"Love yourself before you get into a relationship"
But then everyone has a different perception of what love is. Sure you cannot be super insecure, but will you put your life on hold while you take a life journey learning how to love yourself? You don't do that with your job, friends and family, why would you do that consciously regarding relationships?
I think it's about accepting who you're and who the other person is. When you fall in love with someone, thats because there's something precious about them you value despite their flaws, because those we all have.
Love is selfless and usually (I wish it was always true) the more you give and the more you love freely without expecting anything in return, the more you'll get. Its by receiving love and being loved that we learn what love is. It starts with your family, that's why it's so important showing love to children and kids (not spoiling them) so saying something like "you gotta love yourself first" doesn't sound right to me.
I think it's more about self-respect. If you know what love is and what it feels like, you won't settle for less and when you really love someone you will try and make them feel loved as well, you wI'll try and not let them feel sad and lonely.
But many people don't know how to accept love and love selflessly. Or they aren't selfish enough to fight for their love... but I digress...
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I totally agree with you so many people think it's cool to get into a relationship and they don't love their self , If my self esteem is so low that i can't stand compliments from people than i don't belong in a relationship..
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I've been doing this for the past few months! I ended a relationship because I knew I had issues that I needed to fix with myself. With people before him I would always end them because I always thought it was what they were doing and they just weren't up to par. The reality of it was that they couldn't give me what I needed and what I needed was to respect and take care of myself. If I can't love myself, anyone who tries to convey those feelings to me sounds fictitious. This is honestly one of the most liberating and exciting things I have done. I hope others follow your advice! Many don't know how to be alone, but it's something you have to do in order to one day be in a successful, loving relationship.
Bravo Bravo well done sir. I've been saying this for years and tired of hearing people bitch and whine about something not working out because they were to into their perceptions and not the reality then they wound up buying into false love. Thank you, you put it in digestible perspective and Im sharing this for all the whining love-sick ninnies on Facebook.
I think the mentality that one must love themselves before they can love another is crap. Loving someone I'd never based off how one feels towards themselves, but house they feel towards another person.
I have loved, but I have never loved myself. I don't feel that nobody could ever love me, because I very well know that someone will love me someday, but I don't think I'll ever love myself because I don't value myself as much as I value others.Wow... i think that video may have saved me from getting hurt again. It made me realize what went wrong in my last relationship... and if it wasn't for this video, history wouldve repeated itself. Thank u PrinceEa!!!
I agree, I think you're totally right, because that has happened to me, and still happens to me.
But, how do you love yourself? I haven't figured out that yet. I used to love me, but it's been years since I lost that love for myself.Amazing video.
I love it. The message is valuable and I think people experiencing relationship troubles need to understand the concept that this guy is explaining.
10/10I love this! Thanks for sharing. I think a lot of people forget how important it is to be fully happy and content with ourselves before we can expect others to be happy with us.
Wise words from a wise man indeed.
Wish I'd known this before my prior two relationships!
Onward, toward the future. :)That's a great concept I often skip over
Great take!@ PrinceEa Indeed... wherever you go there you are... You can only give what you have... how can you give true love if you don't have it for yourself?
Wait... What if I neither love nor hate myself? What if I accept who I am, how I am and everything I got? What if I am totally neutral to myself? What if I can establish goals and achieve them? What if I am myself?
Answers plz!Great take! This is definitely something I think most people forget about.
What we have to do is to learn to distinguish between actual love and the yearning to have our affections for someone else reciprocated.
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@PrinceEa Very interesting video, thanks for sharing it.
I definitely agree. Know your worth, and raise the bar and never settle for less.
You must love yourself before you can ever hope to love others.
people undermine how important this is
if you don't love yourself, who else will love youGreat video man. Truth.
Couldn't agree more :)
i wish someone has told me this one year ago...
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