I got pregnant with a man’s child 4 years ago. friends with benefits type thing. This man mentally and emotionally tortured me. Said he would be with me, only if I aborted baby. He offered me 10 grand to do so. Blamed the whole pregnancy on me. Abandoned me during pregnancy. Got a girlfriend. Lied about it. Wouldn’t help support me. Told me he hated me, our child. Never came to any ultrasounds or apps. Called me down to the dirt, screamed at me. Told me my own child would resent me for having her. He made it clear he didn’t want her. He didn’t even come to important apps like one to see if she had Down syndrome. He wasn’t there for anything, not the birth, pregnancy, her first few years. No word from him. We were blocked. As soon as she was born he demanded a DNA test. Came back his. He ignored me again for YEARS. And everything to do with our child. Him and his girlfriend broke up and he wanted to be involved again. This is after signing over his rights to her. And her being adopted by the man who was there since day one. I stupidly let him. Now I regret it. I’m not just saying this, but my daughter truly cannot stand him, or his family. It’s like she knows on some level. His girlfriend is wonderful but she’s always talking about having children with him and I’m like “are you kidding me?” I can’t stand to hear this crap when he went giving one child up. His whole family tries to down play with what he did. I was diagnosed with PTSD from all this recently and I still struggle. I used to love this man and want him involved now the thought of him makes me physically sick and full of anxiety. He provides nothing. Not money. Not help. Not love. Nothing. I honestly think he don’t want his deadbeat rep, and that’s why he’s around now. Should I cut him off like he cut us off years ago? I’m a soft hearted person. I feel terrible for thinking it. But my daughter doesn’t benefit from him. And she has a adoptive father. This is what he asked for
Should I keep bio father involved?
