Why is my sister so weird?
Okay, my sister is so different. She wants to be a writer or journalist, and while she is talented at writing, isn't it a dying career since we are...
Another question, is it okay that she thinks she isn't normal and is okay with it. She says that the reason her and my mom fight is because she wants my sister to be normal, and my sister says she isn't normal.
Also, she once again said she isn't happy being fat, but accepts it, and always yells at mom for wanting her to be skinny and "normal". So she likes being wierd. Why?
Most Helpful Girl
Weird doesn't have to be bad. To people that are into arts and writings, telling them that they need to be normal is probably the worst thing to do. There is a difference from being health and unhealthy of course. The first step in helping your sister to making better choice in what she puts in her body, never criticize her. You will just push her away. My boyfriend's sister is just like this. I know its cause of the way her mom raised her, she never wanted her to grow up or have responsibility. This girl sits on the computer 24/7 and she just turned 20. Doesn't have a job and no college. They are just now trying to get her be responsible, and to do stuff around the house. That is something that you have to be taught your whole life. You can't just except someone to learn in one day. You have to show patients, no anger, and lead from examples. You and your mom are just gonna have to sit her and talk. If you want her to eat to healthier then everyone in the house has to eat healthier. She is not a lost cause; she just needs love and motivation.
What Girls Said 7
Well you can make suggestions to her and encourage her to improve her appearance and the way she comes off to other people, but in the end, she has to be willing to help herself. Otherwise, there's not much you can do for her.
Being a journalist is fine. We still need people to write for us...doesn't matter on what -paper or on the computer.
I don't think she's a lost cause. It's a possibility that she will blossom once she gets to college. She will want a boyfriend and perhaps that will give her motivation to improve her appearance.
As she gets into the work world. She will come out of her shell more and more. Trust me, I went through this as well.
I have no advice for your sister other than that she would major in a area that is more substantial and minor in lit. or just write on the side. However, writing/journalism is note a dying career. I bet you heard that off or somewhere and just accepted the idea. Look at yahoo. One of it's most popular features is it's news columns, Written by journalists.
I'm not sure what to tell you on everything else. You could try to include in your plans that are more active. If you're going to shoot hoops at the park, bring her along.
I think you're being very critical of your sister, as things like weight and personal hygiene are her own choice, and up to her to maintain. But in terms of what you say about her hostility to you and your family, in regards to weight and things, her correcting you all the time, and the fact that she isn't very socially adept - do you think it's possible she might too be autistic? I know it's not my place to diagnose, and I wouldn't mind you telling me to butt out!, but is this a possibility you would consider?
it seems like you're being kind of a jerk in regards to her weight and personal hygiene... it's her choice if she's going to smell rotten and be an asshole to everyone in the family. I sense where you're coming from though. You are worried that she won't motivate herself. Maybe trying to find her a fun exercise class or something at a local gym to do together, just mention it though... don't force her or something... And writing is not a dying career...I mean people still write novels, essays, books,etc. It just happens to be electronically available instead of more tangible ways like paper. Good luck..
Your sister is an adult, so there isn't much you can do to try to change her. She needs to want to change herself. But it would be easier for her to know that she has a loving and caring brother whom she can always rely on for help and support. So make sure that she knows you love her and care for her, and that if she ever needs help with anything, she can come to you. But don't criticize her looks or career choice, this will only push her away. What you need to do to help her is be a good listener, not a good adviser.
Look...your pushing her away. And she needs you. She's being mean because she has no friends anymore (like you said) and because she's not happy with her weight. But she has no motivation to loose weight because nobody is there for her to talk to and have to support her. And she prob. writes because she can vent and express herself through there and be anybody she wants to be through writing. My advice...encourage her and put yourself in her shoes (not having anybody, going away to college where she knows NOBODY, isn't socially adept. She's not a lost cause. Encourage her and support her! She NEEDS you ! Trust me...Been there done that.
What Guys Said 4
Anyone can be a writer, to be a successful writer is a whole different story. You also said she wants to be a journalist, yes some are dying out, newspapers but there is still radio and television, now if she's is overweight and not attractive she won't be a reporter or a news anchor, just because people want to see attractive people on tv, here's an example Erin Andrews, if your a sports fan you know who she is. If she has a good speaking voice she might be able to do radio.
it seems like you care about your sister greatly, nice to see that.
With regards to journalism, while the newspaper medium is dying, journalists for tv and online video and web articles are always needed.
If you want her to lose weight, you have to admit that she does have a point in the fact that its 2 big fellas who are telling her to lose weight and may sound hypocritical. If you really want her to lose weight then perhaps if you guys suggested all doing some exercise and diet together. If she then refused, then you could say something to her.
Sit her down and tell her you care about her health and you love her and that you want the best for her. Its easier to listen to someone who epathises with you than someone just barking orders at you to fix yourself up.
It won't be an overnight fix but if you guys work together and try to motivate her and yourselves you can do it
Tell her to hush up, encourage her, make her feel good and then say I am your brother, I love you (as a brother would a sister) and then don't just tell her what she needs, help her do it too, exercise with her, let her hang out with you and your friends, take some charge man, I got 2 sisters youngest one is 8 years older than me, and I wouldn't let that sh*t slide. If you really are concerned you got to be willing to go through the fire with her and even endure any bad mood that may come with it while you help her to change not just watch. Just some advice and the best I can give you seeing the limited information I have seen but its good advice.
you are her brother and it your rensponsabillity to look after you sister
take her running or jogging with you
enroll in a diet together
go to gym often
and never back down
as the german would say "nie unter lassen"
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