Why do some men need permission from the wife, to buy something?

[anonymousbastard]

Like the title says, why should a guy need permission from his wife or Girlfriend to buy something? If he worked for it and pays the bills I believe he's untitled to buy whatever he wants. I never hear men say well the Wife had to ask me to buy something. Come on ladies admit it when it comes to shopping and spending money, you have no right to complain. I'm asking this because I heard this gentlemen say on one of those shopping channels tell the host, well I liked this but had to ask the wife. Give me a break.

[selfishstars]

"I never hear men say well the Wife had to ask me to buy something."

I worked in retail for a number of years, and quite often I had female customers asking their husbands for permission to buy something (either asking him if he was there, calling him on the phone, or sometimes returning items because they bought them and their husband wasn't happy with the purchase and asked her to return it)... so bullsh*t. This goes both ways.

Anyway, when a couple is married or live together, they often share finances. Because of this, many make purchasing decisions together (especially on pricey things, but depending on their financial situation and arrangement, sometimes they check in with each other on everything they buy).

[prettyhot99]

Well when it comes to marriages nobody really can judge overs, We don't know what kind of agreements relationships have. With me having a banking background, I came to realize a lot of women are the ones controlling the money in relationships. I already told my man I will handle the money, Because he's horrible with money. I'm not saying I will give him money, But he wants to get married one day . But I'm focused on my career, But when I do. I will handle the money like in bills, Because I believe I handle it better. So that could be his problem, But my man keeps his own money he doesn't have to ask for anything . I think that's for kids, But who knows it could work for them.

[anonymousbastard]

Yeah I suck at saving money especially if its in a home safe, but in a bank I'm most, likely to forget about it.

[Prettygurl12]

If it's a big purchase, like a car, I'd expect my husband to inform me. Odds are, I'm not going to tell him not to get it, but it's just nice to know what's going on. Also, in most families, both spouses' incomes are combined in one account so it's both their money involved. I don't like shopping so I don't quite understand your point there, but I guess I sort of get it. If he wants to buy a ping pong table or a new t.v for his man cave, that's all him. If he wants to buy something that will directly impact me, i.e. a new car or a condo or something big like that, then yes, I'd like to be involved in the decision process.

[anonymousbastard]

I know not all women like shopping, just said that as an example. My sister and I are 5 years apart but when she buys something I, can't say you spend how much? But when I buy something its are you nuts take it back. Even my own family gives me headaches.

[Curmudgeon]

1. Because they can make your life a living hell otherwise. You have obviously never been married or in a serious relationship.

2. Because finances get co-mingled.

(For the record, I had to get rid of my ex-wife because she was a financial parasite who spent me broke.)

[anonymousbastard]

Ouch sorry about that hope your back on track.

[Curmudgeon]

Thanks, I think I am now, but I am still in the financial hole a bit.

[anonymousbastard]

May I ask how much debt are you in?

[Curmudgeon]

About $155,000

[anonymousbastard]

Damn take her to court lol.

[Curmudgeon]

I would sue her, if she had anything to take. She squandered what I gave her and doesn't really have anything to take. Especially after taking legal fees into account.

[gemglam]

wow $155,000 will you marry me? Weren't you watching the books closely what happened dude?

[Curmudgeon]

She tried starting a business, and I foolishly financed it. At least I have a massive capital loss tax write-off! :-P

[native65]

It's called control...F*** that! I take out the bill money, she takes out her bill money.. What ever is left from my pay is mine I spend it how I like, she does the same with hers...

[may04]

If it's a shared bank account, then they BOTH should be asking each other if something is worth investing in, even if only ONE person is making the money, it goes with the whole "what's yours is mine and mine is yours" commitment when getting married (as for girlfriend, it would be a case by case basis). If bank accounts are kept separate, everything is split 50/50, and a guy still has the money to buy whatever it is he wants, then I don't see why permission would be needed.

[anonymousbastard]

Not saying I would never trust my feature GF/Wife (if I ever get one), but I would be afraid of her leaving me and taking my money.

[may04]

I don't have a fear of someone running with my money, but I think finances should be kept separate (married or not). Keeps things easier in my opinion

My parents have been married for over 30 years, my dad makes all the money, but my mom balances the expenses, it seems to work well for them. Ultimately, there needs to be a mutual understanding between the couple when it comes to spending.

[CrystalMinds]

I think in relationships where both parties work and pay the bills, there should be conversations and approval of buying expensive or big things. When you say to your man that you're going on a shoppingspree, he knows that chances are a lot of money will be spent. Same as when you guys want a new TV or something, we know you're not gonna come home with a $100 tv.

I do think there should be a limit on things, like when you go shopping that you don't spend half your paycheck in one afternoon, but that you set a limit. So many problems and fights come from money issues and I think money shouldn't be a reason a couple breaks up.

[gemglam]

When a couple decides to get married, everything they do should be in consideration of the other person. A marriage means two coming as one therefore communication is key. If a lot more marriages had that these days their wouldn't be so many divorces or fiscal problems to that matter. It is a form of respect to let your spouse know what's going to affect them as well. If you chose to spend money thinking all the bills were paid and she didn't pay them yet, you are both f***ed and vice versa. Especially when they have a joint account. I think it is a selfish person (wife or husband) who just does things without their partner knowing, it doesn't matter what it is and selfishness has no place in a marriage.

[Amb-iguous]

When your married your assets are completely shared so I think consulting each other on big purchases/investments is common curtesy. My parents both work, and while my dad earns more my mum is the one who does the accounts so his consulting her is pretty important.

[Moloch]

Because they start b!tching. After a while it gets so annoying that you just want to avoid the confrontation.

[anonymousbastard]

That is true but still who the f*** do, they think they are? LOL.

[Moloch]

Dunno. The way I see it, that's my money. The only way that can be justified is if the man starts buying things to the point where he can't pay the bills.

[anonymousbastard]

Good point but a little purchased shouldn't hurt the wallet. 95% of the mall is for women.

[Moloch]

LOL true. Take me to Sharper Image, Foot Locker, and Macy's and I'm done.

[CasaNorba]

it just shows you how p****whipped guys are now a days

[ilovebender]

The same reason some women need permission from their husbands because the other is a control freak.

[Bluegameroyon]

He could be a hardcore spender. In that case, the wife is the limiter for the husband's spending.

[NonchalantBro]

they're smart?