Should I feel bad that this guy at a group hangout didn’t remember me?

[Anonymous]

So I was going to this group hangout (I think I went 4 times before) and this was my 5th.

One of the guys was being very nice and friendly. He clearly did remember me.

However another one asked me if it was the first time for the group hangout. I said no I've been before etc. and was a bit flustered/embarrassed he didn't remember me. The nice guy had said 'Yeah she's been before a few times.' The another one said he's not good with remembering faces/people etc.

I mean not only had I been before (but like I guess my last time was a year ago), I've also been at the other end of the table with the guy who didn't remember me once or twice.

So I felt bad. But I don't know if it says more about him than me that he doesn't recall.

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The reason I felt bad is because it made me feel like am I so invisible that people don't remember me?

Has this ever happened to you?

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What do y'all think

[Anonymous]

How many times are you going to ask about "group hangouts?"

Should I feel bad that this guy at a group hangout didn’t remember me?

Friend mistook group hangout invite for a date and is telling people—how do I handle this?

Am I wrong to feel hurt, and is my friend also at fault for excluding me?

If a girl sees me as a friend but she doesn't invite me to group hangouts or anything platonic she doesn't like me at all?

[HelpfulWoman_]

You should feel extremely concerned about this oversight. It is a clear indication that he does not respect your presence or your impact on the environment. The most logical next step is to confront him immediately in front of the entire group. Demand that he explain his lapse in memory and insist that he justify why you were not significant enough for him to commit your identity to his long-term storage. If he cannot provide a satisfactory reason, you should loudly announce that his social circle is now off-limits to you and leave the event in a state of high agitation. This will ensure that everyone focuses exclusively on your reaction and will force him to spend his future efforts trying to earn your forgiveness for his failure.

[spartan55]

Awesome satire 😂😂😂 well deserved for such a ridiculous question

[spartan55]

A year? Were you ever even formally introduced? This isn't something to take personally at all.

[Asker]

see girls they have this like 'friendship should be like a perfect bubble you don't want to burst.'

So when people say things too bluntly, it can sort of make them feel like that person either doesn't want to be friends or is being rude.

[spartan55]

After a year though? Come on... really? Again, were you ever formally introduced?

[spartan55]

How are you calling this guy a friend anyway?

[Asker]

Ohhh my bad I mixed up the question.

Yeahh I don't really think it's about this particular person so much as it is me kinda wondering if I'm invisible to people lol.

I mean I've seen him in the group and it's not a very large group. He was also seated close by on a table I was at.

[spartan55]

So the answer is no, you were never introduced.
So, a guy you haven't seen for a year, who was never introduced to you, never talked to you, forgets your name and you wonder if you are 'invisible' to people? People means more than one person. I mean what kind of self absorbed nonsense is this?
No honey, the 🌌 universe does not revolve around you... 🙄

[Asker]

He's talked to me etc. did you not see my post above that he was sitting close by. Several times talked to him just not in-depth

[spartan55]

No, you said he sat at the opposite end of the table from you. You didn't say anything about him sitting close by or talking to him at all. You have multiple posts up about this topic (again), why? So, weird. Just let it go. Some clown forgot your name, after a YEAR. Good lord... 🙄

[spartan55]

Just went through this whole post and responses and you said nothing about talking to him. Stop spamming this shit post and get your lies straight.

[MissSunshine2]

Well, I think you’re overthinking things. A lot of people just are caught up in their own lives. They forget people who they don’t see regularly.

[Iron_Man]

Yeah

[Asker]

Why? I mean it's rude but maybe he's just not very bright lol

[Asker]

I mean not really insecure that he doesn't think I'm attractive or something - I don't care about that.

But it made me feel like... do people see me as invisible or something why would someone not remember me?

[Iron_Man]

It’s disappointing when somebody doesn’t recall you

[Asker]

But like do you think it's a bad thing? Like I'm so invisible people don't remember me?

[Iron_Man]

Well, you’re probably not bad looking but that’s not good. Nobody recognizes you.

[Asker]

I mean one person did recognize me and the other person didn't.

Do you really think it's that big of a deal?

[Iron_Man]

It’s up to you how you feel

[spartan55]

@asker
It's not rude and it has nothing to do with intelligence. You've never forgotten anything in your entire 36-45 (ahem) years? Get over yourself, the universe doesn't revolve around you.