carpet with glue. Gonna cost lots of money to repair.

I told Donna I’m not dealing with this bullshit anymore. Her response is “if you loved me you’d take care of her”.

Donna talks about adopting Lacey’s daughter, even wants to leave Laceys kids in her will. I don't know if this is grounds for a breakup!

One of my friends/coworkers has a kitten he and his girlfriend are trying to find someone to adopt because they have too many pets of their own. I want to adopt it, but my dad thinks I can’t afford to take care of a pet because I work at a thrift store for $11.50 an hour and I work between 7 and 8 hour shifts. I also live alone. I live nearby an Aldi and Walmart so I could go to those places to get cat/kitten food and litter and stuff. And there’s a pet supply store in the area too. And there’s also amazon I could order stuff on too. I believe I could prove my dad wrong. And my friend said he could help me care for the kitten and said that worse case scenario if I find I can’t afford to care for the kitten after a while, he and his girlfriend would take it back and find it a new home.

Should I accept the kitten? My apartment does allow pets, but they add $25 to the rent which is already $700. My friend thinks I could just take the kitten and not let the apartment know I’d have a pet. I don’t plan on letting it out. It would be an indoor cat. My friend doesn’t think they’ll find out if I don’t tell them. And even if they do find out, he thinks the worst they’ll do is add the $25 to my rent.

Should I accept the kitten?