Am I wrong to feel hurt, and is my friend also at fault for excluding me?

[Anonymous]

So there was this girl who was not very nice. We had gone for a group hangout.

In the end when I was paying for my bill the other two were talking. The not nice one brought up some topic of some plans, not sure if it was some tennis meetup or something else. But definitely she brought it up and was talking to the second girl in hushed tones it felt exclusionary.

Then when I was done she was saying something about (a nature landmark kind of spot etc.) - (something you have to drive 3 hours away). She continued saying maybe second week of June etc. all in hushed tones.

The second girl said there's (another nature landmark spot etc. too). The second girl I think sensing a bit of my discomfort did say then, "We can post on the group too to see if anyone else is interested in joining." She added to the first girl, "I'll let you know about it."

On our way out the first girl then gave me a fake bye see you ladies etc. I was like 2 mins ago she was insulting me by bringing up a plan I was not really being invited to right in front of me and now acting all fake nice.

However I wondered - maybe the girl I thought was a casual friend (the second girl) isn't one. Why didn't she turn to me and ask if I wanted to join etc. So I am really hurt. It's possible the reason she didn't shut the first girl down is she wanted to keep the peace but like I don' t get why she didn't turn around to me and said there's this trip would you like to come etc.

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What would you do moving forward?

[virgo2267]

Let them go and do as they wish. You don’t need to worry about their plans even if you wish you would have been invited…. Focus your energy on people who truly value you and would never hush or whisper Their conversations in front of you

[Anonymous]

I think you need to be less concerned with what your casual acquaintances think of you

[Asker]

What the first girl did was rude.

Talkign about plans in frot of someone else that they're not a part of is rude regardless of situation.

But I'm also hurt the second girl didn't put a stop to it.

[Opinion Owner]

Try not to worry about this stuff. It doesn’t impact your life in any substantial way. It’s not like either of them is your best friend or anything.

[Asker]

I don't care about the first one she seems a rude person. I would expect this kind of behaviour from her.

I am hurt about why the second girl went along with it. makes me wnat to not associate with her anymore tbh

[Opinion Owner]

I see. Then I guess don’t hang out with her anymore. She’s not a close friend so no big loss either way.