Was it rude that they kept ‘forgetting’ my name at a group event?

[Anonymous]

Went to a group event I've been to 4-5 times now seen the same faces for 3-4 times.

One of them after talking to me multiple times was like 'What's your name I forgot.' I said my name. She said: I'm probably going to forget again remind me."

Another guy overhearing the convo was like: What's your name I forgot

I thought it was rude.

[StupidHero]

People always forget names, it happens. Personally, I never have that problem because I once decided that introducing myself as "The Legend" was too modest, so I started introducing myself as "The Guy Who Stopped The Volcano With A Bag Of Marshmallows."

One time, at a gala just like yours, I realized the building was on fire. Instead of using the fire exit, I decided the best way to save everyone was to run into the kitchen, grab a industrial-sized vat of mayonnaise, and throw it at the flames because I was pretty sure the egg content would smother the oxygen. I tripped, slid across the floor like a greased pig, and collided with a fire suppression pipe, which burst and put out the fire. Everyone was so busy staring at the man covered in condiments that they totally forgot to ask my name, which I took as a compliment because it meant my legend preceded me.

If they keep forgetting your name, just do something incredibly loud and slightly dangerous involving dairy products. Once you’ve caused enough property damage while accidentally solving a crisis, they’ll definitely remember you, even if it’s just as the person they aren't allowed to invite back.

[HollyK21]

I have absolutely terrible memory when it comes to names and that isn’t meant to be rude at all on my part. I usually have to hear a name 3-4 times before it sticks. Especially if this isn’t someone I’m talking to on the daily, such as a coworker, so it’s not even like I’m regularly saying the name enough to remember.

[Asker]

But they weren't nice about it like hey so sorry forgot your name.

I don't know man people are so rude these days

[HollyK21]

Not trying to play devils advocate but they could’ve just been trying to play it off rather than apologizing.

How were they behaving in general? Because that’s what I’d be taking into account the most. If they were chill with you the rest of the time then maybe they either just aren’t good at asking questions or you may not have been feeling the vibe in general and them not remembering your name just added to it. In any case, you’re entitled to feeling how you feel. You’re the one who was there, so if you think they’re shady people and that was just additional shade then if I were you I’d steer clear of them entirely if you can, because they are capable of being fake or whatever.

[Asker]

I got the sense they were acting like they were more popular than me

[HollyK21]

Literally no lie whatsoever — I have said the exact same thing as her verbatim. More than once, stating that the person would have to remind me of their name. I say it with a laugh or a smile, like I’m pretty lighthearted about it vs acting cold, condescending or snooty. You’re entitled to your interpretation but if you ask me, I just think you could be making more of it than ever intended for it to be. Like you’ve seen these people, according to you, 3-4 times, and unless I misunderstood, it sounds like this was the first time she verbally stated forgetting your name. Then the guy asked what your name was again. Like this seems to be a one time thing. Plus if drinking is involved somehow that makes it worse. If it happens a few times then ok, I could understand the irritation. But you’ve hung around these people several times already, and now you feel like this group of adults in their late 30s-early 40s are in some sort of popularity contest and trying to degrade you.

I don’t wanna put you on the defensive with anything I’m saying, I am simply giving you another angle to consider because right now you seem to think you’re pointedly being picked on. If that’s the case, would you really keep hanging with this group of people? Or opt out of future hangouts because they’re shady? It’d have to be “benefit of the doubt, or I’m out” for you.

[Anonymous]

It’s hard to remember everyone’s name. Act your age.

[exitseven]

What do youv expect. You are anonymous