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I am crazy about this girl. We had a short but full on relationship. The last two weeks there was arguing then we broke it off and it was mainly her not wanting it. She did consider getting back, but felt a weight off her shoulders when we broke it off as she thought it could get messy, thinks we could clash. Rang her the next day and she agreed to take a break. Then she rang me back a few days later and rinsed me.

Saying I didn’t make her feel special, didn’t provide for her and loads of reasons, and I agreed to make the necessary changes, apologised said I really like her. She was like ‘not sure not sure, you’re a nice guy.’ Said she just wants to be single for a couple months then get back to dating a new guy, and to delete the account we set up together.

It has been 1.5 months with no contact. I removed her off of instagram as soon as we broke up. Told her to never contact me again - as I thought that was it and was hurt, bit impulsive. She hasn’t blocked me off WhatsApp.

I was a good boyfriend to her. I didn’t do anything wrong, we all make small mistakes but nothing bad. We have met each others parents, a lot of marriage discussion. I thought we got on soo well. I am messed up. She was insanely beautiful as well. Once in a lifetime girl.

My stunning girlfriend of 4months broke up with me and she listed a lot of reasons. It was a very intense relationship and I apologised and agreed with her on things and promised her I’d do better.

I didn’t beg her but acted scared of losing her. In the end no amount of convincing worked. I also feel like it made me pathetic as she was quite mean to me and I was accepting everything she said to try and retain her.

She said we could still be friends. I said no.

I told her to never contact me again, proceeded to remove her off of instagram. It’s been a month and I’ve not messaged her once and she has not been in contact. If she really likes me she still can get in touch I guess.

What do my actions communicate?

The guy is from a really rich family and only recently started making a lot of money.

The first few dates the the guy paid. Then 50/50 on everything. Is there anything wrong with that?

He would spend hours on the phone everyday and drive to see her a lot straight after work.

Treated her well, caring, emotionally available. Even when broke up he did not insult her. Did gift her but not expensive things.

Girl felt the guy should have contributed more monetarily to make her feel special.

Are there many women out there that are more selfless. Being selfless is probably the best quality a girl can have in my view for a marriage to work. Less likely to fold under stress.

When you look at social media content it just programs women to prioritise only themselves over everyone. I see it a lot in women too, slight pressure then they break up.