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Let’s say there’s a room empty save for 10 men, and they’re all talking about various things. One man makes a derogatory joke about women, the usual thing where the punchline is women are stupid/sluts/only useful in the kitchen.
Three men laugh at the joke, because a good joke is a good joke! They’re not going to let political correctness stop them from enjoying a good laugh.
The remaining 6 men are made uncomfortable by the joke.
Three of those six still laugh in a sort of uncomfy chuckle, they don’t want to be left out of the group even if it’s kinda gross.
The other three remain silent, they don’t want to encourage that kind of behavior by laughing at it. They change the subject.
At the end of the night, all ten men go home, the joke is not mentioned again. Who are the good men?

Hey guys so me and my boyfriend have been getting into a lot of arguments over it recently and neither of us are willing to compromise so I want to know opinions.

I follow other guys on Instagram, I know them from school and extra curricular and we don’t interact with each others post and only message to ask questions about performance and midterm dates, study guides and homework or missed classes or extracurricular (I’m in a group where we do singing and dancing and we catch eachother up on choreography for anyone who’s missed. Almost all of these chats are group chats with multiple women and men. None of them have my phone number or my Snapchat as that feels like a different level, and no one has yet (I have my boyfriend posted and always make it pretty clear from the get go I have a boyfriend like if I meet people in class and it’s a group and someone’s like “what’s everyone doing after? Anyone down to grab lunch?” I’ll respond with “sorry, I really miss my boyfriend so I think I’m just going to head home for today”) but if anyone did make a flirtatious or suggestive comment my immediate response would be to block them and probably say something along the lines of “not cool… you know I have a boyfriend so fuck right off”, even being in group chats together if someone crossed that line I genuinely wouldn’t care about the missed opportunities for school work and info because it’s a broken boundary and I would find someone else in class or another group who would be more respectful.

to him, he still feels like it’s disrespectful and that no guy would be okay with this. To me, I feel like it’s controlling and while if he specifically said to unadd anyone specifically I would, not being able to add any feels like too much and if we don’t come to a conclusion now what’s it going to look like in the future? If our kids go out with a friend and their dad can I not get his number to check on my kids? What about getting coworkers contacts to switch shifts?