I'm no expert, and I'm not exactly the most consistent person when it comes to using Tinder. But I've been toying with the app for a year or so now, and I feel like I have sure enough footing to offer some advice. As always, I encourage you to tell all of us - and me - your own advice in the comment section if you have any.
1. Don't Take it Seriously!
Honestly! You can feel the vibe someone gives you, even through messaging. If you're going to approach someone and be Super Serious about the conversation, don't bother. Tinder is supposed to be a fun app. People go on there to joke, flirt, and fuck around. Leave the serious stuff for legitimate dinner dates.
2. Don't Be Afraid to Post a Goofy Picture!
If you show you have the confidence to put up an unflattering, silly looking photo (ladies, lookin' hard at you right now) - then it shows that you're secure in yourself and you're not afraid of having a good time. It'll also help serve as a conversation starter!
3. Ladies - Don't Make Guys Start Every Conversation
Do you know how many girls they match with that they have to talk to first? A lot. Maybe not necessarily all of them, but from what I've gathered from previous conversations with previous matches - guys do the majority of the conversation starting. WOMAN UP! Comment on a shirt he's wearing, or something witty he may have wrote in his bio. Even if you don't click, or even if he doesn't reply - no loss to you. It's just Tinder.
4. Gentlemen - Stop Rushing Things!
Yes, it's a hookup app. No, you're not looking for a relationship. But you're relatively strangers - most likely sober ones, at that - so a girl is not going to be comfortable going to your place after you've just started speaking to her 20 or less minutes ago. You have to build up to that, you have to have consistent conversations with her. Make her enjoy your presence. Make her comfortable. If she feels rushed, any progress you made is going to be brought to a hault if not totally erased.
5. At the End of the Day, It's Just An App.
Chances of you running into someone you matched with? Slim to none. I've matched with 57 people, according to the app, and I've yet to run into any of them in my daily life. So let loose, have fun, shake away that anxiety. They don't know you, they don't have a pre-determined perception of who you are like everyone else in your life does. You can be a totally new, more outgoing you with them. I mean, don't lie to them about yourself, but don't be as restrictive with your personality as you may be otherwise.
If things go south, unmatch them and move on. It's just an app! If anything you come away with a funny story to talk to your friends about.
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Anonymous
(36-45)
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How to do well on tinder:
1. Post pictures of yourself showing your social guy with a life
(Tinder is basically make it for very attractive white guys to sample their dick with many different races whenever they feel like it on call). BRB just type "Wanna fuck?" and 8/10 times the girl and/or you will be fucking.
4. If you are tall. Just have average face. If you aren't 6'2. Then u need a very good face.
At the end of day. Tinder is an app which let women finally express their full sexual freedom on what kind of man they want to be it on the down low. It shows what they truly are attracted to when they don't have to worry about securing a LTR or marriage.
Basically it's female expression of what they find attractive without any of social pressure of societty. Hence the tinder study on gag last year which showed many women are using the app, but only a handful of men are getting the most play.
80/20 rule. Alpha fucks/beta bucks.
80/20 rule:Majority of women sleeping with small clique of men for no string attach passionate/pornstar style sex.
Alpha Fucks/Beta bucks. Alpha fucks the women in her prime for free. Beta has to throw out cash and time (basically prostitution) and get into relationship for sex from the same woman who may or may not be in her sexual prime.
I signed up for a few days and kept running into people I know from school, work, college and university. So I called it a day. I exchanged numbers with one guy and we've been one a couple of dates. I was aware that people consider it to be a hook up app, however I still had hope I'd find a guy that was looking for more than sex. I wasn't on there long enough though.
Great advice for people of your age group from what I understand about Tinder in that age bracket what you described is close to the truth. However maybe it is my country or my age group but they seemed to be far more serious treating it as a dating app whenever I used the app which suited me at the time although I never went on any dates from it. Also funny story I am on the east coast of Ireland in Dublin across a narrow sea from Wales in the UK so if I upped the distance at all and got matches, I had to take a close check where they were from because quite often they were in a foreign country. As I said I think your advice is sound and I hope you and the other users keep having fun on Tinder.
Yes girls, please, start some conversations. When I was on Tinder, sometimes I was talking to 5 girls at once. I'm not gonna start a new conversation with a new match, unless she's gorgeous, cause I have enough keeping up with those 5. So unless she messages first, I'm not gonna message her. There were many girls I never talked to cause I never had the time to message her, and she never messaged me first. Plus, like you said, it's Tinder, it's just an app, if things go wrong, delete the contact, and keep playing, no big deal.
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Anonymous
(30-35)
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So don't take things seriously but don't rush things? What the fuck? So basically be a funny person and slow? That ain't going to work. Maybe the funny part, but every guy isn't a comedian.
This advice is useless. Unless you're a female you won't get responses. The only responses guys get are from bots.
The best "app" is called real life. There men are in control and not women. Sure a woman thinks she's in control but the man will always be dominant. She has to throw the first pitch and it's up to him to swing at it or not. She has to show the interest. That's why I mostly use Tinder just to berate and attack. It has no other use for me.
In real life some females I'll pick while others get destroyed for amusement.
It's about as equally useless as your comments on pretty much everything, yeah. 'Cause clearly you take everything too seriously. Sorry you suck at life, bruh. Bye.
Why? What makes my comments useless? Because I'm not what your poor little heart wants in men? Because I'm not sarcastic and funny? Instead I'm thoughtful and ambiguous to some degree?
I win at life. It is this nature in which females are drawn to me. Not online. See online people see me as an asshole, but in-person? I bring about mystery and curiosity. Maybe even fear. Something a outgoing funny guy can't bring. This is why people go to the movies to watch horror movies. It excites them.
I've recently joined tinder again with some sbetted success this time. I actually found some girls wanting a relationship Or some good friends. Still have yet to meet any one of my 50-ish matches on there but that might all change soon now that I've narrowed it down to two.
Been on there a little less than a year. Maybe five matches. Out of those, one was looking to fuck around on her boyfriend and the other was a cam girl. The rest never reply or unmatch. I'm only 5'4 so I don't even bother with girls that specify height requirements. Got that sucker set to 40 miles and I'm usually all out of new people. Occam's razor says I'm just ugly af. There is only one real piece of useful advice when it comes to internet dating: be attractive. End of story.
Lol yeah started one conversation when i was on tinder. I should have started more though. But I was already quite scared of the app on a whole. And i do take it seriously! :(
The whole rushing thing is a double standard. I've had girls give me their number and suggest meeting up within a day or two of talking. If a guy did that, he'd look super desperate.
Guys do do that and they do look desperate, but so do the girls, I'm assuming. I don't swipe for girls so I couldn't tell you that side of the story, sorry.
@teawrecks thank you for the post. This always cause bitter, socially inept guys to come here and complain about how life screws you if you're not an "alpha". And these guys make me laugh so much :D
I mean, when I respond / talk to a guy it's usually started around something funny or quickly escalates to a humorous subject. And the ones who rush things, I usually end up ceasing contact with.
Ok. Cuz I just made an account and I'm like wuh... How does this even work? So yeah usually I keep things light anyway. And yeah I don't rush things start off as friends in my opinion. But do I have to be hot?
You're obviously going to have a higher success rate if you're hot AND funny, but you should have a decent enough success rate if you're mildly funny at least.
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